English. Allen Carr.
Easy way to leave off smoking.
Preface.
So, at last magic medicine for which all smokers waited is found:
• Instant.
• Effective and for heavy smokers.
• Without strong torments of disaccustoming.
• Without will power tension.
• Without shock therapy.
• Not demanding supportive applications and smart tricks.
• Not leading to typesetting of weight.
• Long-term.
• If you — the smoker, everything that you have to make — to read.
If you — non-smoking also buy the book for those whom you love, everything that you have to make, is to convince them to read it.
If you are not able to convince them, then read it, and the final chapter will advise as you will be able to inform of the main idea of the book relatives and also how to hold from smoking of your children.
Be not deceived by the fact that now they hate smoking.
All children hate it, will not become addicted yet.
In Kind Book publishing house my book "How to Help the Teenager to Leave Off Smoking" is published.
Prevention.
Perhaps, you are rather afraid to read this book a little.
Perhaps, the thought to leave off smoking brings you, as well as into most of smokers, into panic, and though you resolved to leave off smoking one day, this day — precisely not today.
If you wait that I will begin to tell you about terrible risk for health to which smokers are exposed, or that for many years smoking they whittle away on it a fortune, or that smoking is a vulgar, repulsive habit, and you — a silly, weak-willed mattress, then I have to disappoint you.
Similar tactics never helped to leave off smoking to me and if it could help you — you would throw for a long time.
My way which further I will call "An easy way" works absolutely in a different way.
Perhaps, you will be difficult to believe in something from this what I am going to speak about.
However by that moment when you read this book, you not only will believe in it, but will even be perplexed how it you were once so "bullshitted" that you trusted in something else.
There is a common delusion that ourselves make this choice — to smoke.
Smokers decide to become smokers not more than alcoholics — to become alcoholics, and the addicts who are pricked heroin — to become addicts.
Yes, the truth, we decided to begin to smoke the first trial cigarettes.
From time to time I decide to go to the cinema, but, of course, I do not make the decision to spend many years at movie theater.
Please, look back to the life.
Whether you kogdanibud made the conscious decision that in certain moments of life you will not be able to take pleasure from a lunch or a meeting with friends, without having lit?
And what you will not be able to concentrate or cope with a stress without cigarette?
At what stage of life you decided that cigarettes are necessary to you not only for secular meetings, but that it is necessary to have them in a pocket constantly, or you will uncertainly feel and even to panic?
You, as well as any other smoker, enticed into the most terrible and smart trap which was invented together the person and the nature.
On the planet there is no parent, not very well, the smoker or non-smoking which will like the idea about smoking of his children.
It means that all smokers regret that they once began to smoke:
before becoming addicted to smoking, nobody needs cigarettes to derive pleasure from food or to cope with a stress.
At the same time all smokers want to continue to smoke.
Nobody can force us to light;
consciously or unconsciously — we make this decision.
If there was a magic button, having pressed which smokers could wake up the next morning as though they never began to smoke the first cigarette, then the teenagers staying at an experiment stage would remain the only smokers on the earth.
The only thing that keeps us from leaving off smoking — FEAR!
Fear that on the way to freedom we should endure vaguely long period of sufferings, deprivations and unsatisfied desires.
Fear that without cigarette, without this small support, ever any more neither food, nor a meeting with friends will bring us pleasure.
Fear that we will never be able to concentrate, cope with a stress or to be self-assured.
Fear that our personality and character will change.
But most of all we are afraid that we became slaves forever and we will never be released completely, and for the rest of the life we will carry out, dreaming of an accidental cigarette.
If you, as well as I, once, already tried all traditional ways of throwing to smoke and passed through all sufferings of what I call "a will power method", then you not only fall under influence of this fear, but also are sure that you will never be able to leave off smoking.
If you are afraid, experience confusion or feel that now the most wrong time to leave off smoking — allow me to assure you that your fears and confusion are caused by fear.
That fear which is not removed by means of cigarettes and it is only generated by them.
You did not make the decision to get into a nicotinic trap?
But as well as all traps, she is suited so that you could not get out of it.
Wonder:
when you, as an experiment, began to smoke the first cigarette, you made the decision to become the smoker for all that period of time which you smoke since then?
So, when you are going to throw?
Tomorrow?
Next year?
Stop to deceive yourself!
The trap is designed so that you remained in it for the rest of life.
How you think for what else reason all other smokers do not leave off smoking before smoking kills them?
For the first time this book was published by Penguin publishing house more than ten years ago, and since then every year became the best-seller.
All these ten years I correspond with readers.
As it appears from this correspondence, the efficiency of a way exceeded my most courageous expectations.
Besides, letters of readers allowed to find two problems causing in me concern.
Later I will dwell upon the second of them, and the first follows from the letters received by me.
There are typical examples:
"I did not believe the statements made by you and I apologize for the fact that I doubted you.
It was very easy and pleasant — everything as you spoke.
I presented copies of your book to all my smoking friends and relatives, but I cannot understand why they do not read it".
"Eight years ago my friend who was a smoker gave me your book, but I was going to read it just now.
I am sorry only about one:
I lost a gift eight years".
"I just stopped reading "An easy way".
There passed only four days, and I already so wonderfully feel!
It is sure that to me will never want to be smoked again.
For the first time I began to read your book five years ago, read to the middle and began to panic.
I knew that if continued reading, I should leave off smoking.
As I was silly!" Is not present, this girl is not silly at all.
I already mentioned the magic button.
My method works likewise.
"Easy way" — not magic, however for me and hundreds of thousands of former smokers who found how easily and pleasantly to leave off smoking — it looks a real miracle!
And now prevention.
The reasoning on egg and chicken is applicable to our situation [1].
Each smoker wants to leave off smoking, and each smoker can find out as far as it is easy and pleasant:
to try to throw interferes with them only fear.
Disposal of this fear — the biggest acquisition.
And vice versa:
as in a case with the girl from a recent example, in process of reading the book the fear can grow and prevent you to read it up to the end.
Yes, you did not make the decision to fall into a trap, but to get out of it, it is necessary to make the decision.
Perhaps, you already try to dump a bridle and to stop smoking, but the fear overcomes you.
Please, remember the main thing:
anyway, whatever way you chose, YOU HAVE nothing to LOSE!
If at the end of reading you decide that you want to continue to smoke, nothing will be able to prevent you.
While you read this book, there is no need to reduce or stop smoking.
Also remember — there is no shokoterapiya, I have for you exclusively good news!
May you present how the count Monte Cristo when he, at last, managed to escape from the prison felt?
Quite so also I felt, having got out of a nicotinic trap.
Quite so millions of former smokers using my method feel.
You WILL FEEL QUITE SO AND YOU by the end of reading this book!
STRIVE FOR THIS GOAL!
Introduction.
"I AM GOING to CURE the WHOLE WORLD OF SMOKING" I talked to the wife.
She decided that I slightly went balmy.
Absolutely clear reaction if to take into account that she witnessed all my numerous unsuccessful attempts to leave off smoking.
The latest took place in two years before.
I managed to sustain six months of continuous tortures before I at last gave up and lit.
I am not ashamed to admit that I cried as the child.
I cried as I knew that I am sentenced to remain a smoker for the rest of the life.
I put so many forces in that attempt and experienced so many sufferings that knew:
I any more will never have forces again to pass through it test.
I do not differ in cruel temper, but if some careful non-smoking at that moment it would be so silly to begin to talk profusely that all smokers consider what to leave off smoking at once and forever — it is easy, I could not be responsible for the actions.
However I am convinced that any list of jurors in the world consisting of smokers would pardon me, having justified the murder committed by me.
Perhaps, it seems to you absolutely impossible to believe that any smoker can find out suddenly how it is easy to leave off smoking.
If so, I beg you not to throw out this book in a recycle bin.
Please, believe me.
I assure you, even you will find out that it is easy to leave off smoking.
So, from this point there passed two years.
I just extinguished a cigarette which as I already knew, will become the last.
I told the wife not only the fact that already became non-smoking, but also that I am going to cure the whole world.
Has to recognize that at that time her scepticism strongly irritated me.
However it was not reflected in my enthusiastic state in any way.
I think, my delight from knowledge that I already became happy non-smoking, to some extent confused her.
Now, looking back in the past, I can understand the wife's relation to my delight:
now I understand why Joyce, close friends and relatives considered me the candidate for patients of narcological clinic.
Looking back at the life, I see that all my existence, apparently, was only preparation for a solution of the problem of smoking.
Even hated years of training and work as the accountant were invaluable for me as smoking traps helped to reveal secrets.
They say that it is impossible to fool constantly all surrounding, but I think that the tobacco companies are engaged in it.
Still I consider myself the first person who really understood how this trap is arranged.
If I seem to you self-confident, allow to add that it is more likely not my merit, and just combination of circumstances of my life.
Important date became for me on July 15, 1983.
I did not run away from Château d'If, but I think that those who managed it had a similar feeling of freedom and enthusiasm, as well as I when extinguished the last cigarette.
I understood that I found what each smoker prays for:
easy way to leave off smoking.
Having checked the method on the smoking friends and relatives, I threw accounting and began to work as the consultant, helping other smokers to be exempted from nicotine addiction.
I wrote the first edition of this book in 1985.
My failure — the man about whom I will tell in the 25th chapter became a reason for it.
It came to me twice, and every time we made each other cry.
He was so excited that I did not manage to force it to relax to understand what I tell.
I hoped that if I write down all this on paper, he will be able to read these records in time, convenient for it, so many time how many he will want, and it will help it to understand my main idea.
I did not doubt at all that "The easy way" will affect other smokers also effectively, as well as me.
Nevertheless, considering statement of the method in the form of the book, I strongly was afraid of failure.
I conducted an independent market research, and its results were not too encouraging:
"How the book can help me to leave off smoking?
Everything that it is necessary for me, is a will power!" "As the book can minimize terrible sufferings of disaccustoming"?
In addition to these pessimistic comments, I had also own doubts.
In clinic it becomes frequent obvious that the patient misunderstood any important sense or emphasis placed by me.
But there I could correct a situation.
And how the book will be able to make it?
I well remembered time of the study for the sake of the diploma of the accountant when did not understand or did not agree with a certain thought in the text, and the disappointment that it is impossible to ask explanations for the book.
Besides I was aware of what many people did not get used to read at all especially now, during an era of television and video.
Besides, I had one more, the main thing, doubt.
I was not a writer and well understood the restrictions in this regard.
I was sure that sitting face to face with the smoker I will be able to convince him, meetings with friends will become how more pleasant, how better he or she will be able to concentrate and cope with a stress both how easy and pleasant there can be a process of refusal of smoking.
But whether I will be able to transfer this conviction to the book?
I doubted even whether I have the right to state "An easy way" in the form of the book and whether I should not employ the professional writer.
I was not sure of success of the conceived business at all.
Fortunately, gods were favorable to me.
I received thousands of letters of thanks which contained even such estimates:
"It is the greatest of ever the written books".
"You — my teacher".
"You — the genius!" "You have to be devoted in knights".
"You have to become prime minister".
"You — the Saint".
I hope that did not allow similar statements to make me conceited.
I am aware that all these statements were stated at all not to give me a compliment concerning my literary abilities, and it is rather contrary to their absence.
They were made because the Easy Way system (whether you address to clinic or just you read the book) works!
Today we have worldwide network of clinics "Easy Way", and this book is translated more than into 20 languages.
About a year of the management of clinics in which it is possible to leave off smoking later I thought that I learned everything that it is only possible to learn about how to help smokers.
Surprisingly, but within 14 years which passed from the moment of opening of my way I learn something new almost every day.
This fact caused in me some concern when I was asked to reconsider the first edition of the book six years later after its publication.
I was afraid that I should change or delete practically everything written.
However I should not have worried.
The fundamental principles of "An easy way" are also effective and reliable today as well as when I for the first time opened it.
The truth still is in what to LEAVE OFF SMOKING — EASILY!
So, it is the obvious fact.
The only complexity — to convince of it each smoker.
But all knowledge which I acquired for more than 14 years of work help me to give to each smoker an opportunity to make sure of it.
In clinics we seek to achieve absolute result.
When smokers fail, they tend to consider it as own.
We regard it as our failure, considering that it to us was not succeeded to convince them of that, it is how easy and pleasant to leave off smoking.
I devoted the first edition of the book to people whom I could not cure.
In case of failure we return to the smoker his money, and we estimate efficiency of the work on this indicator.
Today failures in all network of clinics average less than 5% worldwide.
It means that the efficiency of application of a method exceeds 95%.
Though I was also sure that I opened something improbable, never, even in the most impudent dreams, did not expect that I will reach similar efficiency.
You can fairly object to it that if I sincerely believed that I can cure the whole world of smoking, then would have to reach 100% of efficiency!
No, I never so thought.
Once tobacco shuffing until this habit became asocial was the most popular form of nicotine addiction and died.
However still there are odd fellows who continue to smell tobacco, and they will probably be always.
It is interesting that one of the last bastions of shuffing of tobacco — the English Parliament.
However, there is no wonder, if to remember that politicians in general lag behind the times approximately on one hundred years.
Therefore there will be strange people who will continue to smoke.
Of course, I never assumed that I will be able personally to cure all smokers.
It seemed to me that after I reveal secrets of a trap of smoking and I will discredit such illusions as:
• Smokers enjoy smoking;
• Smokers make the conscious decision to smoke;
• Smoking wins against boredom and a stress;
• Smoking helps to concentrate and relax;
• Smoking is a habit;
• To leave off smoking, the will power is necessary;
• Having begun to smoke once, you will never be able to throw;
• It is necessary to remind the smoker that smoking kills him constantly;
• Smoking substitutes (in particular, nicotine substitutes) help to leave off smoking.
And, the main thing when I discredit delusion about what to leave off smoking — difficult, and the transition period of pain and sufferings is inevitable, then (as I fondly believed) the remained world will believe me and will accept my way.
Then it seemed to me that the tobacco industry will become my main opponent.
Amazingly, but those public institutes which as I thought, will become my main allies became the main stumbling blocks:
mass media, Government, public organizations (ASH[2], QUIT[3], etc.) and traditional medicine.
Perhaps, you watched the movie "Sister of Kenya".
It was devoted to that time when the children's poliomyelitis leading to paralysis was a trouble against which were not able to fight at all.
I very well remember that these words caused in me the same fear that today the word causes "cancer".
Poliomyelitis led not only to paralysis of legs and hands, but also to deformation of extremities.
As a traditional method of treatment it was offered to place extremities in fetters, and, thus, to warn them a curvature.
In practice it led to lifelong paralysis.
The sister of Kenya considered that fetters slow down recovery.
She more than one thousand times proved that muscles can be trained again and that the child will be able to go again.
However the sister of Kenya was not a doctor, but only the nurse.
How did she dare to interfere in the area intended only for certified specialists?
Therefore did not treat the solution found by the sister of Kenya seriously.
Children whom it cured, knew that she is right, knew about it and their parents, however the traditional medicine not only refused to accept its methods of treatment, but also discharged it of medical practice.
Before doctors recognized obvious, there passed 20 years.
For the first time I watched this movie still before opened "An easy way".
The movie was very interesting and, undoubtedly, truthful.
Nevertheless, it was obvious that Hollywood introduced the share of lyrical digressions in this story.
It is unlikely the sister of Kenya opened something what difficult knowledge of medical science could not reach.
Naturally, the traditional practicing doctors could not be such monsters by what they are shown in the movie.
Unless they could not admit the obvious facts within twenty years?
They say, the truth is much more surprising than fiction.
I apologize to authors of the movie "Sister of Kenya" for charges of artistic licenses.
But even in our educated century of modern means of communication, having access to modern means of communication, I could not inform of the thought and in fourteen years.
I, of course, proved own case:
the only reason for which you read this book is in what to you was recommended by her other former smoker.
I have no such powerful funds, as at the British medical Association, ASH or QUIT.
Like the sister of Kenya, I am a single.
As well as it, I am known only because my method really works.
As well as the sister of Kenya, I argued the point of view.
It is fine that the sister of Kenya managed to prove the case.
What would be with the world if all of us still used the techniques which are not leading to recovery?
This book comes to an end with the same words, as in initial edition:
"In society blew softly changes.
The snowball already began to grow, and, I hope that by means of this book it will turn into an avalanche".
From everything that is told above, you could decide that I do not respect doctors at all.
Nothing can be farther from the truth, than this statement.
One of my sons — the doctor, and I do not know a profession more nobly.
In our clinics we receive more recommendations from doctors, than from any other sources;
moreover, among patients of our clinics most of all representatives of medical professions, than any other.
Earlier doctors, as a rule, considered me someone average between the charlatan and the sorcerer.
In August, 1997 I had a great honor to give a lecture at the Tenth World conference "Tobacco and Health" which was taking place in Beijing.
I think that became the first who received similar honor, without being the diplomaed doctor, and this invitation in itself — assessment of the progress made by me.
However equally well I could give a lecture and before a brick wall.
Since the attempt to solve smoking problem by means of nicotinic chewing gum and a nicotinic plaster a complete fiasco turned out, it seems even smokers recognized that it is impossible to recover from drug addiction, applying the same drug.
It is all the same what to tell the addict who became addicted to heroin:
do not smoke heroin, smoking is dangerous, try to enter heroin directly into a vein (only do not try to make something similar with nicotine, it will at once kill you)!
As the traditional medicine and mass media have no idea of how to help people to leave off smoking, they focused that they already know:
smoking is unhealthy, it is vulgar and disgusting, it is an antisocial and expensive habit.
It seems, never came to their mind that people smoke at all not those reasons which they would have not smoke!
The real solution consists in elimination of the true reasons which people smoke.
In national anti-nicotinic days from lips of medical experts we hear approximately following:
"Today that day when all smokers seek to leave off smoking!" At the same time each smoker knows:
actually it is that special day in a year when most of smokers smoke twice more, than usually, and twice more defiantly.
Naturally, it is not pleasant to them when somebody specifies what they have to do (especially when it is told by the people holding smokers for complete fools and not understanding at all why those smoke).
As they do not understand smokers at all and do not know how it is possible to facilitate process of refusal of smoking, their relation to a problem is as follows:
"Try this way.
If it does not work, try another".
Whether it is possible to imagine that in the world there are ten different ways of treatment of appendicitis?
If according to nine of them 10% of patients recover, it means that these ways simply kill with 90% of patients, and the tenth way cures 95%.
Now present that knowledge of the tenth way well more than fourteen years, and the vast majority of physicians still recommend others nine.
One doctor who was present at a conference brought up very important question which earlier was not coming to my mind.
He paid attention that doctors can quite be subject to prosecution for professional negligence as do not offer the patients the best way to leave off smoking.
The irony was that he was a zealous supporter of treatment by nicotinosubstitutes (nicotinic chewing gum, plasters and so on).
I very much try not to be vindictive, but I hope that it will fall the first victim of own offer.
As I already mentioned, the U.S. Government just spent 2, 5 million dollars on the television shock campaign directed to belief of youth not to become dependent on smoking.
Equally well it could spend this money, trying to convince youth that motorcycles can kill them.
Really they do not understand that teenagers know that the cigarette will not kill them and that none of them never assumed that he will become addicted to nicotine.
Communication between smoking and lung cancer was established more than forty years ago, but, nevertheless, today more and more young people become dependent on smoking.
There is no youth need to watch on TV "horror films" about nicotine addiction.
Anyway, smokers seek to avoid similar programs.
Practically each teenager in the country became the witness of the real drama caused by smoking in own family.
I observed how tobacco destroyed my father and the sister;
however it did not save me from hit in a trap.
In one national television program I acted together with the doctor from the ASH organization which consists from never smoking and which did not manage to cure any smoker.
She categorically said to all nation that this television campaign will save youth from smoking.
If the government had common sense and transferred these 2, 5 million dollars to me, then I would finance a campaign which would guarantee death of nicotine addiction within several years.
I sincerely believe that the snowball already reached the soccerball sizes.
However there passed fourteen years — and all this still a drop in the ocean.
I am grateful to thousands of former smokers who visited my clinics, read my book, watched my videos, recommended "An easy way" to friends, relatives and all who were ready to listen to them, and ask them to continue to do it.
However this snowball will not turn into an avalanche until doctors and mass media do not cease to recommend the methods complicating refusal of smoking and do not recognize that "The easy way" is not just one more way:
IT IS THE ONLY EFFECTIVE WAY WHICH SHOULD BE USED!
I do not wait that you will believe me at this stage, but by that moment when you read the book, you will understand.
Even those few smokers who failed at us say:
"I did not achieve the objective yet, but your way is much more effective, than any other which I know".
If after reading of the book you feel that you have before me a gratitude debt, you can return it a hundredfold.
Not only the fact that you will recommend "An easy way" to friends, but also that when you saw the television program, or heard a broadcast, or read article in the newspaper promoting other method write or call authors and ask a question:
"Why they do not support "An easy way"?" Your actions will lay the foundation for an avalanche, and if I live and I will become the witness of it, I will die the happy person.
The purpose of the present edition of "An easy way" is to provide you modern achievements of the offered method.
Did you have a feeling of despondency and inevitability of destiny?
Forget!
In the life I achieved many remarkable results, however escape from slavery of nicotine addiction was the most grandiose.
I managed to be released more than fourteen years ago, and I cannot still get used to feeling of joy that I am free.
There is no need to be depressed, there is nothing awful — opposite, you should receive what any smoker on the planet would like to receive:
TO BECOME FREE!
1.
I should begin the most hard case of nicotine addiction which I ever faced Perhaps with confirmation of the competence.
No, I am not a doctor and not the psychiatrist, but in the field of knowledge interesting us I can be considered as a professional.
I lived thirty three years of the life as the heavy smoker.
In recent years before leaving off smoking, I smoked not less than sixty cigarettes a day in any way, and in especially difficult days — to one hundred.
For the life I made a lot of attempts to leave off smoking.
Once I did not even smoke six months, but continued to climb on a wall, still stuck to closer to subject who smokes, trying to catch a tobacco smell, still preferred to travel in smoking cars.
In terms of health for most of smokers the problem is as follows:
"Whether I will leave off smoking before it happens to me?" I already reached that stage when it became sure that smoking kills me.
I felt the constant headache which is followed by infinite cough.
I felt a continuous pulsation in the vein passing vertically in the center of a forehead and sincerely believed that at any time in my head vessels can burst, and I will die of a cerebral hemorrhage.
It disturbed me, but did not stop.
I reached that stage when stopped trying even to throw.
Not because took it pleasure from smoking.
During some period of time most of smokers suffer from illusion of the fact that they derive pleasure from an accidental cigarette, but I never suffered from similar delusion.
I always hated taste and a smell of cigarettes, but considered that they help me to relax.
They gave me courage and self-confidence, and always when I tried to leave off smoking, became unfortunate and could not imagine the life full of pleasures, without cigarette.
After all, the wife sent me to a gipnoterapevt.
Has to admit that was always skeptical about hypnosis, at that time without knowing anything about it.
I imagined the person, similar Svengali [4], with acute eyes and the shaken pendulum.
I had all those usual illusions about smoking which each smoker has, except for one:
I knew for sure that I am not a weak-willed person.
I quite controlled all parties of the life, however cigarettes dominated over me.
I considered that hypnosis includes violence over will, and, though did not interfere with the events (as well as to most of smokers, I really wanted to throw), but believed that nobody will manage to fool me and to prove that I have no need for smoking.
The session was waste of time.
Gipnoterapevt tried to force me to raise hands and to do other various things.
It turned out that plainly nothing is impossible:
I did not lose consciousness, was not put in trance (at least, did not think that it occurred).
And still I not only left off smoking after that session of hypnosis, but also drew a conclusion that this process (including the disaccustoming period) — is pleasant.
Now, before you will dart off and will run to a gipnoterapevt, allow to clear something.
Hypnotherapy is a means of communication.
Having received the wrong message, you will not leave off smoking.
I do not want to criticize the doctor whom saw behind consultation, as if not he, then I would be already dead by the present moment.
But everything occurred contrary to, but not thanks to it.
I also do not want to seem attacking hypnotherapy;
on the contrary, I use it as a part of the consultations held by me.
Hypnotherapy — the suggestion force, and powerful force which can be used both for the good, and to the detriment.
Never address a gipnoterapevt if it was not recommended to you by someone whom you respect and to whom you trust.
During the whole those awful years when I was a smoker, I considered that my life depends on cigarettes.
I was ready to die rather, than to do without them.
Today people ask me whether there are at me sometime strange severe pains.
I answer:
never, never, never!
It is rather on the contrary, I do not have them any more, and I lead wonderful life.
If I died of smoking, I, of course, would not complain any more.
I was very happy though the most surprising that I happened to me in life — release from this nightmare, from the slave dependence forcing me to go on life, systematically destroying the body and paying a fantastic sum for this doubtful privilege.
Allow me to place from the very beginning all points over "i":
I am not a mystical figure.
I do not believe in sorcerers or fairies.
I have quite skeptical mind, but what happened to me, I cannot interpret differently as magic.
I began to study specially everything, as for hypnosis and smoking.
It seemed, nothing from read can explain the happened miracle.
Why this time it was so easy, easy to leave off smoking to ridiculous if earlier it was followed by weeks of a black depression?
Dealing with all this, at me long time, generally left because I rose to business incorrectly.
I tried to find out why it was so easy to leave off smoking while the main problem was in trying to explain the reason for which it is heavy to smokers to leave off smoking.
Smokers tell about awful torments of the period of disaccustoming, but, looking back and trying to remember the terrible sufferings, I make sure that they were not.
I had no physical pain.
Everything occurred only in mind.
Now I am constantly busy, helping people to get rid of this addiction.
And I quite manage it, I helped to recover already to thousands of smokers.
I want to emphasize the main thing at once:
incorrigible smokers do not exist.
Still did not meet anybody who also strongly would become addicted to smoking (or more likely considered that it has the same strong dependence) as I.
Any person can not only leave off smoking, but also make sure that to make it — easily.
Generally us the fear forces to smoke:
fear that life without cigarettes will never be so pleasant, and fear to feel deprived of something necessary.
When you leave off smoking, you will have only one question:
"Why I smoked so long?" And now allow me to make prevention.
"The easy way" assumes only two reasons for possible failure:
1.
INABILITY TO FOLLOW INSTRUCTIONS.
Some are irritated by my categoriality concerning certain recommendations.
For example, I urge that you did not try to reduce quantity of the smoked cigarettes or to use substitutes (candies, chewing gum already similar, especially — everything that contains nicotine).
I am so categorical because well I know the subject.
I do not deny that there are many people who managed to leave off smoking by use of similar tricks, but they threw despite them, but not thanks to them.
There are people who can make love, standing on a hummock, but it is not the most pleasant way for this entertainment.
Everything that I tell you, has one purpose:
to make refusal of smoking easy and, thus, to provide success.
2.
INABILITY TO UNDERSTAND.
Do not take everything on trust.
In the questions connected with smoking call in question not only my words, but also own views, and what taught you society to.
For example, those from you who considers smoking just a habit should ask themselves a question:
"Why it is easy to refuse other habits, even pleasant, and this habit which has a disgusting taste which costs us a pretty penny and, at last, just kills us — so difficultly to get rid?" 2.
The easy way Purpose of This Book is to create at you such spirit that you at once felt the joy overflowing you as though you recovered from a terrible disease.
In it difference of my method from usual ways of throwing to smoke, following which you begin to fight against smoking with such feeling as if you clamber to Everest, and within several next weeks live, grieving about a cigarette and desperately envying other smokers.
Following "An easy way", you will begin to look at cigarettes soon enough and to be perplexed how you once could smoke them.
Instead of envying smokers, you will look at them with pity.
It is very important not to leave off smoking until you read all book entirely if only you neither the non-smoking, nor the former smoker.
This wish can seem contradictory, but later I by all means will explain that cigarettes give nothing to you at all.
Moreover, one of many puzzles connected with smoking is that at that very moment when we smoke a cigarette, we look at it and try to understand why do it.
The cigarette only then gets for us the real value when we it are deprived.
However let's recognize:
whether you like it or not, you know that you — "on a hook".
As soon as you believe in this "hook", to you any more never completely to relax and to concentrate without cigarette.
Therefore do not try to leave off smoking, you will not read all book yet.
In process of reading your desire will gradually smoke to decrease.
Only do not jump off the deep end — do not begin to act ahead of time as this decision can be fatal.
You remember:
everything that from you is required — to follow instructions.
The responses of readers which are saved up in twelve years which passed from the moment of the first publication of the book demonstrates that this wish — to continue to smoke, you will not read all book yet — became the reason of bigger disappointment, than any other.
When I for the first time left off smoking, my many relatives and friends threw too — only because it was made by me.
They thought:
"If he could make it, then any will be able".
For many years by means of simple receptions I managed to convince even those who did not think of how it is wonderful — to be free from nicotine addiction!
After the book was published for the first time, I distributed several copies to inveterate smokers who still took pleasure, starting up a cigarette smoke in the sky.
I was sure that even if it is the most boring book in the world, all of them will read it, at least because it was written by their friend.
Several months later I was surprised and upset, having learned that they did not work it to read.
Moreover, I found out that the one whom I considered then as the best friend and to whom signed and presented a copy of the book not only did not read it, but also gave someone to another.
At that time I was deeply touched with it, however did not attach significance yet to that all-consuming fear which is inspired by slave dependence on tobacco in each smoker.
This fear is stronger than friendship.
Once it nearly provoked my divorce.
Once my mother asked my wife:
"Why don't you intimidate the husband what you will throw him if he does not cease to smoke?" What my wife answered:
"Because he will throw me if I make it".
It is a shame to recognize, but she was right — the fear which generates in us smoking is so strong.
Now I understand that many smokers do not read up the book just because feel:
they should leave off smoking when they read up it.
Some of them purposely read on a line to delay terrible day.
Today I am aware that at my many readers hands as people whom they love force to read the book them are tied.
Look at a situation from a different perspective:
what do you lose?
If you do not leave off smoking by the end of the book, you will not become worse, than is now.
YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE, AND YOU CAN GET VERY MUCH!
By the way, if you did not smoke within several days or weeks, but still are not sure who you are:
the smoker, the former smoker or non-smoking, try not to smoke while you read.
Actually, you already — non-smoking!
Everything that we should make now, it to bring your brain into consent with your body.
By the end of the book you will become happy non-smoking.
In the basis my method — the complete antithesis to a usual way to leave off smoking.
The normal (usual) way consists in drawing up the list of obvious negative sides of smoking and belief of:
"If I am able to hold on long enough without cigarette, desire to smoke will pass.
Then I will start over again enjoying life, being free from nicotine addiction".
It is a logical way to put an end to smoking, and every day thousands of smokers leave off smoking by means of numerous variations of this method.
However to achieve success, following it, it is very difficult for the following reasons:
1.
The real problem — not a problem of throwing to smoke.
Every time, having extinguished a cigarette, you leave off smoking.
In some day you can give convincing arguments and tell:
"I do not want to smoke any more".
Each smoker has such arguments in any day of his life, and they are much more powerful, than you can imagine.
The real problem is in what for the second, tenth or ten-thousand day, at the moment of weakness, triumph or just be drunk, you light one cigarette and as smoking to some extent — drug addiction, you want to light another, then one more and suddenly again become the smoker.
2.
Care of own health would have to stop us.
Our mind prompts:
"Leave off smoking, the idiot!", however as a result it becomes more difficult to throw even.
We smoke, for example, when we are nervous, but tell smokers that smoking kills them, and the first that they will make — will light a cigarette.
3.
All arguments actually considerably complicate refusal of smoking for two reasons.
First, the feeling of a sacrifice as us force to refuse "the little friend", either a support, or small defect or pleasure, how it is regarded by the smoker is created.
Secondly, they put on on us "blinders":
the reasons which we smoke differ from on what we should leave off smoking.
Here is how the main issue sounds:
"Why we need smoking"?
The easy way to leave off smoking consists in the following:
let's forget about those reasons because of which we would like to leave off smoking, and we will look at smoking problem generally and we will ask ourselves the following questions:
1.
What does smoking give me?
2.
Whether really I derive from it pleasure?
3.
Really I actually want to go on life, paying a fantastic sum only for choking, thrusting these thingummies into a mouth?
Good news are that smoking is absolute nothing to you gives.
Allow to explain this thought.
I say not that smoking shortcomings considerably outweigh its positive sides;
all smokers know about it.
I mean that smoking has no advantages.
The social (communicative and informal) background was the only positive side of smoking once;
today even smokers believe that smoking — an antisocial habit.
Most of smokers consider it necessary to rationalize to the smoking, however the arguments given by them are delusions and illusions.
So, the first that we will make — we will discredit these delusions and illusions.
You will come to understanding that, as a matter of fact, and to refuse there is nothing.
Not only there is nothing what you should refuse, but moreover:
being non-smoking, there are obvious benefits (money and health — only two of them).
As soon as illusion is discredited that life never will be so pleasant without cigarette any more;
as soon as you realize that life not only is so pleasant without nicotine, and it is infinite more pleasantly;
as soon as the feeling of deprivation or melancholy for a cigarette disappears — we will return to health and money again and also to ten other reasons for refusal of smoking.
This understanding will serve you as additional support and will help to reach what you really want:
to enjoy the life free from slave nicotine addiction.
3.
Why it is difficult to leave off smoking?
As I already explained earlier, I became interested in this subject because of own addiction.
What I eventually after all left off smoking — a miracle.
Every time, making attempts to throw, I fell into the black depression lasting till several weeks.
There were also such days when I was rather joyful, but already next day the depression returned.
It was similar to attempt to get out of a slippery hole when you feel that you already at top, see sunlight, and then time — and again move down down, on a bottom.
Finally you get a light a cigarette — on taste it is absolutely awful — and try to understand why you are forced to make it.
Here one of questions which I always ask smokers prior to consultation:
"Do you want to leave off smoking?" In a sense, it is a silly question.
All smokers (including members of the FOREST [5] organization), of course, would like to leave off smoking.
Ask the heaviest smoker:
"If you returned back when you did not begin to depend on cigarettes yet, but with that knowledge which you possess now, you would begin to smoke?" "OF COURSE, is NOT PRESENT" — any will answer.
Ask the heaviest smoker — somebody who does not consider that smoking does harm to his health whom public censure does not worry and who can afford it (and such people today not so much):
"Do you encourage smoking of the children?" "OF COURSE, is NOT PRESENT" — any will answer.
All smokers feel that something devil owns them.
At the very beginning of smoking this statement:
"I will throw, but not today, and tomorrow".
As a result all of us reach that phase when we consider or that we have no will power or that the cigarette contains something necessary for pleasure life.
As I already spoke, the problem is not in explaining why it is easy to leave off smoking, and in understanding why it is difficult.
The main thing is to realize why most of people in general begins to smoke so in some timepoints more than 60 percent of the population of our planet were smokers.
The mechanism of the business connected with smoking does not give in to a rational explanation.
The only reason why we in general speak about it — thousands of people who are already involved in it.
At the same time each of them regrets that in general began to smoke, and it is convinced that smoking — waste of time and money.
Though, looking at smokers, it is difficult to believe that they do not derive pleasure.
Smoking is associated with the world of adults and therefore we diligently work that also to become addicted to it.
Then we tell all life to own children about what should not be smoked, and we try "to give up" this addiction.
Having begun to smoke, we for the rest of the life pay a fantastic sum for cigarettes.
The smoker smoking twenty cigarettes a day for the life spends about 50,000 pounds sterling [6].
What do we do with this money?
(Alas if we just lowered them in the sewerage)!
We use them for systematic filling of own lungs with cancerogenic pitches, gradually littering and poisoning the blood vessels.
Daily we force to experience oxygen starvation each muscle and each body of our body, becoming more and more sluggish.
We for life sentence ourselves to disgusting fetid breath, the darkened teeth, the burned clothes, smelly ashtrays and a stuffy smell of tobacco.
It is lifelong slavery.
Considerable part of our life passes in situations where society forbids us to smoke (church, hospitals, schools, subway cars, theaters and so on).
Trying to reduce quantity of the smoked cigarettes or in general to leave off smoking, we feel restrained.
We carry out other part of the life in situations in which it is allowed to smoke, but we also would like that it was forbidden.
Very strange hobby:
being engaged in it, you dream to stop and when you are not engaged — dream of it.
What for strange life when a half of society concerns you as to leprous?
And what is the most awful, such life is chosen to himself by the reasonable and adequate person in all other relations ... The smoker despises himself in each national day of refusal of smoking;
every time when accidentally reads prevention of the Ministry of Health;
when there take place campaigns for fight against cancer or for clean air;
when at it once again aches somewhere in a breast;
every time when it appears the only smoker in the company of non-smoking people.
Forced to live always with the consciousness saddened by feelings of fault and fear — what he receives in exchange?
ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING!
Pleasure?
Pleasure?
Discharge?
Support?
They are delusions if only you do not find enjoyable wearing close footwear for the pleasure arising when you take off it!
As I already spoke, the main problem — to try to understand not only why it is difficult for smokers to leave off smoking but also why in general someone in the world smokes.
Perhaps, you will tell:
"Well, I know all this, but when you become addicted to it, it becomes very difficult to throw".
But why it is difficult to leave off smoking and why we have to throw?
All the life smokers look for answers to these questions.
It is considered that process of disaccustoming from nicotine is followed by intolerable tortures.
In fact, physical sufferings in itself when disaccustoming from nicotine are so weak (see Chapter 6) that most of smokers lived life and died, even without having learned that they are addicts.
Some say that cigarettes give them pleasure.
Lie.
Everything that is connected with tobacco, quite in a disgusting way.
Ask any smoker who is sure that he smokes only because the cigarette gives him pleasure:
if he could not buy the habitual brand of cigarettes, and would get only those which usually considers disgusting — he will leave off smoking?
Yes smokers will begin to smoke an old rope rather, than will not smoke at all!
And the pleasure has with it nothing in common:
I like lobsters, but I have no need to stroll along the street, having at myself twenty lobsters.
In life there are a lot of different classes which bring us pleasure, but we do not feel deeply unfortunate only because we are not engaged in them at present.
Some look for the deep psychological background — "a Freudian syndrome", "the child at a maternal breast".
But actually all just the opposite:
as a rule, we begin to smoke, showing that grew and grew up.
If we had to suck a pacifier on public, we would die of confusion.
Some, on the contrary, see an image of "real man", "macho" here.
Abruptly — to exhale smoke or fire through nostrils!
This argument is also not reasonable:
the burning cigarette in an ear will seem ridiculous.
But inhalation of cancerogenic pitches in the lungs — is much more ridiculous!
Some say:
"It only with what I occupy hands!" But then why to get a light a cigarette?
"It only oral satisfaction".
And again:
why then to get a light a cigarette?
"This some pleasant feeling of the smoke coming to lungs".
But this terrible feeling — it is called "suffocation".
Many believe that smoking removes boredom.
It is deception too.
The boredom is a mentality, and in a cigarette there is nothing entertaining.
For me the belief that smoking relaxes me was an occasion to smoke within 33 years, gives me confidence and courage.
At the same time I knew that it kills me and "costs a pretty penny".
Why I did not go to the doctor and did not ask it to write out to me in exchange means which would allow me to relax, would give confidence and courage?
I did not go to the doctor as knew that he by all means will offer me alternative means.
And what I called "the cause of smoking" was only my justification.
Some say that they smoke only because their friends so do.
You are really so silly?
If so, then pray that your friends did not begin to cut off to themselves the heads to recover from a headache!
Most of the smokers thinking of it come, after all, to a conclusion that smoking — just a habit.
It not the real explanation, but if not to take all usual rational explanations into consideration, it is represented only remained.
Unfortunately, this representation in the same degree is illogical.
During life we regularly change habits though some of them bring us bigger pleasure.
To us properly "punched brains" that we believed that smoking — an addiction, and from a habit to refuse very difficult.
But whether really it is so difficult?
In Great Britain it is accepted to drive on the left side of the road.
However in Europe or in America we at once get rid of this habit without any any problem.
Statement that it is difficult to get rid of habits — pure deception.
Actually we daily get habits and we get rid of them.
So, why we consider that it is difficult to get rid of a habit which has a terrible taste and a smell which kills us and costs much to us, nasty and disgusting of which we dream to get rid if everything that from us it is required — to cease to do it?
The answer is simple:
smoking — not a habit, is NICOTINE ADDICTION!
As smokers do not understand that it is drug addiction, it seems to them that it is extraordinary difficult "to refuse" smoking.
The main reason for this complexity consists in their belief that they take genuine pleasure and/or support from smoking, and consider that will make the real sacrifice if leave off smoking.
I have for you good news:
having realized nicotine addiction and the true reasons of the smoking, you will leave off smoking "on three".
In three-four weeks you will be perplexed why you smoked so long and why you cannot convince other smokers of what to be NON-SMOKING — HAPPINESS!
4.
Artful trap.
Smoking — the most artful, most ominous trap created by joint efforts of the person and the nature.
Who pushes us to it first of all?
Thousands of smoking adults.
They even warn us that smoking — the repulsive habit destroying, after all, our organism and costing very much, but we cannot believe that they do not derive pleasure from this process.
One of funny aspects of smoking — the fact that it is necessary to try very much to become addicted to it.
It is the only trap in the nature in which there is no bait, even a tiny piece of cheese.
The trap slams not from the fact that the taste of cigarettes is delightful, and from the fact that it is disgusting.
If the taste of the first cigarette was pleasant, the disturbing precautionary call and as reasonable beings would ring out we would understand why a half of adult population systematically pays a fantastic sum for the fact that it poisons itself.
But as that first cigarette was disgusting, our youthful mind was quite calmed:
we will never become addicted to it as we do not derive any pleasure from cigarettes, so — we will be able to throw when we want.
It is the only drug in the nature which will not assume that you achieved the objectives.
Boys usually begin to smoke as want to look "abruptly", imitating Clint Eastwood's heroes.
The last that you feel from the first cigarette — the fact that you "are cool".
You do not venture to drag on properly and if smoke too much — will feel dizziness, and then nausea.
At this moment you would like to get away from other guys and to throw out these nasty cigarettes.
Girls want to look modern and experienced.
All of us saw them doing short inhalings, making at the same time a ridiculous impression.
By then, when boys will learn to look "cool", and girls — highly experienced, they will regret that they once began to smoke.
It is interesting to know whether really smoking gives to women of sophistication, or it is the image imposed by advertizing of cigarettes.
We will carry out the remained life in attempts to explain to ourselves why we smoke, telling children how not to get to a trap, and trying "to get stuck" from time to time.
But the trap is designed so that we try to throw only when we have the severe stress connected with health, a lack of money or the fact that us once again forced to feel leprous.
Having left off smoking, we begin to have a bigger stress, forcing ourselves to do without what hoped for stress relief for:
without our old friend — a cigarette.
After several days of tortures we come to the conclusion that chose a wrong time:
it is necessary to wait for that moment when we have no stress.
As soon as this thought comes to our mind, an occasion to leave off smoking completely disappears.
It is obvious that such time will never come — we know that life tends to become more and more intense.
When we leave from under a parental wing, natural process of creation of the house, accumulation of debts, the births of children, career development and so on already similar begins.
Thus, hoping for rest, we stay in illusion again.
Besides, it is known that the most stressful periods in life of any person — the early childhood and youth.
We confuse responsibility and a stress.
The smoker's life automatically becomes more intense as tobacco does not allow to relax and does not reduce stress as us society forces to believe.
All exactly the opposite:
actually smoking leads to the fact that you feel more and more nervously and tensely.
Those smokers who at least manage "to get stuck" once can be happy until again do not become dependent on nicotine.
All business connected with smoking reminds wandering in a huge labyrinth.
As soon as we enter it, our mind grows dim, and we carry out the remained life in attempts to be chosen.
Much of us it, after all, works well, but only again to get into a trap.
I spent 33 years, trying to get out of this labyrinth.
As well as all smokers, I did not understand it.
However because of a combination of unusual circumstances (any of which does not do me credit), I wanted to learn why throughout life it was so desperately difficult for me to leave off smoking, and my successful attempt was not only easy, but also pleasant.
From the moment of smoking termination (and later and my profession) the solution of many riddles connected with nicotine addiction became my hobby.
It is the most difficult and most fascinating puzzle which, as well as the Rubik's Cube, cannot almost be collected.
However, as well as in case of the majority of difficult puzzles if the decision is known to you — it is easy!
I know how to leave off smoking with ease.
I will bring you out of a labyrinth and I warrant that you any more will never come into it.
Everything that you have to do — to follow instructions.
If you curtail not there, all further recommendations will be senseless.
Allow to highlight:
to find out that it is easy to leave off smoking, any can, but at first it is necessary to establish all facts.
No, I do not mean the facts generating fear.
I am convinced that you are rather informed on harm of smoking.
If this knowledge stopped, you would already leave off smoking long ago.
I mean understanding of the reasons for which the refusal of smoking is represented to us very difficult.
To answer this question, it is necessary to establish the true reasons of why all of us still smoke.
5.
Why we continue to smoke?
All of us begin to smoke nonsense, usually under pressure of an environment or at friendly parties, but when we feel that all of us begin to get used — why we continue to smoke?
Any constant smoker does not know why he smokes.
If the true reason was known to it, he would leave off smoking.
On the consultations I asked this question to thousands of smokers.
The correct answer is identical to all, however a variety of the received answers is infinite.
It seems to me that this part of consultation — the most amusing, but at the same time the most sad.
In the depth of heart all smokers understand that they are blockheads.
Before becoming dependent on smoking, they know that they do not have them the slightest need to smoke.
Most of them can remember disgusting taste of the first cigarette, and the fact that they had to work thoroughly before they became addicted to smoking.
The most annoying is that mind they understand that they non-smoking not only lose nothing, but also laugh at smokers (difficultly not to laugh in Budget day[7]).
But smokers are reasonable, rational people.
They know that they put at huge risk the health, and realize that they for life whittle away a fortune on cigarettes.
Therefore for justification of the habit they need to have a rational explanation.
The valid reason why smokers continue to smoke — an artful combination of factors which I will in details sort in the following two chapters.
It:
1.
NICOTINE ADDICTION 2.
"BRAINWASHING" 6.
Nicotine addiction Nicotine — the colourless, oily substance which is contained in tobacco and causing dependence in the smoker.
This drug causes the fastest accustoming from all substances known to mankind:
to become addicted to it, only one cigarette can be required.
Each inhaling a cigarette delivers through lungs in a brain the small dose of nicotine operating much quicker than, for example, a heroin dose which the addict enters into a vein.
If, smoking a cigarette, you do twenty inhalings — you receive twenty doses of drug by means of only one cigarette.
Nicotine — high-speed drug, and level of its content in blood falls approximately twice within 30 minutes and approximately to one quarter in an hour after smoking of a cigarette.
It explains why on average smokers smoke twenty cigarettes a day.
As soon as the cigarette is smoked, fast removal of nicotine from an organism, and people begins begins to suffer disaccustoming torments.
Now I have to discredit the popular belief concerning sufferings of disaccustoming extended among smokers.
They think that they the pain connected with disaccustoming — the terrible trauma occurring when they independently or forcedly try to leave off smoking.
Actually, more these torments — mental;
the smoker feels that he loses pleasure or a support.
Later we will dwell upon it.
In fact the pains caused by disaccustoming from nicotine are so insignificant that most of smokers live all life and die, even without having realized that they are addicts.
When we use the term "nicotinodependent", we think what is simple "got a habit".
Most of smokers feel horror from drugs, being, actually, addicts.
Fortunately, nicotine — drug which it is easy to refuse, but before you have to recognize that you became dependent.
Disaccustoming from nicotine is not followed by physical pain.
Generally this disturbing feeling of emptiness, feeling that something is missing.
Many smokers think therefore that it something, connected with their hands.
If this feeling remains, the smoker becomes nervous, uncertain, excited, irritable and begins to lack trust to the world.
Thirst of this poison, nicotine, is similar to an acute hunger.
In seven seconds after a zakurivaniye, fresh nicotine comes to blood, and the passionate thirst for it comes to an end, leaving feeling of relaxation and confidence which the cigarette gives to the smoker.
In youth when we only begin to smoke, the pain of disaccustoming and its simplification are so weak that we do not even guess that they exist.
Beginning to smoke regularly, we explain it with pleasure or the fact that smoking turned into a habit.
The truth is that we became addicted to nicotine;
we do not realize it yet, but the small nicotinic monster already lodged in our belly, and we are forced to feed him.
All smokers begin to smoke nonsense.
Force to begin to smoke nobody violently.
The only reason which people continue to smoke (no matter, inveterate they are smokers or smoke occasionally) — desire to feed this small monster.
All sphere of business connected with smoking represents a series of riddles.
At heart all smokers know that they by the nonsense got to an ominous trap.
However the most sad in smoking the fact that the pleasure taken by the smoker from a cigarette is first of all the pleasure caused by attempt to return to a condition of rest, an order and confidence which his body tested before it became dependent on nicotine.
Remember such day when many hours the broken security alarm system of the neighbor in a row howled or you were long tormented by other strong noise.
Then noise suddenly stops, and you feel delightful feeling of rest.
But actually it is not rest, and only the end of noise.
Before we create fetters of nicotine addiction, our bodies are perfect.
Then we drive nicotine and when we throw out a cigarette in the organism, he begins to leave our body, and we feel disaccustoming pain — not physical pain, and just feeling of emptiness.
We do not even guess its existence, but she acts in our body as the leaking crane.
But we do not want to understand it mind, without having in it any need.
It is enough to us know that we sharply want a cigarette and when we get a light it, the passionate draft leaves, and for some time we feel satisfaction and self-confidence again, becoming such what were before became addicted to smoking.
However now this satisfaction only temporary as to remove thirst for cigarettes we have to enter a bigger amount of nicotine into an organism.
As soon as you extinguish a cigarette, the draft will arise again, and so indefinitely.
These are life long fetters IF YOU DO not BREAK OFF THEM.
All sphere of business connected with smoking reminds wearing close shoes with the purpose to derive pleasure felt at the time of disposal of them.
There are three reasons which are not allowing smokers to look at things from this point of view:
1.
Since the birth we are exposed to massive "brainwashing", constantly hearing that smokers find great pleasure and/or support in smoking.
Why we should not trust telling it?
They will not begin to spend huge money to put us at such terrible risk?
2.
As physical disaccustoming from nicotine is not followed by the real pain, and only the feeling of emptiness and uncertainty almost distinguishable for hunger or an ordinary stress and as we want to smoke — we are inclined to regard this desire as normal.
3.
Smokers cannot see smoking in its true light because the accustoming mechanism to it is extraordinary thin, and to trace it very difficult.
In the beginning we regard feeling of emptiness as normal and we do not connect it with just smoked cigarette.
Having lit, you at once feel inflow of forces, feel an euphoria, relax, and — the cigarette justified your confidence again.
This thin process does refusal of all drugs difficult.
Imagine panic of the geroinist at which heroin came to an end.
Now imagine his joy when he could make at last to himself an injection.
But whether you can imagine somebody who really derives pleasure from a drug injection if the thought of it fills you with horror?
The addicts depending not on heroin have no similar feeling of panic at the thought of lack of heroin.
Thus, drug does not remove it, and on the contrary — creates.
Non-smoking have no feeling of emptiness or the sharp need for a cigarette at all do not begin to panic when the stock of cigarettes comes to an end.
Non-smoking cannot understand how smokers can derive pleasure that they thrust these opposite pieces into a mouth, kindle them and drag on this muck, filling with it the lungs.
And you know what is especially interesting?
Smokers cannot understand too why they do it.
We already spoke about popular belief that smoking weakens and gives satisfaction.
But only those who something are deprived need satisfaction.
Why then non-smoking do not suffer of similar deprivations and why after a meal when non-smoking are happy with everything, smokers cannot relax, "will not feed" the small nicotinic monster yet?
We should sort this subject in more detail.
The main reason for complexity of throwing to smoke is that smokers believe that they refuse real pleasure or strong support.
Here it is very important to you to understand that leaving off smoking you do not refuse anything.
The best way to realize insidiousness of this trap is to compare it to food.
Having got used to eat regularly, we are not afraid that we will get hungry between meals.
Only in case of delay of food we understand, are how hungry, and we have no physical pain at all, the feeling of emptiness and uncertainty which is known to us is simple as "I need to eat".
Process of satisfaction of hunger — very pleasant pastime.
To smoking there is almost the same.
The feeling of emptiness and uncertainty known to us as "desire or the need for a cigarette", like hunger though here one is not satisfied through another.
As well as in case of hunger, there is no physical pain, and this discomfort is so imperceptible that we do not even remember it in breaks between cigarettes.
It begins to be realized only when we want to light, and do not allow us.
Then, at last, having lit, we would feel satisfaction.
The similarity to acceptance of food helps to fool smokers, forcing them to believe that they derive really incomprehensible pleasure.
It is very difficult for some smokers to realize that smoking does not bring any pleasure and does not give any support.
They object:
"How you can claim that smoking does not support me?
You agree that lighting I feel like less nervous, than before".
Though acceptance of food and smoking seem very similar, in fact these processes — are absolutely opposite:
1.
You eat to survive and prolong the life, and smoking reduces it.
2.
Food is really nice to the taste, and acceptance of food — really pleasant experience which we can enjoy throughout all our life.
Smoking assumes inhalation of disgusting and poisonous smoke in the lungs.
3.
Acceptance of food does not generate hunger, and facilitates it;
while the first cigarette begins thirst for nicotine, and everyone the subsequent — at all does not facilitate this draft, and guarantees that you will suffer from it for the rest of the life.
Now a right moment to disseminate other well-known myth about smoking — the myth that "smoking is a habit".
Acceptance of food — a habit?
If you so think — try to refuse it for ever.
No to describe acceptance of food as a habit — the same as to call a habit breath.
Both processes have essential value for survival.
Of course, various people are in the habit to satisfy the hunger at different times and by means of different types of food.
However acceptance of food in itself a habit is not.
The only reason for which any smoker sets fire to a cigarette — attempt to put an end to the feeling of emptiness and uncertainty created by the previous cigarette.
Of course, various smokers are in the habit to facilitate the discomfort at different times and in different ways, however smoking in itself a habit is not.
Society often addresses smoking as to an addiction therefore and in this book, for convenience, I also call it "habit".
Nevertheless, constantly you remember that smoking is not a habit, but DRUG ADDICTION.
Having begun to smoke, we have to learn to handle cigarettes.
Before we realize it — time!
— and we already not only buy them regularly, but are forced to have at ourselves constantly.
Now in the absence of cigarettes we panic and eventually we smoke more and more.
So happens also to any other drug:
our organism seeks to be protected from nicotine influence, and along with it the need for it grows.
After the short period of smoking the cigarette ceases to facilitate completely discomfort of lack of nicotine which creates.
Therefore, beginning to smoke a cigarette, you feel better, than a moment ago;
in fact you become more nervous and intense even in the course of smoking than if in general were non-smoking.
This habit is even more ridiculous, than a habit to wear close shoes:
all increasing feeling of discomfort remains even then when shoes are taken off.
But there is more to come:
as soon as the cigarette is extinguished, fast removal of nicotine from an organism begins, than speaks why in stressful situations the smokers are in the habit to smoke cigarettes one behind one.
As I already spoke, "habit" does not exist.
The true reason which each smoker continues to smoke consists in that small monster living in a belly.
From time to time any smoker has to "feed" him.
He solves when to make it, but it is usually possible to reveal four types of cases or their combination:
BOREDOM/CONCENTRATION — the complete antitheses!
TENSION/RELAXATION — also complete antitheses!
What magic means can unexpectedly change effect which had twenty minutes ago?
Think:
what, except a dream, can change reality so sharply?
The truth is that smoking never facilitates a stress or boredom does not promote concentration or a relaxation at all.
They are illusions.
Except that nicotine — drug, it also strong poison which is a part of insecticides (look at this word in the dictionary)!
The nicotine dose which is contained in only one cigarette if to enter it directly into a vein, will kill you.
The plant tobacco contains many poisons, including carbon monoxide, and belongs besides a sort, as a belladonna known to all.
If you think of passing to a tube or cigars, keep in mind what told in this book belongs to all types of tobacco and any nicotine-containing substances, including chewing gums, plasters, spray and inhalers.
Human body — the most difficult object on our planet.
Any species, even the lowest — amoebas and worms, will not survive, without knowing a difference between food and poison.
During thousands of years, during natural selection, our mind and a body created ability to distinguish food and poison and also reliable methods of disposal of the last.
All people have disgust for a smell and taste of tobacco, will not become addicted to it yet.
If you exhale tobacco smoke in the face to the child before it gets nicotine addiction, he will begin to cough and sneeze.
When we smoked the first cigarettes, smoking led to a fit of coughing or if smoked too much, to dizziness and an obvious physical indisposition.
This our body appealed to us:
"You enter into me poison.
Stop it!" At this stage often is defined, we will become smokers or not.
To think that physically weak or mentally unstable people — a mistake become smokers.
Those in whom the first cigarette caused rejection whose lungs physically could not cope with it — were lucky, they are cured of smoking for the rest of life.
Speaking differently, they are not ready to be trained through cruel process to learn to smoke, without coughing.
This circumstance seems to me the most tragic.
We work very hard before we become dependent — that is why it is so difficult to stop teenagers.
All of them still learn to smoke, all of them still consider cigarettes disgusting on taste — and therefore believe that all of them will be able to throw when all of them want.
Why they do not study on our example?
Why we learned nothing from the parents?
Many smokers consider that the taste and a smell of tobacco gives them pleasure.
It is illusion.
When we learn to smoke, we accustom to become our organism irresponsive to a disgusting smell and taste.
Also geroinist claim that they like to be pricked.
Disaccustoming pain from heroin is more cruel, and everything that is pleasant to them in fact — a ritual of removal of this pain.
The smoker trains own mind to close eyes to a disgusting smell and taste to receive "dose".
Ask the smoker considering that he smokes, enjoying taste and a smell of tobacco:
"If you are not able to buy the usual cigarettes and will get only those which taste seems to you disgusting, you will not smoke?
— Of course, I will be".
The smoker will continue to smoke.
It is not important at all whether you will pass cigars or a tube to roll-ups, cigarettes with menthol:
in the beginning you will feel still this disgusting taste, but continuing to smoke, learn to love it.
Smokers try to smoke even during cold, flu, a tonsillitis, bronchitis and emphysema.
Unless receiving pleasure has with it something the general?
If had, nobody would smoke more than one cigarette.
About seven thousand former smokers became addicted to the disgusting nicotinic chewing gum offered by doctors and many of them still smoke.
During my consultations some smokers are afraid to realize themselves addicts.
They consider that this knowledge does process of throwing to smoke even more difficult.
I consider that these news — good, and that is why:
1.
Smoking shortcomings obviously exceed its advantages.
But we, nevertheless, believe that in a cigarette there is something, the pleasure giving us or giving some support — most of us and continues to smoke this reason.
We feel that after we leave off smoking, some emptiness is formed and that certain life situations will not be any more such as before.
It is the next illusion.
The truth is that the cigarette gives nothing;
it only takes away though then partially and returns — only to support illusion.
In more detail I will explain it in the following chapter.
2.
Though nicotine — the most effective drug in the world owing to that speed with which you form dependence you will never depend on it in extreme degree.
As this drug which — is quickly operating on bringing 99% of nicotine out of an organism is required only three weeks, and real torments of disaccustoming are so insignificant that many smokers lived life and died, without having realized that they tested them.
The question of why it is so difficult for most of smokers to leave off smoking why they pass in months of tortures is absolutely fair and carry out the remained life, from time to time grieving about a cigarette.
The answer to this question contains in the second reason which we smoke — in "brainwashing".
It is much easier to cope with chemical dependence.
Almost all smokers perfectly do at night without nicotine.
Torment of disaccustoming do not even awake them.
Before beginning to smoke the first cigarette, most of them leave bedrooms;
many at first have breakfast;
some wait, will not arrive to work yet.
They can abstain from nicotine within ten hours of time of a dream and not worry from it, but if they spend ten hours without cigarette in the afternoon — will begin to tear the hair.
Today some smoking people buy new cars and do not smoke in them.
Many of them visit theaters, supermarkets, churches already similar, and the impossibility to light in these parts does not disturb them.
There were no mass riots and in subway cars.
Smokers are almost glad when someone or something forces them to cease to smoke.
Today many smokers try to abstain from smoking of the house or in the company of non-smoking, feeling at the same time only small discomfort.
In effect, most of smokers had long periods when they without effort abstained from smoking.
Even I, being so passionate smoker, could relax absolutely happily during the whole evening without cigarette.
Sometimes I with impatience expected evenings when I am able to cease "to smother" myself (what ridiculous "habit")!
It is easy to cope with chemical dependence even if all of you still depend on smoking, and there are thousands of smoking people who during all the life remain irregular smokers.
But they are dependent so, as well as the heavy smoker.
There are even heavy smokers who, having given up "habit", smoke an accidental cigar, keeping these dependence.
As I already spoke, nicotine addiction — not the main problem.
She just acts as the catalyst, keeping our mind in perplexity of rather real problem:
"zapudrivaniye of brains".
For the heavy smokers smoking all life it will be possible to learn a consolation what to them to leave off smoking also easily, as well as the smoker irregularly.
Somewhat, it is even easier.
The further you will come with "habit", the it will make more destructions, and the your acquisitions will be more significant.
Perhaps, news that the rumors circulating from time to time ("that this "infection" left your body eight years" or "each cigarette which you smoke will be required, reduces your life by five minutes") — a lie will be a consolation for you also.
Do not think that harmful effects of smoking are exaggerated:
they are underestimated more likely.
It is obvious what governed "five minutes" — the preliminary estimate applicable only in those cases if you caught one of fatal diseases or poisoned themselves "at full scale".
"Infection", actually, never completely is brought out of an organism.
If nearby smoke, then nicotine is airborne, and the small percent is received even by non-smoking.
However our bodies are improbable devices;
they have huge potential to restoration if, of course, you did not set one of irreversible diseases in motion yet.
If you leave off smoking now, your body will be recovered within several weeks and as if you were never a smoker.
As I already spoke, to leave off smoking never late.
I helped to recover to many patients 60 years and even to several aged people of 70-80 years are more senior.
My clinic was visited by the 99-year-old woman with the 66-year-old son.
Why she decided to leave off smoking, she answered a question:
"To become for it an example".
Six months later she wrote to me that she felt young again.
The more smoking destroys you, the feeling of release is more.
When I at last left off smoking, slid from smoking of hundred cigarettes in day to zero at once, and I had no diseases.
Process of throwing was really pleasant, even in the period of "disaccustoming torments".
But at first we have to get rid of "brainwashing".
7.
"Brainwashing" and "the dozing partner" Let's think why we begin to smoke?
To understand it up to the end, you have to study powerful influence of subconsciousness or as I call it, "the dozing partner".
All of us are inclined to consider ourselves the clever, controlling themselves people independently defining the course of life.
Actually our behavior almost answers 100% to a certain model because we — a product of the society which brought up us.
It so whether it will come to clothes which we wear, to houses in which we live or about behavior models to which we follow.
The subconsciousness makes surprisingly powerful impact on our life.
Millions of people can be misled not only in their beliefs, but even rather simple facts of life.
Before Columbus made a global cruise, people considered that the earth — flat.
Today we know that it is round.
Write I dozen books, trying to convince you that the earth — flat, me would hardly be succeeded to make it whether but many of us were in space and personally saw the globe?
Even if you made a round-the-world trip by plane or the steamship whether you can be sure that you traveled around a sphere surface, but did not move on a circle, being on the plane?
To specialists in advertizing force of impact on subconsciousness, is well-known from here and huge billboards which the smoker sees everywhere, being driving, and advertizing in each magazine.
Do you consider them waste of money, you think, they do not induce you to buy cigarettes?
You are mistaken!
Try to make a small experiment.
Next time, having come in cold autumn day into bar or restaurant, on a question of your satellite of what you will drink, you do not speak simply:
"Brandy", and somehow embellish the answer.
For example, tell:
"Do you know what I really want today?
Throat of the wonderful burning brandy".
You will find out that those who do not drink some brandy at all will even join you.
Since the earliest childhood the flow of information that cigarettes weaken, give to confidence and courage daily falls upon our subconsciousness and that the most valuable thing on the planet is a cigarette.
Do you think, I exaggerate?
When do you watch the animated film, the movie or a theater production in which people are threatened by the death penalty or execution what is their last request?
Correctly, cigarette!
Influence of this scene is not fixed by our consciousness, however, "the dozing partner" has enough time to absorb it in itself.
Thought which in us is tried to be inspired, is as follows:
"The cigarette will be the most valuable on the earth, what I will think of and what I will begin to aspire at the last moment the life to,".
Remember, in each movie about war to the wounded allow to drag on a cigarette.
Do you consider that recently everything changed?
No, our children still are under aggressive influence of huge billboards and journal advertizing.
It is considered that today advertizing of cigarettes on television is forbidden, however in those hours when TV is watched by most of people, the world's best billiards players and darts constantly start up clouds of cigarette smoke on the screen.
Sponsors of programs usually are tobacco kompaniigigant, and communication between sports events and "rich persons" became the most sad trend of modern advertizing.
At competitions of "Formula One" the racing cars are even called famous brands of cigarettes — or on the contrary?
Today on television it is possible to see the commercial where naked couple smokes in a bed one cigarette for two after classes love.
The implication is obvious.
I am sincerely delighted with skill of creators of advertizing of a small cigar (of course, not the idea, but its magnificent embodiment in commercials).
The person just about will face death or accident — his balloon on fire, and it just about will break;
or its motorcycle just about will fall down to the river;
or he is Columbus, and his ship just about will go at the end of the earth.
Any word is not pronounced.
Gentle music plays.
He begins to smoke a cigar:
on his face the expression of absolute happiness spreads.
Consciousness can even not note that the smoker watches the commercial, but "the dozing partner" carefully will digest and will acquire obvious implication.
However, there is an advertizing and other sort — threat of cancer, the amputated legs, campaigns against fetid breath — but in fact it does not stop smokers.
Of course, logically, would have to, but in practice it does not occur.
All these campaigns are not able to be saved from smoking of teenagers even.
All those years when I was a smoker, I sincerely believed that if knew about communication of lung cancer and smoking earlier, then never I would begin to smoke.
But, unfortunately, this knowledge not a jot changes nothing.
Trap and today the same as when sir Walter Rolly got into it [8].
All anti-nicotinic campaigns only bring additional confusion.
Yes even the products (these beautiful sparkling packs tempting you to try their contents) surely contain a warning of danger of death on one party.
Which of smokers ever read it, making itself think on its sense?
I consider that the leading producers of cigarettes use prevention of the state health care system in order that it is better to sell the products.
Many shots include frightening elements — spiders, dragonflies or predatory plants.
Today a warning of harm of smoking for health is printed such large and in bold that the smoker cannot but notice it, is kind of strong it tried.
The sharp fear felt by the smoker is associated with a glossy gold pack.
Ironically, the most powerful force in "composting of brains" is the smoker.
You should not think that smokers — weak-willed and physically weak beings.
To cope with poison, you have to be strong.
It is one of the reasons for which smokers refuse to recognize the stunning statistics proving that smoking does harm to your health.
All remember some uncle Fred who smoked forty cigarettes a day, day was not ill and lived up to eighty years.
They refuse even to take into account hundreds of other smokers whom death knocked down in the prime of life, or the fact that if the uncle Fred did not smoke, he could live to this day.
Having conducted small survey among the friends and colleagues, you find out that most of smokers differ in determination.
Usually it is the people having own business, heads of the enterprises or people of certain professions, for example:
doctors, lawyers, police officers, teachers, sellers, nurses, secretaries, housewives with children and so on, otherwise, all those who lead intense life.
The main delusion of smokers is that smoking reduces stress and is associated with leadership — with those who take the responsibility and the main loading, that is with such people whom we admire and to whom we seek to imitate.
Other group of persons, usually becoming dependent, includes the people occupied with monotonous work as the second main reason for smoking — boredom.
However, a thought of whether smoking removes boredom, I am afraid, delusion too.
Extent of "brainwashing" is really improbable.
Being members of society, all of us as one are disturbed by glue steam inhalation (toxicomania), dependence on heroin (drug addiction) and so on.
In fact the quantity of death from steam inhalation of glue does not reach also ten people a year, and the quantity of death from heroin is in our country not less than hundred people for the same period.
There is also other drug — nicotine.
More than 60% from us during a certain period of life become dependent on it, and the majority carries out all life, spreading a fortune for tobacco.
The most part of spare cash at such people is spent for cigarettes, and because of their addiction to smoking hundreds of thousands of people annually destroy the lives.
Nicotine in our society — murderer number one, considering road accidents, the fires and so forth.
Why we consider shuffing of glue and heroin dependence such awful evil, and that drug for which we spend the most part of money and which really kills us, was considered as absolutely acceptable public habit several years ago?
In recent years smoking began to be considered as slightly socially blamed habit which can cause damage to health, but at the same time is absolutely legal and is even offered for sale in beautiful glossy packs in each newsstand, bar, club, in the parking or at restaurant.
The most heavy capital investments in smoking were made by our government.
It annually earns 8 billion pounds sterling from smokers, and tobacco campaigns annually spend 100 million pounds only for promotion of the goods.
You need to build the same protection against this "brainwashing" as that that you use, buying the car from the seller of used cars.
You politely would nod to it, but would not believe any his word.
Try to look at brilliant packs of cigarettes in a new way — try to see in them rubbish and a poison.
Do not allow to fool itself to ashtrays from faceted glass, to gold lighters and millions of those who were already inflated.
Begin to ask yourself questions:
Why I do it?
Whether really I need it?
NO, OF COURSE NOT!
I consider that speaking about smoking, it is the most difficult to explain the mechanism of "brainwashing".
Why does that happen that usually reasonable, bright people become complete fools when it comes to their dependence on smoking?
It is bitter to me to recognize that from thousands of people to whom I helped to get rid of this habit I was the biggest idiot.
I smoked hundred cigarettes a day, though observed the father — too the heavy smoker.
He was a strong man, but because of smoking died in youth.
I remember, the child I watched him when in the mornings he coughed and otkharkivat a phlegm.
I saw that smoking does not give it any pleasure, and it was absolutely clear to me that something ominous owns it.
I remember how I told mother:
"Never allow me to become the smoker".
In fifteen I was a fan of health.
The sport was my life, and I was full of courage and self-confidence.
If then somebody told me that I will smoke hundred cigarettes a day, I would argue on everything that in general I will earn in life that it never happens.
I would even give any odds about which I would be asked.
In forty years I became addict smoker both physically, and intellectually.
I reached that stage when, without having begun to smoke a cigarette, it is impossible to perform the simplest physical or intellectual operation.
For most of smokers usual life situations, for example, the answer to a call by phone or a meeting with friends become an occasion to light.
Without cigarette in teeth I could not neither switch the television program, nor replace a bulb.
I knew that smoking kills me, and already could not deceive myself in any way.
But also now I cannot understand why I did not see what smoking does with my mind!
All this occurred directly at me near by!
As it is ridiculous, but most of smokers in certain moments of life suffer from illusion that derive pleasure from cigarettes.
I in this respect was never mistaken:
smoked because was sure that smoking helps me to concentrate and calms my nerves.
Now I became non-smoking, and it is difficult for me even to present that all this really happened to me.
Most of all it is similar to awakening from a nightmare!
Nicotine — drug therefore your flavoring receptors and sense of smell become dull.
The most terrible party of smoking is even not that it causes damage to your health and hits the pocket, and that it deforms your mentality.
You begin to find any plausible justifications to why you continue to smoke.
I remember after the next attempt "to stick" failed, I passed to smoking of a tube.
I believed that smoking of a tube does less harm to an organism and that it will help me to reduce amount of the consumed nicotine.
Some of pipe grades of tobacco are not cleaned at all.
In the beginning their aroma can be pleasant, but smoke them awfully.
I remember that I at me approximately within three months picked a language tip.
At the bottom of a bowl of a pipe, brown sticky liquid accumulates.
From time to time you accidentally lift a tube bowl to horizontal position and before you understand something, swallow a full mouth of this disgusting muck.
As a result you immediately spit out it, and it is unimportant in what company you are.
At me three months on coping with a tube left, but here what I cannot understand:
why within these three months I did not choose time to ask myself the question "And Why I Subject Myself to This Torture?" undoubtedly, there are no more ardent supporters of smoking, than smokers of tubes, but only when they learn to cope with them.
Many of smokers of tubes are convinced that they smoke as the tube brings them pleasure.
But why they needed to work so much to fall in love with smoking when they were absolutely happy also without it?
The answer to this question is that as soon as you become addicted to nicotine, impact of "brainwashing" increases.
Your subconsciousness knows that a small monster it is necessary to feed therefore your mind forces out other data.
As I already claimed, the fear forces people to continue to smoke — fear of feeling of emptiness and uncertainty which is born when you cease to fill nicotine in an organism.
The fact that you do not realize it does not mean at all that there is no such problem.
You also should not understand more, than the cat understands about where under a floor there pass pipes with hot water.
She knows one — if to sit down in a certain place, then it is possible to be warmed.
"Brainwashing" creates the main difficulties in attempt to leave off smoking.
Results of processing of consciousness during education in society amplify the auto-suggestion proceeding from our own dependence and, most of all, "brainwashing" from our friends, relatives and colleagues.
Whether you noticed that I still often used expression "to leave off smoking"?
I used it and at the beginning of the previous paragraph.
It is a classical example of brain washing, that is "brainwashing".
This term means an autographic sacrifice.
But good news are that absolutely nothing should be thrown.
On the contrary, you are exempted from a terrible disease and will find the mass of delightful advantages.
We will begin to delete results of "brainwashing" right now.
From this point we will speak not to "throw", and "to stop", "to cease" or as it and is actually — to GET RID!
The only thing that leads us to smoking - it is people who already smoke.
We feel that we miss something.
We are ready to work diligently to become dependent on smoking, however yet nobody ever tried to understand that he missed.
Every time when we see the smoker, he assures us that, has to be, in smoking there is something special as differently he would not smoke.
Even when he manages to stop smoking, the ex-smoker feels deprived when at a party, or in other place, somebody near it begins to smoke a cigarette.
He considers that it in safety.
He will smoke only one cigarette.
And before he realizes it, he becomes dependent again.
Brain washing — terrible force therefore you should know about its influence.
Many elderly smokers remember detective series Paul Temple who after war was very popular radio program.
The plot of one of series was connected with addiction to marijuana, widely known as "grass".
Malefactors secretly from smokers sold the cigarettes filled with "grass" that did not cause negative consequences.
Just people became dependent and were forced to continue to buy cigarettes.
(During my consultations hundreds of smokers admitted that they tried "grass".
But any of them did not admit that he became addicted to it).
To me was approximately years seven when I listened to this transfer.
From it I for the first time learned about drug addiction.
The concept "dependences" which forces the person to continue to take drug filled me with horror, and even today, despite sincerity of belief that "grass" does not cause accustoming, I would not dare to make any inhaling marijuana.
Ironically I could finish the days the addict who became addicted to the drug, most popular in the world, causing the fastest accustoming.
If then Paul Templ warned me against smoking of cigarettes!
There passed forty years, and here (on some twist of fate) the mankind spends thousands of pounds sterling for cancer researches, at the same time paying millions of pounds on convincing healthy teenagers to become dependent on nasty tobacco in which our government made the largest capital investments.
So, we will just about be exempted from "brainwashing".
Not non-smoking is deprived of something, but the poor smoker who lost the whole life:
HEALTH, ENERGY, WELFARE, PEACE OF MIND, CONFIDENCE, COURAGE, SELF-ESTEEM, HAPPINESS, FREEDOM.
And what it gets instead of these considerable victims?
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING — except for illusion that he constantly tries to return to a condition of rest, an order and confidence which non-smoking enjoy constantly.
8.
As I already explained simplification of torments of disaccustoming earlier, smokers consider that they smoke just for the hell of it, removals of tension or a peculiar support.
Actually, this delusion.
The real reason — simplification of torments of disaccustoming.
Right at the beginning we use a cigarette as social support.
We can use it, and we can not use.
However forming of an invisible chain already began.
Our subconsciousness already studies that at certain moments smoking has to be pleasant.
The more your dependence on drug increases, the more there is a need for easing disaccustoming torments from it — the further the cigarette destroys you, the more you are inflated to force to believe that everything is just the opposite.
All this occurs so slowly, so gradually that you do not even notice it.
It seems to you that today differs in nothing from yesterday's.
Most of smokers do not even realize that they became dependent on smoking, so far, after all, will not try to leave off smoking, but even then many of them do not want it to recognize.
Some firm adherents of smoking all life live, having buried the head in sand, trying to convince himself and the others that it is pleasant to them.
The conversation given below took place at me with hundreds of teenagers.
Я:
Do you understand that nicotine — drug and what you smoke only because you cannot cease?
П:
Nonsense!
I like to smoke.
If it was not pleasant to me, I would stop.
Я:
Try not to smoke week to prove to me and itself that you will be able if you want.
П:
I do not see in it need.
I like it.
If I wanted, I would throw.
Я:
Well, try not to smoke within a week to prove to itself that you have no dependence.
П:
And in what sense?
I like to smoke.
As I already claimed, at the moments of a stress, boredom, special concentration, relaxations or combinations of these reasons smokers seek to ease disaccustoming torments.
In the following several chapters this thought will be explained in more detail.
9.
Here I mean a stress not only big vital tragedies, but also small stresses:
participation in public life, phone call, the irritation of the housewife caused by the rustling small children and so on.
Give as an example we will take phone call.
At most of people the phone call causes a small stress, especially, in business people.
The majority of calls proceed not from grateful clients and not from the chief who wants to congratulate you.
Usually phone calls represent in some way a showdown when something was not taken, or someone demands something.
At such moment the smoker if only he does not smoke any more, will light surely.
He does not know why he does it, but knows that for some reason smoking, it seems, helps him.
In fact there is a following.
Without realizing that, he already suffered from dependence (that is suffered disaccustoming torments).
Smoking partially removes both this dependence, and a common stress therefore, in general, the total stress decreases, and the smoker gets support.
At this moment the support is indeed not illusory.
The smoker really feels better than before lit a cigarette.
However even then, when smokes this cigarette, he is more intense than if was non-smoking:
the more you depend on drug, the more it destroys you, and the less gives back when you smoke.
I promised to do without shock therapy.
In the following example I am going to resort to it after all.
I do not try to shock you, and just I want to emphasize that cigarettes do not relax your nerves, and destroy them.
Try to present that you reached that stage when the doctor says that if you do not leave off smoking, he should amputate to you legs.
Stop for a minute, try to imagine distinctly life without legs.
Try to present thoughts and feelings of the person to whom this prevention was made, but he nevertheless continued to smoke and eventually to it amputated legs.
I heard similar stories, but dismissed them as improbable.
Actually I even wanted that the doctor told me something like that;
then I would cease to smoke.
At the same time I really waited every day that I will have a cerebral hemorrhage, and I will lose not only legs, but also life.
And I considered myself not the idiot, but just heavy smoker.
Such stories — not an invention:
they it is valid about what does with us this terrible drug.
As we walk on life, it systematically carries away ours energy and determination.
The more courage nicotine takes away from you, the more you deceive yourself, considering that cigarettes render opposite effect.
All of us heard about that panic which covers smokers when they late did not come back home and afraid at night yet that at them cigarettes just about will come to an end.
Non-smoking this fear is not felt, it is generated by cigarettes.
Except that nicotine loosens your nerves, it gradually ruins your physical health, being strong poison.
By then, when the smoker reaches a stage at which smoking kills him, he already believes that the determination is maintained only by nicotine therefore does not risk to meet life face to face without cigarette.
Accurately understand to yourself that cigarettes not only do not calm nerves, and slowly, but it is constant, destroy them.
Return of self-confidence and the forces will become one of considerable acquisitions at refusal of this addiction.
10.
Boredom If you smoke at the moment — you would already forget about it if I did not remind you.
One more delusion connected with smoking — a statement that cigarettes remove boredom.
The boredom is a mood of mind.
When you smoke, you do not repeat mentally at all:
"I smoke a cigarette, I smoke a cigarette".
It occurs only when for a long time you were deprived of an opportunity to smoke or when you try to reduce smoking or when again you begin to smoke after unfortunate attempt to throw.
In fact the situation is as follows:
when you are dependent on nicotine, but do not smoke at the moment, you create feeling that you lack something.
If you have an opportunity to occupy mind with something that does not cause tension, then the lack of drug can not disturb you for a long time at all.
However when you boringly and have nothing to distract mind, you should feed a monster.
When you indulge yourself (that is you do not try to throw or reduce slowly smoking), the cigarette prikurivaniye becomes unconscious action too.
Even those who smoke a pipe or roll-ups can perform this ritual automatically.
If someone from smokers tries to remember all cigarettes smoked by it in a day to it it will be possible to remember only some — for example, the first or after-dinner.
The fact is that indirectly cigarettes lead to increase of boredom as force you to experience apathy, and instead of being engaged in something vigorous, smokers usually loaf, missing and trying to ease disaccustoming torments.
That is why it is so important to resist to "brainwashing".
Smokers, as a rule, smoke that feeling boredom - it is the fact;
the fact that since the birth to us repeated that smoking removes boredom — too the fact therefore it does not even come to our mind to challenge this truth.
Us so processed that we believe also that chewing gum helps to relax.
And it is valid — in a stressful situation the people sometimes grind teeth.
Everything that is done by chewing gum — so it gives you a reasonable argument to grit the teeth.
Next time, when you will watch chewing it, pay attention as they it do and what at them at the same time a look:
weakened or strained.
Observe people who smoke with boredom.
Cigarettes obviously do not bring them disposal of it — a look at them all the same missing.
As the former heavy smoker, I can assure you that it is difficult to imagine more boring occupation, than to get a light one opposite cigarette for another day by day, from year to year.
11.
Concentration.
Cigarettes do not help to concentrate is only the next delusion.
Trying to concentrate, you automatically try to avoid everything that distracts attention, for example, of feeling of cold or a heat.
The smoker already suffers:
the small monster wants to receive the dose.
Therefore when he wants to concentrate, he does not even need to think of a way.
He automatically lights, partially meeting desire to smoke, and starts what he should make.
At the same time he already forgot that he smokes.
Cigarettes do not help concentration more likely they destroy it.
After a while, even in the course of smoking of a cigarette, the smoker cannot get rid of nicotinic hunger completely any more.
Then it increases a dose, and the problem becomes more sharply.
There is also other reason for which smoking disturbs concentration of attention.
The progressing obstruction of arteries and veins toxic agents leads to oxygen starvation of a brain.
It is obvious that your ability to concentration and creative activity considerably will improve if to change this process.
This problem prevented me to cease to smoke when I tried a will power method.
I could reconcile to irritability and bad mood, but when I really needed to focus on something difficult, the cigarette became simply necessary.
I well remember that panic feeling which I had when I found out what during the examinations in accounting cannot be smoked.
I was already heavy smoker convinced that I will not be able to concentrate within three hours in a row without cigarette.
But I passed examinations and I do not remember that I at that time thought of smoking therefore when business reached turning point, it did not disturb me any more.
Loss of ability to concentration which is experienced by smokers when they try to cease to smoke really happens not because of physical pains of disaccustoming from nicotine.
When you smoke, at you there comes the intellectual stupor.
And what are you doing, when you have a stupor?
If you at this moment do not smoke, then by all means light a cigarette.
But it does not help to remove a stupor therefore you do that have to:
you get used to it as it is done by non-smoking.
If you the smoker, the cigarette cannot be guilty of anything.
For example, smokers never have a cough caused by smoking — they have just constant cold.
When you cease to smoke, fault for everything that in your life goes not so, is assigned to what you stopped smoking.
In this case, if you have a stupor, you do not reconcile to it, and say:
"If I lit now, it would solve my problems".
Then you begin to call in question the decision to cease to smoke.
If you believe that smoking — the best support in achievement of concentration, this confidence with guarantee will lead to the fact that you will not be able to concentrate without cigarette.
Doubts, but not physical suffering of disaccustoming create a problem.
You remember:
smokers, but not non-smoking suffer from torments of disaccustoming.
When I extinguished the last cigarette, I passed for one night from hundred cigarettes a day up to zero without any obvious loss of ability to concentrate.
12.
Relaxation Most of smokers consider that cigarettes help them to relax.
But all know that nicotine — stimulant.
If you measure the pulse, and then smoke in a row two cigarettes, you will note considerable acceleration of its frequency.
One of favourite cigarettes for most of smokers — a cigarette after a lunch.
The lunch is that time of the working day when we stop working.
We sit down and we have a rest, we satisfy hunger and thirst, and then we feel perfect bliss.
However the poor smoker cannot relax as he has one more hunger which needs to be satisfied.
He dreams of a cigarette as icing on cake, and actually not it, namely this small monster needs food.
The addict who became dependent on nicotine can never relax completely, and eventually the situation only worsens.
The most intense people on the planet — at all not those who do not smoke and the fifty-year-old constantly coughing businessmen smoking one cigarette for another who have a high blood pressure and which are constantly angry.
Their cigarettes cease even to soften partially those symptoms which they also created.
I remember how I raised the children when was a young accountant.
If one of my sons did something wrong, I flew into a rage to such an extent that it did not come within miles of the fact that the child did.
I honestly believed that my nature contains a certain evil ghost.
Now I know what with me was.
It was not some inherited defect, and only a small nicotinic monster which created problems.
At that time I believed that I am burdened with the hardest problems, but looking back on the life of that time, I am surprised:
"And in what all this great stress and huge tension consisted?" I completely controlled the life.
Cigarettes were the only thing that controlled me.
Sadly the fact that even today I cannot convince own children that smoking made me such irritable.
Every time when they hear how the smoker tries to justify the addiction, they hear a keynote:
"Oh, cigarettes calm me.
They help me to relax".
Few years ago the organizations which are engaged in adoption of children threatened that will forbid smokers to become adoptive parents.
Once there one angry person called and told:
"You are not right at all.
I remember when I was a child if I needed to discuss some controversial issue with mother, I waited until she lights a cigarette and will become more weakened".
Why he could not talk to mother when she did not smoke?
Why all smokers are so strained if do not smoke after a lunch at restaurant?
Why then non-smoking people are completely relaxed?
Why smokers cannot concentrate without cigarette?
Next time, when you will be in supermarket and you will hear as young mother shouts at the child, observe her leaving shop.
The first that she will make, will light a cigarette.
Begin to watch smokers, especially when they are forbidden to smoke.
You will find out that at these moments they hold hands at a mouth, or play thumbs of hands, or touch own leg, or finger hair and squeeze jaws.
Smokers are not relaxed, they in general forgot this feeling — to be completely relaxed.
And it is only one of many pleasures to which you still will come.
All business connected with smoking can be assimilated to the fly caught by an insectivorous plant.
At first the fly eats nectar, but imperceptibly plant begins to devour a fly.
Isn't it time for you to get out of this flycatcher?
13.
When there is a lot of occasions to light, or the "combined" cigarettes Do not, the "combined" cigarettes is not that case when you smoke two or more cigarettes at once.
When it occurs, you are surprised, having noticed the first.
Once I burned a hand, trying to thrust a cigarette where one already was into a mouth.
Of course, everything is not so silly as you could think.
As I already spoke, cigarettes, after all, cease to ease disaccustoming torments, and feeling that you lack something, remains even in the course of smoking.
The terrible disappointment of the heavy smoker also consists in it.
When support is necessary for you, it turns out that you already smoke — that is why heavy smokers often begin to abuse alcohol or to do other drugs.
But I distracted.
The "combined" cigarette — that, a reason for which steel two or more usual reasons to light, for example, social works, parties, weddings, lunches at restaurant.
There are events which at the same time cause a stress and weaken.
At first sight this statement can seem contradictory, but it not so.
Any form of participation in public life can cause tension, even meetings with friends, but at the same time you want to derive from them pleasure and to relax completely.
There are situations at which all four types of cases are present at the same time.
The most widespread of them — driving of the car.
If you leave a tense situation, for example, the stomatologist's office, then now can relax.
At the same time driving of the car always assumes existence of an element of a stress.
Your life is staked.
You need to concentrate again.
You can even not realize two last factors, but the fact that they are podsoznatelna, does not mean that they are absent.
And if you got stuck in a traffic jam or the long movement along the highway is necessary to you, you can feel boredom.
Other classical example — card play.
If you play something like the bridge or poker, you need to concentrate.
If you lose more, than are able to afford, it causes tension.
If to you long there is no decent card, it can become tiresome.
And, nevertheless, while all this proceeds, you have a rest;
it is supposed that you relax.
Playing cards, despite of degree of torments of disaccustoming, all smokers begin to smoke one cigarette for another, even those who in other conditions smoke occasionally.
Ashtrays are overflowed instantly.
Over the head the smoke cloud constantly hangs.
If you clap someone from smokers it can do and ask whether he derives pleasure from smoking, he will answer:
"You what, you joke?".
Very often after the similar parties, having woken up with feeling that in your throat arranged a sewer settler, we decide to cease to smoke.
The "combined" cigarettes are special cigarettes, on what as it seems to us, we will miss especially when we consider the decision to cease to smoke.
We consider that life never already again will become so pleasant.
Actually the same principle works here:
these cigarettes simply ease disaccustoming torments, and there are such timepoints when our need for their simplification is especially sharp.
Let's understand everything up to the end.
Not cigarette this special, and event.
As soon as we eliminate the need for a cigarette, similar events will become more pleasant, and tense situations — less intense.
In the following chapter we will sort this statement in more detail.
14.
What "do" I "throw"?
ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING!
The fear prevents us to cease to smoke.
Fear that we will lose pleasure or support.
Fear that pleasant situations never any more will be such any more.
Fear that we will not be able to cope with a stress.
In other words, impact of brain washing is in that deception to force us to believe in inevitability of our smoking:
or in the certain special weakness inherent in us, or in the fact that the cigarette contains something necessary for us so when we leave off smoking, there will be an emptiness.
Accurately understand to yourself the following:
CIGARETTES DO NOT FILL EMPTINESS, THEY CREATE IT!
Our body — the most difficult object on the planet.
Whether you believe in the Creator, process of natural selection or in a combination of these two factors regardless of which a system or the being created our bodies — it in one thousand times is more powerful, than the person!
The person cannot create even the smallest living cell, not to mention a miracle of sight, reproduction, a blood system or a brain.
If the Creator or process of natural selection assumed that we will smoke, they would supply us with some filtering device not to allow intake of poison in our body moreover and some chimney pipe in addition.
Actually our bodies are supplied with reliable signaling devices in the form of cough, dizziness, nausea and so on, and we at own risk ignore them.
Good news are in what could not be thrown, in effect.
As soon as you remove from your organism this monster, and from your head — results of promotion of smoking, you will never have neither a desire to light, nor the needs for nicotine.
Cigarettes do not improve taste of food — they destroy it.
They spoil your taste and sense of smell.
Observe at restaurant smokers who smoke between dishes.
They derive pleasure not of meal — they wait will not wait when the lunch ends as he prevents them to enjoy cigarettes.
Many of them smoke in any circumstances though they know that smoking offends non-smoking.
And the point is not that smokers are too inattentive people, and that they just suffer without cigarettes.
They are between two fires.
They have only two opportunities:
or to abstain and feel unfortunate as they cannot smoke, or light and feel unfortunate as they cause insult to other people, being conscious of guilt and despising itself for it.
Observe smokers during the official actions where they should wait for a toast for the high-ranking official.
Many of them refer to a weak bladder when they are forced to get out secretly of the hall quietly to drag on a cigarette.
At such moments it is possible to see smoking as a result of the true dependence on nicotine.
Smokers smoke not because they like to smoke.
They smoke as they without it feel unfortunate.
As many of us begin to smoke at friendly parties when we are young and timid, we begin to believe that we will not be able to derive pleasure from communication with friends without smoking.
Full nonsense!
Tobacco takes away your self-confidence.
The strongest evidence of fear to which give rise in the smoker of a cigarette — their impact on women.
All women are very choosy rather own appearance.
They cannot imagine how to appear on a secular reception, without being perfectly dressed and is delightful fragrant.
Even when they know that their breath reminds a smell of an old ashtray, it they do not disturb at all.
I know that smoking disturbs them constantly — many hate a smell of own hair and clothes and yet it does not stop them.
Such is fear which generates this awful drug in the smoker.
Cigarettes do not help at friendly parties;
they only spoil them.
You should hold in one hand a glass of wine, in another — a cigarette, at the same time trying to shake ashes and to empty the ashtray which is infinitely filled with stubs.
Making all this, you have to try not to smoke in the face to the person to whom you talk, trying to understand whether he catches a smell from your mouth and whether sees spots on your teeth.
So, you not only have nothing "to throw" — you gain delightful advantages.
When smokers reflect over whether to leave off smoking them, they seek to concentrate the attention to health, money and public condemnation.
It, undoubtedly, important and quite reasonable questions, but personally I consider that the biggest advantages in refusal of smoking — psychological:
1.
Return of courage and self-confidence.
2.
Finding of freedom from slave dependence.
3.
An opportunity to go on life, without suffering from "black holes" in consciousness:
understanding that the majority of mankind concerns you with contempt and that worst of all, you and despise yourself.
Life non-smoking is much more pleasant.
I mean not only the fact that you will become healthier and richer.
I say that you will become happier and will begin to derive much more pleasure from life.
Delightful advantages of life of non-smoking people will be discussed in several following chapters.
It is difficult for smokers to estimate this freedom from nicotine.
Perhaps, you will be helped by the following analogy.
Present that you on a face had a fever, all the known herpes, and I have the wonderful ointment helping from this illness.
I speak to you:
"Try it".
You rub ointment, and fever immediately disappears.
A week later it appears again.
You ask:
"Do you still have that ointment?", and I offer:
"Take a tube to yourself.
It can be necessary for you".
You are smeared.
And, about a miracle!
Fever disappears again.
Returning, the illness becomes more and more painful each time and affects the increasing area.
You try other ways, but nothing helps — only this wonderful ointment.
Now you completely depend on it.
You never go outside, without having checked whether took a tube.
If you go abroad, then take several packs.
Moreover, in completion to all your alarms about health I make out you a decent bill — 100 dollars for each tube.
But you have no choice except how to pay.
Later you read in a medical column in the newspaper that similar happened not only to you:
many people suffer from the same problem.
Pharmacists found out that this ointment does not treat herpes.
Everything that it does — exhausts fever under the surface of skin.
Ointment caused growth of fever, and now to get rid of herpes, you need to cease to apply ointment:
then fever, after all, will disappear.
Whether you will begin after that to continue to apply ointment?
Whether the special will power is necessary to you not to apply it?
If you did not believe article, perhaps, some more days you will doubt;
but as soon as you will see that fever decreases, the need and desire to use ointment immediately will be gone.
Whether you will feel unfortunate?
Of course not.
You had an awful problem, you considered it unsolvable, and now found a solution.
Even if on that fever disappeared completely, year, will leave every day, seeing as your state improves, you will think:
"Well, whether it is wonderful?
I am not going to die at all".
This miracle also happened to me when I extinguished the last cigarette.
Allow me to explain you analogy to herpes and ointment.
Fever is not lung cancer and not a sclerosis of arteries, not emphysema, not stenocardia, not chronic asthma, not bronchitis and not a coronary heart trouble.
All this only annexes to fever.
And it is not thousands of wasted pounds sterling, both not fetid breath, and the teeth which did not turn yellow forever, not apathy, not whistling breath and cough.
These are not decades during which ourselves smother ourselves, dreaming to cease to do it.
And it is not all those cases when we were punished for smoking in not put place.
And it not constant feeling of contempt of people around and own in addition.
All this only fever consequences.
Fever is what forces us to close eyes to all these things.
It is the panic familiar to all smokers.
"I want a cigarette!".
Non-smoking have no this feeling.
The most strong feeling which you ever experienced — fear, and the biggest benefit which you will gain — disposal of it.
I felt then as the person who unexpectedly came up from dense fog.
I suddenly clearly saw that the feeling of panic desire to light was not a consequence of my special weakness or a certain magic property of the cigarette.
It was caused by the first cigarette, and everyone the subsequent not only did not facilitate this feeling, and strengthened it.
Unexpectedly I understood that all other "happy" smokers live in the same nightmare, as I.
All of them think out hardly probable explanations (however, not worse thought up by me), trying to justify own nonsense.
AS IT IS FINE TO BE FREE!
15.
Usually smokers try to cease to smoke voluntary slavery, putting forward the main reasons health, money and social disapproval of this addiction.
Last century the people persistently fought for slavery cancellation, and still the smoker lives, having of own will sold himself under a yoke.
It seems, he does not even realize that he at those moments when it is authorized to it to smoke, would like to be non-smoking.
For the majority of the cigarettes smoked by us during life the statement is fair that we not only do not derive from them any pleasure, but we do not even realize that we smoke them.
And only after some period of abstention we begin to deceive ourselves, considering that the cigarette gives us pleasure (for example, the first morning, after-dinner and so on).
The cigarette only then gets for us the huge value when we try to smoke less or to cease to smoke absolutely or when society by force forces us to it (for example, in church, hospital, supermarket, theater already similar).
The heavy smoker has to consider that the similar trend everything amplifies.
Today it concerned subway cars.
Tomorrow — all public places.
Those times when the smoker could come to the friend or the stranger left and to ask:
"Do not you object if I light?"
Today the poor smoker, coming to the house of the stranger, convulsively looks around in search of an ashtray in hope to see in it stubs.
If the ashtray is not visible, he tries to hold on and if cannot, then asks for permission to light and, most likely, hears in reply:
"You smoke if it is necessary for you", or "Well, we would prefer that you did not smoke.
You know, the tobacco smell long does not disappear then".
The poor creature feels pettiness as it is, and here at all asks that the earth yawned and absorbed it.
I remember that when I was a smoker, each visit of church became for me severe test.
Even during the daughter's wedding, acting as the proud father, I stood and thought:
"Though all this would end quicker, then we will be able suit a smoke break".
You will be helped by observation of smokers during the similar ceremonies.
They crowd together, and at them many cigarettes are obligatory.
Packs twenty the conversation always same goes around, and:
— Do you smoke?
— Yes, you want a cigarette?
— Thanks, I will be treated later.
They get a light and deeply drag on, thinking about themselves:
"What we are happy!
We received the small award.
And poor creatures non-smoking got nothing".
But non-smoking such award is also not necessary to "poor creature".
We were created not to live, constantly poisoning own organism.
It is sad that even when the smoker smokes a cigarette, he does not feel those feelings of rest, self-confidence and tranquility which he non-smoking has all the life, free from smoking.
Sitting in church, non-smoking does not feel concern and does not want that the events ended quicker.
He can enjoy completely each moment of life.
I remember how in the winter, during firefight by snowballs, I pretended that I have a weak bladder to be washed away and smoke.
Alas, I was not a fourteen-year-old school student — but the forty-year-old accountant.
Sadly ... And even when I joined a game again, did not derive from it pleasure.
I looked forward again to its termination when I could smoke again, though it was supposed that smoking — a way to relax and derive pleasure from hobby.
For me freedom from this slavery, an opportunity to live on "the full coil", but not to spend the most part of time became the most amazing joy of life non-smoking, suffering from invincible desire to light, and then having lit, to think that I am better than it would not do!
16.
How many money will I save?
I cannot constantly cease to repeat that "brainwashing" prevents the termination of smoking and that the more the delusions created by it we will manage to disseminate before we begin, the it will be easier for you to achieve the objective.
From time to time I enter disputes with people whom I call "heavy smokers".
According to my definition, the heavy smoker — the person who can afford it, does not believe that smoking does harm to his health and which is not concerned by public censure.
(However, today such people becomes less).
If the smoker — the young man, I speak to him:
"I cannot believe that you are not concerned by money which you spend for smoking".
Usually his eyes light up.
If I started it from a position of health or public disapproval, he would feel at a disadvantage, but from a position of money — "About!
I can afford it.
It is all so many pounds sterling a week, and I think that it is worth it.
It is my one and only shortcoming (or pleasure) ..." and so on.
If he is the smoker landing about twenty cigarettes a day, I speak to him:
"I after all cannot believe that you do not worry on money.
For the life you are going to spend more than 40,000 pounds sterling.
What are you doing with this sum of money?
You not just set fire to them and do not even throw out.
In fact, you use this money to ruin the health, to loosen nerves and to lose self-confidence, carrying out all life in slave dependence, living with fetid breath and the turned yellow teeth.
It has to disturb you?" At this moment, especially if business concerns young smokers, becomes obvious that they never considered smoking in terms of lifelong expenses.
It is enough to most of smokers to know the price of one pack of cigarettes.
From time to time we count how many we spend in a week, and then this sum slightly disturbs us.
Very seldom (and only when we think to cease to smoke) we estimate how many we spend for cigarettes in a year — and this figure frightens us, and expenditure for the whole life just terrify.
However as it is a dispute, the convinced smoker will answer:
"It to me on a pocket.
I spend this money for the whole week".
He as if convinces himself.
Then I continue:
"I will make you the proposal which you will not be able to refuse.
You pay me 1000 pounds now, and I provide you with free cigarettes until the end of life".
If I suggested to concede the mortgage for 40,000 pounds sterling for 1,000, the smoker would force me to append the signature on piece of paper, without having allowed me to descend from the place.
However still any heavy smoker (and, please, consider what I told not with someone like you who plans to leave off smoking, and with in what plans it is not) did not accept my offer.
And, actually, why?
Often at this moment during my consultations the smoker exclaims:
"Listen, but I am really not concerned by the monetary party of smoking".
If you think of these words, wonder and why it does not concern you?
Why in all other life situations you what only do not do to save several pounds, and on poisoning itself, spend thousands of pounds, and it does not concern you?
Answer to all these questions idle time.
Any other decision in your life — result of analytical process of weighing of all pros and cons, that is result of logical conclusions.
When the smoker weighs all pros and cons of smoking, he every time receives the answer:
"LEAVE OFF SMOKING!
YOU are a BLOCKHEAD!" Therefore all smokers smoke not because they so want and not because they so decided, but owing to confidence that they will not be able to throw.
As a result they "rake themselves over the coals" and are forced to bury the heads in sand.
Whether it is strange that smokers conclude among themselves a bet, for example, it:
"The first who will give up pays all rest 50 pounds"?
It seems that thousands of pounds sterling which they can save really do not concern them at all.
It is because all of them still think "well processed" brains of smokers.
Shake for a minute a veil from eyes.
Smoking — chain reaction, and this chain — life long.
If you do not break off it, then will remain the smoker on for the rest of the life.
Now count, how many, in your opinion, you will spend for smoking for the life rest.
The sum, of course, will vary considerably depending on the person, but for this exercise let's accept its equal 10,000 pounds sterling.
Soon you should make the decision to smoke the last cigarette (not now, please — remember initial instructions).
Everything that you have to make to remain non-smoking, it not to get to the same trap again — that is not to begin to smoke the very first cigarette.
If you light it, then one this cigarette will cost you 10,000 pounds sterling.
If you consider that all this no more than attempt to dexterously turn out a problem under a certain corner — you still fool yourself.
Work to count how many you would save money if you did not smoke the first cigarette.
If this argument does not seem to you weighty, wonder that you felt if you on a carpet found tomorrow the check from the Littlewood's Pools company for the sum of 10,000 pounds.
You will dance from delight!
Well, and dance already!
You just about will begin to receive this prize, and it is only one of wonderful advantages which you will soon find.
During the period of disaccustoming can pull you to smoke "only one last cigarette".
It is sure, you will be able to resist temptation if remind yourself that it will cost you 10,000 pounds (or how many there at you it turned out)!
I did this offer in television and radio programs for many years.
And I cannot still understand why any heavy smoker did not accept my offer.
In my golf club there are players whom I tease every time when I hear how they complain of increase in prices for tobacco.
However, I am afraid that if I press too strongly, one of them will accept my offer, and then I should spend for it a fortune.
If you are in the company of the happy, cheerful smokers claiming that smoking brings them great pleasure tell them that you know the idiot who undertook to supply them with free cigarettes until the end of life if they pay it the sum which is spent for smoking in a year.
Perhaps, you will manage to find somebody who will accept my offer?
17.
Health Here that area in which "brainwashing" reaches the apogee.
Smokers consider that they know everything about harm of smoking for health.
Actually they do not know anything.
Even in a case with me when I waited that at any time my head will become torn, and sincerely believed that it is ready to such consequences, I nevertheless deceived myself.
If those days when I extended a cigarette from a pack, would turn on the alarm system and after this the warning voice would say:
"OK, Allen, here it!
To your happiness, you receive a warning.
It is as follows:
still you came off clear, but if you smoke one more cigarette, your head will become torn", you would think I ceased to smoke?
If you doubt the answer, walk to the main highway with heavy traffic, a postoyta on the edge of the sidewalk blindly and try to imagine that you have a choice:
to leave off smoking or cross the road blindly before taking the following cigarette.
There are no doubts in what you will choose.
I did that each smoker all the smoker does life:
closed eyes and buried the head in sand, hoping that one morning I will wake up and just will not want to smoke more.
Smokers are not able to afford to think of health hazard.
If they begin to think of it, then even illusion of receiving pleasure from this "habit" will disappear.
All this allows to explain why the shock therapy applied by mass media on National no tobacco days is so inefficient.
Only non-smoking come there to take a look.
It explains why the smokers remembering the uncle Fred who smoked forty cigarettes a day and lived up to eighty will ignore thousands of people who died in the prime of life because of the tobacco poisoning them.
About six times a week at me happen the next conversation with smokers (as a rule, to young people):
Я:
Why you want to throw?
Smoker:
It is too expensive for me.
Я:
And you are not disturbed by health hazard?
Smoker:
No, I can be hit by the bus tomorrow.
Я:
And specially you under the bus will rush?
Smoker:
Of course not.
Я:
And when you cross the street, unless you do not look at first on the left, and then to the right?
Smoker:
Of course, I look.
Exactly.
The smoker applies many forces not to be hit by the bus, and chance that it will occur, makes about hundreds of thousands to one.
At the same time the risk of harming health of the smoker tobacco is nearly 100%, and, despite this, he does not take it into account.
Such is force of impact of "brainwashing".
I remember one famous British golfer who did not go on competitions to America as was afraid to fly by plane.
Nevertheless, on the golf course he continuously smoked.
Whether it is strange:
at the slightest feeling that on the plane there is the smallest malfunction, we would never rise by its board even if the risk would be hundreds of thousands to one against death!
At the same time the risk connected with a cigarette is equal one to four, and it does not concern us at all.
But what the smoker receives in exchange?
ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING!
Other widespread myth about smoking — cough of the smoker.
Many young people who came to me to reception do not worry about the health as they do not cough.
But everything is exactly on the contrary.
Cough — one of reliable natural methods of removal of foreign matters of lungs.
Cough in itself — not a disease, is only a symptom.
Smokers cough because their lungs try to get rid of cancerogenic pitches and toxic agents.
In the absence of cough these pitches and hazardous substances remain in lungs — quite so they and cause cancer.
Smokers seek not to cough and get a habit to breathe superficially not to provoke cough.
Once I considered that I will die of this constant cough.
Now I think that, throwing out from lungs big parts of all this rubbish, it saved to me life.
Try to think of cough from a different perspective.
If you had a cool car, and you, anything is undertaken, would allow it to rust — it would be extraordinary silly as soon it would turn into a heap of rusty scrap metal and could not carry you any more.
But it — not doomsday;
there would be money, and you will be able always to buy the new car.
Your body — the car which is lucky you on life.
All know that health — the most valuable property.
As far as it is right, sick millionaires can tell you.
Almost all of us can remember the endured diseases or accidents when we prayed quicker to recover.
(AS QUICKLY ALL OF US FORGET)!
Remaining the smoker, you not only allow rust grow, without solving this problem in any way — you destroy the car necessary to go on life, and it at you only one.
So, remember:
you have no need to smoke and, the main thing — smoking is ABSOLUTE NOTHING to YOU gives.
Put out the head from sand for a moment and wonder:
if you knew for sure that the following cigarette will become that with which in your body the cancer process will begin whether you will begin to smoke it?
Forget about a disease (it is difficult to imagine it), but try to imagine that you need to address to oncological clinic to undergo all these awful procedures — radiation, etc.
It turns out that you plan not that, how exactly you will carry out the remained life, and the death.
What happens to your family and people whom you love, with your plans and dreams?
I often see people to whom it happened.
They did not think too that it happens to them;
but the most awful here even not a disease, but understanding that these people are guilty of it.
While we smoke, we say all life:
"Tomorrow I will throw".
Try to present how those who passed a threshold feel.
For them "brainwashing" ended.
They, at last, begin to understand that their "habit" represents actually and carry out the remained life thinking:
"Why I convinced so many years myself what I need to smoke?
Oh, if only I had a chance to return back!" Stop to lie to yourself.
You have a chance.
The events — chain reaction:
if you begin to smoke one more cigarette, it will lead to following, then to one and so on.
All this already happens to you.
At the beginning of the book I promised not to apply to you any shokoterapiya.
If you already resolved that you are going to leave off smoking, then for you the shock therapy and will not be.
If all of you still doubt, miss this chapter and return to it when you read the book rest.
About harm which cigarettes do to health of smokers, volumes of researches are written.
The problem only in what so far the person does not decide to stop smoking he wants to know nothing.
Even caution of the state health care system — waste of time, as in front of the smoker — blinders and if he unintentionally also reads it, then the first that will make — will light a cigarette.
Smokers are inclined to think of health hazard as about a question of tests and mistakes:
how, for example, not to step on a mine.
Remember once and for all:
your health already under the threat.
Every time, dragging on a cigarette, you inhale in light cancerogenic pitches, and cancer not the most terrible of fatal illnesses which they cause.
Nicotine — the powerful factor contributing to the development of heart diseases, atherosclerosis, emphysema, stenocardia, thrombosis, chronic bronchitis and asthma.
When I smoked, I never heard about atherosclerosis or emphysema.
I knew that the whistling breath, cough and the amplifying attacks of asthma and bronchitis — a direct consequence of my smoking.
But though they also caused in me discomfort, the real pain was not, and I somehow could cope with feeling of discomfort.
Now I can admit that probably a thought to develop lung cancer strongly of a scarecrow me and therefore I dismissed it.
It is surprising how the fear of awful health hazard connected with smoking was blocked by fear to cease to smoke.
And not because it is more terrible to leave off smoking fear cancer but because to smoke it is necessary to throw today, and he will begin to act immediately while fear to develop lung cancer — fear of the future.
Why to pay attention to the seamy sides of life?
Perhaps, it also does not happen.
Especially as by that moment I already anyway will leave off smoking.
We usually present smoking in the form of pulling of a rope.
On one party — negative:
it is the unhealthy, expensive, disgusting and enslaving habit.
On other party — pluses:
my pleasure, my friend, my support.
It seems, never came to our mind that is there, on other pole, fear too.
It is not great pleasure from cigarettes, rather we are afraid to become unfortunate, having lost them.
Think of the addicts who became addicted to heroin deprived of it;
about those humiliating sufferings which are coming them.
And now imagine their joy when to them allow to thrust a needle in a vein and to stop this terrible draft.
Try to present how someone can believe indeed that he derives pleasure from introduction of the hypodermic syringe to himself in a vein.
The addicts "sitting" not on the heroine have no this panic feeling.
Heroin does not facilitate feeling of passionate draft, on the contrary, it creates it.
Non-smoking do not feel unfortunate at all if to them do not allow to smoke after a lunch, only smokers suffer from it.
Nicotine does not remove this feeling, on the contrary, it also creates it.
The fear to develop lung cancer did not force me to leave off smoking as I considered that smoking reminds walking on the minefield.
If you could pass — great, and stepped on a mine — means, it was not lucky.
Did you know about risk at which you yourself put and if were ready to it, then what relation it has to someone else?
Try non-smoking to force to learn sometime me about threat of smoking for health, I would apply the usual tactics of evasion used by all addicts without exception.
"All of us should die of something".
Of course, you will die, but whether this statement is a good reason for intended reduction of the life?
"The quality of life is more important than longevity".
Quite right, but you, I hope, you do not claim that the quality of life of the addict or alcoholic is higher, than the person who does not have dependence neither on alcohol, nor on heroin?
Do you really believe that the quality of life of the smoker is higher, than at non-smoking?
Of course, the smoker loses more — and life at him is shorter, and he is more unfortunate.
"Perhaps, exhaust gases harm my lungs more, than smoking".
Even if it would be the truth for what to punish the lungs even more?
May you imagine somebody who would be so silly to drop a mouth to an exhaust pipe and to specially inhale these gases in the lungs?
AND SMOKERS, IN FACT, ARE ENGAGED IN IT!
Think of it next time when you watch the poor creature the smoker at the time of a deep inhaling so "precious" cigarette!
It is easy to understand why obstruction of vessels and risk to develop lung cancer did not help me to leave off smoking.
I could sustain the first and dismiss the last.
As you already know, my method consists not in frightening you until you cease to smoke, and in absolutely opposite:
I want you to understand, your life when you get rid of this addiction will be how more pleasant.
It is sure, however, that if I could see what occurs in my body, then it would help me to leave off smoking.
Now I mean not a shock method of demonstration of color of lungs of the smoker.
In view of the teeth and fingers which turned yellow from nicotine, me it is obvious that my lungs — not the most pleasant show.
But, continuing to function, they cause smaller awkwardness, than teeth or fingers — at least, nobody sees my lungs.
I told you about gradual contamination of arteries and veins, about strengthening of oxygen starvation of each muscle and each body of our body, about deprivation of their nutrients which are replaced with toxic agents and a monoxide of carbon (it nothing but the carbon monoxide which is contained not only in exhaust gases of cars, but also in tobacco smoke).
As well as most of motorists, to me does not like a thought of dirty oil or the filter in the engine of my car.
Can you imagine that you buy new model of "Rolls-Royce" and never change in it either oil, or an oil filter?
But we so persistently do it with our bodies when we smoke.
Today many doctors connect practically all types of diseases with smoking, including diabetes, cervical cancer and breast cancer.
It does not surprise me.
The tobacco industry used many years inability of physicians to scientifically prove that smoking — the direct cause of lung cancer.
Statistics on this question so stuns that does not need proofs.
Nobody ever explained to me scientifically why when he beats a thumb with the hammer, it so strongly hurts.
It already reached me.
Has to emphasize that I — not the doctor, but as well as in a case with the hammer and a thumb, it became obvious to me soon enough that obstruction of vessels and my constant cough, frequent attacks of asthma and bronchitis are directly connected with smoking.
However I am absolutely sure that the biggest threat which smoking poses for your health is the gradual and consecutive deterioration in the immune system caused by process of contamination of an organism.
All plants and animals on our planet are constantly subject to the attacks from microbes, viruses, parasites already similar.
The most powerful protection against diseases which is available for us — the immune system.
During life all of us have infectious and other diseases.
Each person suffers from any troubles.
However I do not believe that the human body is arranged so that to be ill, and if you — the strong and healthy person, then your immune system will fight and protect you from these attacks.
But whether your immune system when you deprive each muscle and each body of the body of oxygen and nutrients can effectively work, replacing them with a monoxide of carbon and other toxic substances?
Not so much smoking causes all these diseases:
it works by the principle of AIDS, that is gradually destroys your immune system.
Some negative effects of impact of smoking on my health (of which I suffered from other for many years) became visible only many years later after I left off smoking.
While I was strongly busy, despising those idiots and blockheads who will lose legs rather, than will leave off smoking, did not come to my mind that I suffer from atherosclerosis too.
I considered constant gray color of the person natural or charged to a lack of physical exercises.
Never came to my mind that it is caused by obstruction of capillaries.
By thirty years I got a varicosity which wonderfully disappeared after I ceased to smoke.
Years in five years before leaving off smoking, I felt strange numbness of legs.
It was not the acute pain, as from needles or pins, but very disturbing feeling.
Every night Joyce was necessary to do me foot massage.
And did not come to my mind that I do not need it any more, year since that moment as I left off smoking did not pass yet.
Years for two before I left off smoking, I had severe pains from time to time in a breast which as I was afraid, were caused by lung cancer:
now I understand that it were stenocardia attacks.
Since I "got stuck", I had no attack.
When I was a child, any my cuts plentifully bled.
This scarecrow me.
Nobody explained to me then that bleeding — natural and important salutary process and that when curative action is complete, blood is displaced.
I suspected that I have a hemophilia, and was afraid that I will bleed profusely to death.
Later during life I had quite deep cuts too, but they hardly bled — some red-brown dirt exuded.
Color of blood caused in me concern.
I knew that it has to be scarlet, and considered that I have some disease of blood.
I enjoyed its density which meant that I will have no plentiful bleedings any more.
Only after I left off smoking, I learned that smoking condenses blood and that its brownish shade was caused by a lack of oxygen.
At that time I did not guess this investigation, but looking back at the past I understand that this manifestation of impact of smoking on my health fills me with the greatest horror today.
When I think of the poor heart trying to pump this dirt on the narrowed blood vessels day by day having done not pass any push, I consider by miracle that I did not have a heart attack.
It forced me to be surprised not to that, our bodies are how brittle, and these improbable cars are how strong and smart!
After forty I on hands had "old age spots" (the pigmentary brown and white spots which are found on a face and hands at elderly people).
I tried not to pay attention to them, considering that they are caused by the early aging of an organism caused by an active rich life which I conducted.
Once in clinic I heard a remark of one person that after he ceased to smoke, at it this pigmentation disappeared.
I did not smoke five years, and absolutely forgot about the spots — and what my surprise when I saw that they disappeared too was!
As long as I could remember, every time when I sharply got up, especially taking a bath, at me before eyes circles floated.
I felt giddy as if just about I will faint, but never connected it with smoking and was convinced that it is absolutely normal and is observed at all.
And still five years ago the former smoker did not tell me that he does not have this feeling any more, did not come to my mind that I too do not test it any more.
You can draw a conclusion that I am a hypochondriac.
I believe that I also was him while smoked.
Smoking fools us, forcing to believe that it installs in us courage when actually it gradually and imperceptibly deprives of us it.
I remember the shock when my father told that he would not like to live up to fifty.
It is unlikely I assumed that in twenty years I will have a similar lack of "thirst of life" too.
You can consider this chapter too terrible and gloomy and doubt its need.
I assure you:
it is necessary!
In the childhood I very much was afraid of death.
I believed that smoking will help me to cope with this fear.
In some sense, it also helped, having replaced that fear with something infinitely the worst:
FEAR TO LIVE!
Now my fear to die returned, but does not disturb me so strongly any more:
I understand that it exists only because life brings me pleasure.
I think of fear of death, as in the childhood not so much at all.
I lead full life and is too busy for this purpose.
I, probably, have no chances to live years up to hundred, but I will try.
Besides:
I will try to derive pleasure from each invaluable moment of life!
There are two more advantages of healthy life which never came to my mind until I left off smoking.
The first — the termination of the repeating nightmares tormenting me every night.
Dreamed me that I am pursued.
I can assume that these nightmares were result of deprivation of nicotine during the night and that feeling of vulnerability which caused its absence.
Now the only nightmare which visits me — a dream that I lit again.
This dream is rather widespread among the former smokers.
Some worry that it means subconscious melancholy for a cigarette.
Do not worry about it.
I consider that it shows your joy that you became non-smoking.
There is a light slumber zone after any nightmare when you wake up not quite confident in reality — however how pleasantly then to realize that it was only the dream!
When I described that every night someone chases me in a dream, I gathered instead of "prosecution" — "chastity" [9] once.
Perhaps, it was one of "typos according to Freud", but she prompted to me as it is the best of all to pass to the second advantage.
In clinics, investigating impact of smoking on ability to concentrate, I sometimes say:
"What body of your body most of all needs good inflow of blood?" Silly grins of men demonstrate that they not absolutely understood the meaning of a question.
Nevertheless, they are absolutely right.
Being an old-fashioned Englishman, I find this subject quite awkward, and I have no slightest intention to go deep into the details concerning the harmful effects made by smoking on my own sexual activity and pleasure or on sexual activity of other former smokers with whom I discussed this subject.
I will tell only one:
did not cease to smoke yet, I did not guess this impact of smoking and referred the sexual daring and activity (to be exact their absence), into the account of the passing years.
Having watched educational films, you learn that the basic law in the nature is survival, and the second — survival of a look or reproduction.
The nature guarantees that reproduction will not happen if partners do not feel physically healthy and are not sure that ensured safety of the territory, an opportunity to live and the suitable partner.
The male ingenuity allowed us to change a few these rules, however, I know for sure that smoking can lead to impotence.
I can also assure you that having felt free and healthy, you will begin to derive much more pleasure from sex and will be able to enjoy it much more often.
Smokers often are mistaken, considering that negative consequences of smoking are strongly exaggerated.
In practice everything is on the contrary.
There are no doubts that cigarettes — the main reason for death in our society.
The problem is that in many cases when cigarettes become a cause of death or are an aggravating factor, statistics does not lay blame on them.
It is counted that 44% of the fires in houses are caused by smoking.
Interestingly, how many it was caused by them the car accidents happening during those several moments when you look away from the road to light?
I am quite careful driver, but most closer approached death (apart from smoking process in general) when tried to curtail a cigarette driving.
I do not like to think of that how many times with a fit of coughing the cigarette took off at me from a mouth, risking to fall gdenibud between seats.
I think that all drivers smokers have this experience:
to try to drive one hand the car, and another — to attach the lit cigarette somewhere.
"Brainwashing" results in tendency to argue as the person falling from the hundred-story building.
Flying by the fiftieth floor, he noticed:
"So far everything goes well".
We consider that we if came with smoking so far, one more excess cigarette will change nothing.
Try to look at a situation differently:
"habit" is a life long continuous chain as each cigarette creates the need for following.
Problem only that YOU DO NOT KNOW MATCH LENGTH.
Every time, getting a light a cigarette, you become one step closer to explosion of a bomb.
FROM WHERE YOU KNOW THAT IT WILL NOT TURN OUT FOLLOWING?
18.
Energy Most of smokers know about impact which is made on lungs by process of gradual contamination of blood vessels, oxygen starvation and the shortage of nutrients.
However they do not know about how it affects the power level of an organism.
One of artful features of a trap of smoking is that the impact on our physical and intellectual state made by this process happens so gradually and imperceptibly that we do not even guess it and regard it as normal.
In many respects impact of smoking reminds effect of habits of improper feeding.
The pot-belly is formed so gradually that its growth does not cause in us concern.
Looking at people with an excess weight, we do not understand how they were able to afford to reach what state.
Now let's imagine that all this happened for one night.
You went to bed the slender person weighing 65 kg, with relief muscles and without fat gram in an organism.
When you woke up, your weight reached 85 kg, you became the thick, grown fat person with a decent paunch.
Instead of jumping, feeling well rested and full of strength, you woke up feeling unfortunate and sluggish, and hardly razlepit eyes.
Probably, you would be captured by panic:
with what terrible disease did you get sick at night?
But all this the same disease — just you will come to a similar state in 20 years.
If I could move in a flash your body and a brain in time to allow you to compare as you will feel, having ceased to smoke only for three weeks, it would be enough to convince you to leave off smoking.
You would think:
"Really I will really feel so perfectly?" But it is equivalent thoughts:
"Really I really fell so low?" I will emphasize that I do not mean only your physical health and energy:
you will feel much more surely and more freely, and will concentrate much better.
I remember how I rushed on the world the teenager.
Having passed a thirty-year boundary, I constantly felt the increasing fatigue and apathy.
It was very heavy to me to wake up at nine in the morning.
After dinner I laid down on a sofa to watch TV and as a rule in five minutes began to be sleepy.
As my father behaved likewise, I considered similar behavior normal.
I thought that the vigor is an exclusive prerogative of children and teenagers, and an old age, in my opinion to opinion, began somewhere after twenty.
Having finished smoking the last cigarette, I soon with relief felt that cough and obstruction of vessels disappeared, and together with them passed also attacks of asthma or bronchitis.
Besides there was also something really unexpected:
I began to wake up at seven in the morning, feeling completely well rested and full of strength.
Now I want to do exercises in the mornings, to jog and float.
In forty eight years I could not run a step, could not float meter.
My sports activities were limited to its such dynamic types as the bowling (which is gently called "a game of old men") and golf in which I had to move on "buggy" [10].
Now, in sixty four, I daily run two-three miles, I do exercises within half an hour and I float twenty distances.
To be valid — it is remarkable and when you feel physically and intellectually strong, joy of life comes.
Of course, when you stop smoking, physical and intellectual health is recovered too gradually.
But it is not similar to sliding in a hole at all.
If now you endure the failure brought by a will power method, then any improvements of health or financial acquisitions will be erased against the background of a depression which to you not to pass.
Unfortunately, I cannot instantly postpone you to three weeks ahead.
But you can!
Instinctively you know that I tell the truth.
Everything that needs to be made — to USE the IMAGINATION!
19.
Smoking relaxes me and instills confidence It is the worst of all illusions connected with smoking and, in my opinion, in the list of delusions it goes after slave dependence.
The biggest prize acquired at refusal of smoking the fact that you should not walk on life any more with constant feeling of diffidence which all smokers have.
Cigarettes generate the feeling of panic arising when you stay at home without them late at night.
Non-smoking do not suffer from similar feeling — it is generated by nicotine.
I learned about many advantages of refusal of smoking only many months later after I itself left off smoking, during consultations with other smokers.
Twenty five years I refused to resort to medical care.
If I insured the life, then tried to save on insurance premiums, insisting on the policy which is not covering expenses on medical care and as a result — paid much more.
I hated visiting hospitals, doctors or stomatologists.
I did not cherish an idea of aging, pension and so on.
I did not connect any of the above-mentioned phenomena with "habit" to smoking, however disposal of it was similar to night awakening from a nightmare.
Today I look forward to each new day.
Of course, in my life it happens also bad, and I am subject to action of stresses and overfatigue — but as it is wonderful to be sure that I will be able to cope with them!
Moreover, and minutes of joy become much more pleasant when you feel inflow of health, energy and self-confidence.
20.
Ominous black shadows freedom with the feelings of fear and fault saddening our consciousness will become One more joy of disposal of smoking.
All smokers understand that they are blockheads, but close eyes to harmful consequences of smoking.
During the most part of life we smoke absolutely automatically, and in our subconsciousness black shadows always hide.
There are several surprising advantages which you will find, having ceased to smoke.
I perfectly knew about some of them following from the gloomy parties of smoking, for example, about health hazard, waste of money and the total nonsense of the most this occupation when I was a smoker.
However the fear to cease to smoke was so strong, the thought of it so frightened me that I resisted any attempts of the people who were wishing well to me and trying to convince me to throw this addiction.
All my imagination and energy were directed to finding any though the most lame excuses which would allow me to continue to smoke.
Surprisingly, but the wittiest of them occurred to me then when I tried to leave off smoking.
They, of course, were cast by fear and torments which I underwent, trying to make it by means of a will power method.
Yes, to block the mind from understanding of waste of money and health hazard there was no opportunity.
But now, when I was released, strikes me, how successfully I managed to be closed from vision of even more significant advantages which the person finds, leaving off smoking.
I already mentioned absolute slave dependence of the smoker:
to carry out a half of life waiting for permission to light, in automatic smoking and a secret regret that in general began all this.
Other part of the life we feel unfortunate and deprived as society does not allow us to smoke.
In the previous chapter I described amazing joy of return of energy.
But for me not money, health, energy or the termination of slave dependence, and elimination of fear and shame, saddening my consciousness were the greatest joy in release from smoking.
I most of all was happy that I got rid of feeling that I am despised, and from sense of guilt before non-smoking, and most of all — opportunities to return self-esteem.
Most of smokers — not weak-willed, spineless weaklings what they are usually considered also by society, and they are.
I completely controlled all other parties of the life, though was nasty to myself that I depended on harmful tobacco which — and I perfectly knew it — ruins my life.
I cannot describe to you the absolute delight caused by feeling of freedom of disposal of dependence and contempt for itself.
I cannot tell you what this happiness — to have an opportunity to look at all other smokers (not very well, young or old, inveterate or smoking occasionally), without feeling of envy, and with feeling of pity to them and joy for other people who too escaped from artful slavery.
The final two chapters were devoted to considerable advantages of life of non-smoking.
It seems to me that it is necessary to balance a system therefore the following head will list advantages of existence of smokers.
21.
Advantages of the smoker.
22.
The will power method In our society is considered that it is difficult to leave off smoking.
Even to leave off smoking those books which are advised, usually begin with the description as it will be difficult for you to make it.
In fact it to ridiculous is easy.
Yes, I can understand your doubts in truthfulness of the made statement, but accept it, please, in attention.
If your purpose is to run mile less than in four minutes, it is difficult.
Most likely, you should pass in years of the strengthened trainings, and even then, perhaps, you will not be able to make it.
(The most part of our achievements happens at us in mind.
Whether it is strange, it was how difficult until Bannister [11] did not manage to set up the record, and today it is a commonplace)?
However to leave off smoking, it is necessary to make the only thing:
!!! not to smoke any more.
Nobody forces you to smoke violently (apart from you) and, unlike food or drink, you do not need to smoke to survive.
Therefore it is unclear why, actually, it has to be difficult for you to leave off smoking?
Actually process of refusal of smoking is at a loss application by the smoker of a method of will power.
According to my definition, the Method of Will power is the any method forcing to feel the smoker that he makes a certain sacrifice.
Let's consider it in more detail.
We did not make the decision to become smokers.
With those, the first cigarettes, we just experimented and as their taste was terrible, were convinced that we will be able to stop when we want.
Mostly we smoke those first several cigarettes completely only having made effort, and usually it happens in the company of other smokers.
Before realizing that occurs, we already not only regularly buy cigarettes and we smoke them when we want, and just we smoke every day.
Smoking already became a part of our life.
We always check whether took cigarettes.
Our way to opinion, tobacco does parties and lunches more pleasant and helps to reduce stress.
It seems, does not even come to our mind that the taste of the same cigarette from the same pack smoked after a lunch does not differ from taste of the first morning cigarette at all.
In fact, smoking was never capable to improve meal or I will meet friends, and it does not reduce stress at all.
No, smokers just believe that they will not be able to derive pleasure from a lunch or to cope with a stress without cigarette.
Usually on realizing that we became addicted to smoking, a lot of time as we amuse ourselves with illusion that smokers smoke because derive pleasure from cigarettes, but not leaves because are forced.
Without deriving pleasure (and we never receive it) from cigarettes, we stay in delusion that we can throw when we want.
Usually we are mistaken until we try to leave off smoking really, and only then we learn about existence of this problem.
Almost always we make the first attempts right at the beginning, and usually they are caused by the shortage of money (the boy meets the girl, and they decide to save up money to equip a nest, and do not want to spend money for cigarettes) or care of health (the teenager still actively does sports and finds out that began to have short wind).
No matter for what reason, the main thing — that the smoker always waits for a stress situation — in the monetary sphere or in the sphere of health.
As soon as he ceases to smoke, the small monster begins to demand some food.
The smoker wants to smoke the cigarette and as he cannot smoke, it forces it to suffer even more.
Cigarettes which it usually applied to simplification of a stress are inaccessible to it more and therefore he with the trebled force wants to smoke.
The compromise becomes possible result of the period of self-torture:
"I will reduce smoking", or "I chose a wrong time", or "I will wait until life becomes quieter".
However, as soon as tension decreases, also need to cease to smoke therefore the smoker decides to wait disappears.
It is, of course, a vicious circle as eventually for most of people the life becomes not less intense, and more.
We go from under guardianship of parents to the world to create the house, to contract debts, to bring children, to pass to more responsible position already similar.
The smoker's life will never become less intense as cigarettes generate a stress.
In process of increase in a dose of the consumed nicotine also sufferings of the smoker, and with them and his delusion about own dependence on cigarettes grow.
In fact, confidence that life becomes more and more intense — delusion and smoking or similar support generate it.
In more detail on this subject we will stop further, in Chapter 28.
After the first failures the smoker usually begins to hope that having woken up one day he any more will never want to smoke.
The similar hope is warmed up by baizes about other ex-smokers.
(For example: "I had a heavy flu, and after it I just did not want to smoke more").
Do not deceive yourself.
I investigated similar rumors, and in actual fact all of them turned out not such simple what looked at first sight.
Usually the smoker trained himself for leaving off smoking and simply used flu as a springboard.
I lived more than thirty years in hope that one morning I will wake up and I will nevermore want to smoke.
But at appearance of pains in a breast I looked forward to their termination as they prevented me to smoke.
Most often people who easily left off smoking are those who endured shock.
Perhaps, their close relative died because of the disease caused by smoking, or they endured a strong fright.
Of course, now it is easy for them to say:
"Once I just decided to leave off smoking.
Here what I well done!" Stop to deceive yourself!
Nothing will occur without your efforts.
Let's try to understand why to leave off smoking by a will power method so difficult.
The most part of life we live by the principle of an ostrich, burying the head in sand, according to the motto:
"I will leave off smoking tomorrow".
From time to time something serves as a push to what we try to leave off smoking.
Care of health, money, public condemnation can be the cause, or especially heavy attack of suffocation after which we understand that we do not derive any pleasure from smoking can happen to us.
Whatever was the reason, we put out the head from sand and we begin to weigh all pros and cons of smoking.
Then we come to what knew all life about:
on the basis of logical assessment only one conclusion is possible — it is NECESSARY to LEAVE OFF SMOKING!
If you sat down and put down points to from one to ten all advantages of the decision to leave off smoking, and then would make the same with advantages of smoking, the total amount of the points given leaving off smoking much more would move shortcomings of this decision.
Nevertheless, though the smoker also knows that it is much better for it to be non-smoking, he sincerely believes that, leaving off smoking, he makes an inconceivable sacrifice.
Though only the delusion, but is very strong delusion.
The smoker, itself without knowing why, believes that cigarettes help him both with a grief, and with joy.
Before he makes an attempt to leave off smoking, he already properly "will be raked over the coals" by society, and then he will increase this idea, "raking" himself over the coals, owing to own dependence.
It is necessary to add even more convincing procedure to it:
reasoning on "As It Is Difficult to Leave Off Smoking".
He heard a set of baizes about smokers who left off smoking many months back, but still desperately want to smoke a cigarette.
He met also those smokers who managed to leave off smoking, but since then stayed not in the spirit of (those who left off smoking, and spend the rest of life, mourning this fact).
He was told also about the smokers who were not smoking for many years who conducted happy life, and then, having smoked only one cigarette, again became dependent.
Perhaps, he even itself knows several smokers who are at late stages of a disease when cigarettes slowly, but obviously kill them, and they do not derive from them absolutely any pleasure — and still continue to smoke.
In completion to everything, he, perhaps, already and itself was influenced by one or several of above-mentioned experiences.
Therefore instead of beginning to throw with feeling:
"Cool!
Did you hear news?
I do not smoke any more", it begins with feeling of despondency and inevitability of destiny as though was going to scramble on Everest.
He is firmly convinced that as soon as the small monster sticks into you the claws, you fall into dependence for the rest of life.
Many smokers even begin attempt to leave off smoking from apologies before friends and relatives:
"You know, I will try to cease to smoke.
Perhaps, within the next several weeks I will be irritable.
Try to bear me".
The majority of similar attempts are doomed to a failure initially.
Let's assume that the smoker manages to sustain several days without cigarette.
His lungs are quickly cleaned.
He did not buy cigarettes and, respectively, in its purse there is more money.
Therefore those reasons because of which he, first of all, decided to cease to smoke quickly disappear at him from the head.
It is all the same that to consider road accident, passing by by car.
What was seen forces you some time to go more slowly, but then you remember that you are late for a meeting which absolutely took off at you from the head, and the leg itself presses the accelerator pedal.
On other party of a rope — the fact that the small monster which sat down at your belly did not receive the dose.
This feeling does not cause physical pain:
if similar discomfort was it is caused by cold, you would not stop working and would definitely not be depressed.
You would try to wrap up everything for fun.
The smoker knows one:
he wants a cigarette.
He also does not understand why it is so important for it.
Then the small monster in a belly starts a big monster directly in your brain, and the person who some more hours or days listed back a set of the reasons which he stops smoking rushes in desperate search of any justification to begin to smoke again.
He argues approximately so:
1.
Life is too short.
At any time a bomb can be detonated.
Tomorrow I can be hit by the bus.
I left off smoking too late.
And cancer, speak, presently causes everything.
2.
I chose a wrong time.
I should have waited till Christmas (the end of a holiday or still for any important event in life).
3.
I cannot concentrate.
I become irritable and I gain bad temper.
I cannot work, properly.
My friends and family will cease to love me.
It is necessary to admit honestly:
for the sake of the relatives I have to over again start smoking.
I am the convinced smoker therefore it is just impossible that I could be happy without cigarette.
(I continued to smoke this reason within thirty three years).
Usually at this stage the smoker gives up.
He begins to smoke a cigarette, and schizophrenia amplifies.
On the one hand, when the small monster, after all, receives the dose, there comes the great relief caused by the termination of passionate draft to smoke.
On the other hand, if it managed to hold on for a long time, the taste of cigarettes seems to it disgusting, and the smoker cannot understand why he smokes.
Therefore he also considers that it lacks will power.
Actually, it is not the shortage of will power;
everything that he needs to make — to change consciousness and to make absolutely reasonable decision in the light of the last information.
Whether there is a sense to be healthy if you at the same time are unfortunate?
In what sense to be rich if you at the same time suffer?
Absolutely any sense!
It is much better to live the short life full of pleasures, than long, but unhappy.
Fortunately, everything is exactly on the contrary:
life of non-smoking it is infinite more pleasantly.
But this delusion led me to the fact that I smoked within thirty three years, and has to recognize:
if it turned out to be true, I and continued to smoke (more true, I here would not be any more).
Sufferings experienced by the smoker have nothing in common with physical sufferings which are usually expected from the disaccustoming period from nicotine.
However, they can be an incitement to them, but in reality these tortures happen in mind, raise them doubts and uncertainty.
As the smoker begins to leave off smoking with the idea of bringing of the victim, he feels deprived, and it is a peculiar form of a stress.
When the brain speaks to him:
"Smoke a cigarette", is the moment of a stress.
Therefore as soon as he stops smoking, he wants a cigarette again.
But now he cannot smoke as he threw.
It forces it to feel so suppressed that it puts all system in action again.
Process of throwing complicates to smoke one more factor — expectation that just about there has to be something.
If your purpose is to pass the test for driving of the car, you achieve the objective as soon as passed it.
According to a will power method you tell yourselves:
"If I am able to hold on long enough without cigarettes, then desire to smoke, after all, will pass".
How you learn that you achieved the objective?
Focus is that you never learn it as you wait that just about there has to be something, and there is nothing to occur more ... You stopped smoking when smoked the last cigarette.
Now you, in essence, observe how will pass much time before you give up.
As I already told, the agony tested by the thrown smoker — intellectual, generates it uncertainty.
Though it is also not followed by physical pain, but nevertheless makes strong impact:
the smoker is unfortunate and is not self-assured.
He cannot forget about smoking, it is pursued by thoughts of cigarettes.
For it days or even weeks of black melancholy can come, and doubts and fears seize reason:
"How the thirst for smoking will long proceed? Whether" "To a camp I sometime again happy? Whether" "I will want to get up sometime in the morning? Whether" "I will be able to derive pleasure from food sometime again?" "As I will cope with stresses in the future? Whether" "I will begin to derive pleasure from society of friends again?" The smoker waits that everything just about will change for the better, but, naturally, while he is in dejectedness, the cigarette gains for it the increasing and great value.
Something after all really happens, but the smoker of it does not realize.
If it could hold on three weeks absolutely without smoking or intake of nicotine in other form, then the physical thirst for it disappears.
However, as it was already told, torment of disaccustoming from nicotine are so insignificant that the smoker also does not know about them.
Approximately in three weeks many smokers feel that they "finished" this business.
Then they begin to smoke a cigarette to prove it, and — the end!
The taste of a cigarette is terrible, but now the ex-smoker entered a dose of nicotine and as soon as he finishes smoking a cigarette into the organism, nicotine will begin to leave his body again.
In the depth of consciousness of the smoker the silent voice immediately will begin to sound:
"As there is a wish one more cigarette!".
Yes, he finished smoking, but now again made himself dependent.
Usually the smoker begins to smoke the following cigarette not at once.
He thinks:
"I do not want to become dependent on nicotine again".
Therefore it allows to pass to some safe period which can be hours, days and even weeks.
Now the ex-smoker can tell:
"Well, as I did not become addicted to smoking again, I can smoke absolutely quietly one more cigarette".
He got to the same trap again, and already chose a slippery slope.
Smokers who managed to leave off smoking by means of a will power method usually say that it was the difficult task which took away a lot of time.
This results from the fact that the main problem consists "in brainwashing", and for a long time after the physical dependence on nicotine dies away, the smoker is depressed without cigarettes.
After all, if it manages to hold on long enough, begins to reach it that he can not give up.
Then he stops being depressed and perceives as due that life remains pleasant and without cigarettes.
Many smokers manage to achieve success, applying a similar method, but it is very difficult, and failures meet much more more often than victories.
Even those who manage to refrain from smoking live in the wounded state.
They did not get rid of a consequence of "brainwashing" and still believe that minutes of a grief or joy the cigarette can give good support.
(The majority of non-smoking stay in similar delusion as too are subject to impact of "brainwashing".
But they or understand that they cannot learn "to derive pleasure" from smoking, or do not want to be influenced by its negative consequences — for what to them many thanks).
Is explained by it why many smokers who for a long time ceased to smoke start over again.
Many ex-smokers smoke a cigarette from time to time:
or as "a special treat" or to convince itself, what they after all nasty.
Everything occurs quite so, but as soon as they finish smoking, removal of nicotine from an organism begins, and the low voice in the depth of consciousness raises the song again:
"You want one more cigarette!" If they light one more, its taste is same disgusting, and smokers say:
"Wonderfully!
While I do not derive pleasure from smoking, I will not become dependent on it.
After a Christmas/holiday/trauma I will cease to smoke".
Too late.
They became addicted already again.
The trap to which they got right at the beginning demanded the victim again.
As I constantly repeat, in smoking there is no pleasure.
And never was!
If we smoked just for the hell of it, nobody ever would begin to smoke more than one cigarette.
We consider that we enjoy smoking only because we cannot believe that we are so silly to smoke, without deriving any pleasure from cigarettes.
That is why in our smoking there is a lot of unconscious.
If during smoking of each cigarette you were aware about quantity and effect of the hazardous substances coming to lungs you should tell yourself:
"So, in total for all life it will cost me 50,000 pounds sterling, and, maybe, this cigarette will become that with which cancer process in lungs will begin".
But in this case even illusion of receiving pleasure will be gone.
Trying to block the mind from negative sides of smoking, we feel silly.
And if we had to reconcile with them, then it would become intolerable!
If you observe smokers, especially when performing public functions, then will understand that they are happy only when do not realize that they smoke.
As soon as they understand it, as a rule, begin to feel is guilty and it is awkward.
We smoke to feed a small monster ... and as soon as you remove it from your body and mind, you will have neither a need, nor desire to smoke.
23.
Be afraid of smoking reduction Many smokers resort to smoking reduction as to temporary means on the way to complete cessation or as to attempt to establish control over a small monster.
Many doctors and consultants recommend to reduce smoking as support.
It is obvious that the less you smoke, the feel better.
But reduction of quantity of the smoked cigarettes is fatal as an intermediate stage before complete cessation of smoking.
Attempts to reduce smoking hold us in this trap all life.
Usually reduction of smoking follows the failed attempts to leave off smoking.
In several hours or days of abstention from smoking the smoker tells himself something it seems:
"I cannot take out a thought of existence without cigarette therefore, from this time, I will smoke only special cases or I will reduce smoking to ten cigarettes a day.
If I am able to pass to a habit to smoke ten cigarettes a day, then I will be able or to keep at the same level, or to further reduce this quantity".
Immediately quite certain and unpleasant things begin to happen to the smoker:
1.
To it there was a worst.
It is again dependent on nicotine and supports life of a monster not only in a body, but also in mind.
2.
Now he wants that waiting for the following cigarette his life flowed quicker.
3.
Earlier, before attempts to reduce smoking, he just automatically lit, than, at least, at least partially eased disaccustoming torments.
Now, in addition to common stresses and tense life situations, he provokes own sufferings caused by disaccustoming torments from nicotine and tormenting its most part of life.
Therefore he forces itself to be unfortunate and to have bad temper.
4.
While he indulges the desires, he does not derive pleasure from the majority of cigarettes and does not even realize that he smokes them.
Everything is automatic.
The only cigarettes from which, according to him, he derives pleasure are the cigarettes smoked after the abstention period (for example, the first cigarette in the morning, after a lunch and so on).
Now, waiting before a cigarette additional hour, he "derives pleasure" from each cigarette.
Than longer the smoker waits, especially pleasant it becomes for him;
as "pleasure" from a cigarette is not a cigarette, but the end of the disorders caused by thirst for nicotine (it is unimportant whether weak it is physical draft or intellectual melancholy).
The longer you suffer, the each cigarette becomes "more pleasant".
The main complexity in refusal of smoking — not chemical dependence.
It is just easy.
Smokers all night long exist without cigarettes;
desire to smoke does not even awake them.
Many of them at first will leave the bedroom before light.
Others will even have breakfast.
Some do not smoke, will not arrive to work yet.
Smokers are able to live within ten hours without cigarette, and it does not disturb them at all.
If they tried to hold on without cigarettes ten hours in the afternoon, they would become to tear the hair.
Buying the new car, many of them do not smoke in it.
Without feeling excessive discomfort, smokers visit supermarkets, theaters, doctors, hospitals, stomatologists and so on.
Many abstain from smoking in the company of non-smoking.
Even in trains of the subway there were no public disorders.
Smokers are almost glad when somebody says to them what cannot be smoked.
Actually they derive secret pleasure from existence without smoking during the long periods of time.
It gives hope to them that once they, maybe, will not want to smoke any more.
When you leave off smoking, the main problem is "in brainwashing", in delusion that a cigarette — a certain form of support or an award and that without it life never will be former any more.
The idea to reduce smoking does not lead you to total rejection of it, and leaves with feeling of uncertainty and pity to itself and convinces that the most valuable thing in the world — the following cigarette.
Therefore it is just impossible to imagine that in the future you became happy without cigarette.
There is nothing more sad, than the smoker trying to reduce smoking.
He suffers from delusion that the less he smokes, the less to it will be wanted to smoke.
In fact everything is exactly on the contrary.
The less he smokes, the longer suffers from disaccustoming torments, the more enjoys a cigarette and the its taste becomes more disgusting.
But also it does not stop it.
The taste of cigarettes was never taken into account.
If smokers smoked because derive pleasure from taste of cigarettes, then nobody ever would smoke more than one cigarette.
It is difficult for you to believe in it?
Well, let's clear it.
At what cigarette the most disgusting taste?
Correctly, at the first cigarette in the morning — that which in winter time provokes cough and an otkharkivaniye.
What cigarette the most valuable to smokers?
Correctly, the first cigarette in the morning!
Well, you really sincerely believe that you smoke to derive pleasure from taste and a smell of cigarettes?
Or you consider that more rational explanation is that you just ease nine-hour torments of disaccustoming?
Before you finish smoking the last cigarette, we have to discredit all delusions connected with smoking.
If you do not dispel illusion that you like taste of certain cigarettes before extinguish the last, you have no chances to prove it in practice, without having become again dependent.
So, light (if only you do not smoke any more) right now.
Make six deep inhalings, having gathered full lungs of smoke of this magnificent tobacco, and wonder:
"What, actually, it magnificent contains in this taste?" Perhaps you consider that only certain cigarettes have a good taste, for example, at a cigarette after a lunch.
If this is so, then why then you smoke all others?
Because got used to smoke?
Why people get a habit to smoke cigarettes which taste they consider unpleasant?
And how it can be that the same cigarette from the same pack developed a different taste depending on time of day?
The taste of food does not change after a cigarette, so why the taste of a cigarette becomes another after a meal?
Do not trust in me blindly, check:
consciously smoke a cigarette after a meal to make sure that in its taste there is nothing unusual.
The reason for which the smoking people believe that the taste of cigarettes becomes better after a lunch or at parties with alcohol is that at such moments and smokers, and non-smoking are really happy.
However the addict depending on tobacco will never be able to become happy if the small nicotinic monster remains unsatisfied.
Not so smokers also enjoy taste of a cigarette after a lunch:
we do not eat tobacco from where its taste undertakes?
Business only that smokers are unfortunate if to them do not allow to facilitate disaccustoming symptoms from nicotine.
Therefore the difference between smoking and no smoking is a difference between feeling of happy and unfortunate.
That is why it seems that the taste of cigarettes at some moments is better.
Smokers who at once light in the morning are unfortunate irrespective of, they smoke at present or not.
Reduction of quantity of the smoked cigarettes not only does not work, but also is the most severe torture.
It does not work as the smoker hopes that, getting used to smoke less and less cigarettes, he will be able to reduce the desire to smoke.
But it is not a habit.
It is dependence, and the nature of any dependence is in wishing more and more, and it is not less and less.
Therefore to reduce smoking, the smoker should show will power and discipline for the rest of the life.
The chemical dependence on nicotine is not the main problem in refusal of smoking.
It is easy to cope with it.
The main problem — wrong belief that cigarettes bring you pleasure.
This wrong belief is initially created by "brainwashing" which happens still before we begin to smoke, and then amplifies real dependence.
The only thing that in fact does smoking reduction — enhances this delusion, leading up it to such an extent that smoking begins to dominate completely over the smoker's life, forcing it to believe that the most valuable thing on the earth is the following cigarette.
As I already spoke, smoking reduction all the same never works as you should show will power and discipline for the rest of the life.
If you have not enough will power to throw, then it especially will not be enough to reduce smoking.
To leave off smoking much easier and less painfully.
I heard literally about thousands of cases when reduction of smoking came to an end with failure.
Several successful attempts of which I know were reached by the sharp termination of smoking after quite short period during which the smoker reduced quantity of the smoked cigarettes.
Actually they ceased to smoke contrary to smoking reduction, but not thanks to it.
Everything that it gave them — extension of an agony.
The unfortunate attempt to reduce smoking leads to full shaking of nerves of the smoker who even more convinces himself that his dependence on nicotine — lifelong.
Usually it is enough to force it to continue to smoke within the next five years before he makes the next attempt to throw.
However reduction of smoking helps to see full uselessness of smoking as visually illustrates that a cigarette it gives pleasure only after the abstention period.
You need to cease to be up against a blank wall to feel how it is wonderful not to do it.
So, before you the following choice:
1.
To reduce smoking on for the rest of the life that will become voluntary self-torture, and, besides, it is almost impracticable.
2.
To continue to smother itself during the remained life.
What's the big idea?
3.
To treat itself with love and to cease to smoke.
Reduction of smoking shows also one more important thing:
such concept as "accidental cigarette", does not exist.
Smoking — chain reaction which will last all life until you do not make sure efforts to break off this chain.
YOU REMEMBER:
REDUCTION OF SMOKING WILL RUIN YOU!
24.
"Only one cigarette" "Only one cigarette" — the myth which we have to dismiss.
With this, "only one" cigarette, in general our smoking began.
The "Only one cigarette" allowing us to hold on in hard time or smoked on a visit destroys the majority of our attempts to leave off smoking.
"Only one cigarette" in case the smoker manages to break own dependence on smoking, is capable to trap him again.
Sometimes the smoker lights only to make sure that cigarettes are not necessary to him any more, and — this cigarette crosses out all his efforts.
Its taste is terrible that convinces the smoker that he will nevermore become dependent on smoking — and it already got.
The thought of one "special" cigarette often prevents smokers to cease to smoke.
The first cigarette in the morning or a cigarette after a lunch.
Firmly understand:
there is no such concept — "only one cigarette".
Smoking — chain reaction which will last the rest of your life until you consciously do not break off it.
The myth about special cigarettes or a cigarette occasionally brings smokers into suppressed mood when they leave off smoking.
Take for a habit never to dream of an accidental cigarette or a pack of cigarettes — all this only freak of the imagination.
As soon as you think of smoking, imagine the life full of contempt during which you pay a fortune for doubtful privilege to ruin the intellectual and physical health, for life in slavery, for life with fetid breath.
It is a pity that there is nothing similar to a cigarette that could be used minutes of a grief and joy as rare support or pleasure.
However accurately understand to yourself that the cigarette does not give either support, or pleasure.
You or will get stuck in a depression for the rest of life, or not.
Will not you begin to dream of arsenic only because you like taste of almonds?
Therefore stop to punish yourself a thought of an accidental cigarette.
Ask the smoker:
"If you had an opportunity to return back when you did not fall into dependence on smoking yet, you would become a smoker?" The answer is always identical:
"You what, you scoff?" But, nevertheless, each smoker has similar choice in every day of his life.
Why he does not make the choice?
The answer one — fear.
The fear that it will not be able to cease to smoke or that life without cigarettes never will become former any more.
Stop to deceive yourself.
You will be able to make it.
Any will be able.
It is very (!) easy.
There are several certain principles which need to be acquired accurately it was easy to leave off smoking.
By the present moment we considered already three of them:
1.
There is nothing to throw, in principle.
It is only possible to gain delightful benefits which you also receive.
2.
Never think of "an accidental cigarette".
It does not exist.
There is only a life full of diseases and troubles.
3.
Your situation is not unique at all.
Any smoker can come to conclusion that it is easy to leave off smoking.
Many consider that they are "incorrigible" smokers or are simply inclined to smoking.
I assure you, such concept does not exist.
Before people become addicted to drug, they have no need to smoke.
Nicotine generates your dependence, but not a certain special property of your personality.
It is effect of influence of drugs, they force you to believe that you are inclined to their use.
However it is important that you discredited this belief:
if to believe in the dependence on nicotine, then you will depend on it even after death of a small nicotinic monster in a body.
It is necessary to eliminate also all consequences of "washing" of brains.
25.
Irregular smokers, teenagers, non-smoking Heavy smokers are inclined to envy those who smoke occasionally.
To all of us similar characters met:
"Oh, I can live the whole week without cigarette, and it does not disturb me at all".
We think:
"Kind of I wanted that also I so could".
I know, it is difficult to believe, but any smoker does not like to be a smoker.
Do not forget:
• Any smoker never made decisions to become the smoker (not very well, regular or any other).
• All smokers feel like fools and therefore:
• All smokers are inclined to lie to themselves and others in vain attempt to justify own nonsense.
Once I was a fan of golf.
But I bragged of that how many times I played, and wanted to play even more.
Why smokers brag of how a little they smoke?
If it is true criterion, then to achieve original admiration, undoubtedly, it is necessary not to smoke absolutely.
If I told you:
"I whether you know, can live the whole week without carrots, and it does not disturb me at all", you would decide that I, undoubtedly, the loony.
If I like carrots, then why I want to live without it the whole week?
If I do not derive from it pleasure, then why to me to make the similar statement?
Therefore when the smoker says:
"I can live the whole week without cigarette, and it, actually, does not concern me at all", he tries to convince also you and himself that it has no problem.
Actually he tells approximately following:
"I managed not to smoke the whole week".
As well as any other smoker, he, perhaps, hopes that after that it will manage to hold on without smoking and for the rest of the life.
But he managed to live only a week, so what value, has to be, the cigarette by which it was deprived so long got for him?
That is why at those people who smoke occasionally the dependence on nicotine is in fact much stronger, than at heavy smokers.
At them not only illusion of pleasure is more, but they practically also do not seek to leave off smoking as they spend less money and are less subject to risk for health.
You remember: the only pleasure which is derived by the smoker is simplification of torments of disaccustoming, and as I already explained, even this pleasure — only illusion.
Present a small nicotinic monster in your body as a constant itch, so insignificant that the most part of time you do not even notice it.
The most natural motivation at a constant itch — to be scratched.
When the organism more and more gets used to nicotine, the habit to smoke one cigarette for another becomes absolutely natural.
It is possible to allocate three main reasons keeping smokers from continuous smoking of cigarettes.
1.
MONEY.
It simply is too expensive for the majority.
2.
HEALTH.
We are forced to accept poison to ease disaccustoming torments.
The ability of the person to cope with poison changes in various situations and during the different periods of his life.
She acts as automatic restriction.
3.
DISCIPLINE.
It is dictated by society or working conditions of the smoker or maybe friends and relatives, or the smoker — as result of the persistent fight continuing in mind of each smoking person.
Earlier I considered a habit to smoke cigarettes one behind other weakness.
I could not understand how my friends manage to limit quantity of the cigarettes smoked in day and to reduce it to ten or twenty.
It is sure that I was very strong-willed person.
Never came to my mind that most of smokers simply not can smoke without interruption as for this purpose it is necessary to have very strong lungs.
Heavy smokers are inclined to envy those who smoke five cigarettes a day.
Perhaps, these people smoke so poorly just because owing to the constitution cannot smoke more;
or because it is too expensive for them to smoke more;
or because of conditions of their work or society.
And maybe, and because their hatred to own dependence does not allow them to smoke more cigarettes.
Perhaps, at this stage it will be useful to give several definitions.
Non-smoking.
The person never getting to this trap, but who should not be proud of it.
It — non-smoking only By the grace of God.
All smokers were sure that they will never become dependent, and some non-smoking continue to try to smoke a cigarette from time to time.
Irregular smoker.
There are two main types of irregular smokers.
1.
The smoker who already got into a trap, but does not understand it yet.
Do not envy them:
they just try nectar from predatory plants and, most likely, soon will become heavy smokers.
You remember:
as all alcoholics begin with accidental glasses, and all smokers at first smoke occasionally.
2.
The smoker who was before a heavy smoker, thinking that he will not be able to leave off smoking any more.
These smokers also cause the greatest pity.
They belong to several categories, each of which demands separate comments.
The smoker smoking five cigarettes a day.
If he derives pleasure from cigarettes then why he smokes only five cigarettes a day?
If to it all the same, then why then in general to smoke?
(I hope, you remember that this "habit" means actually — to fight the head about a brick wall with the purpose to feel pleasure when you cease).
The smoker smoking five cigarettes a day eases own torments of disaccustoming less than for an hour a day.
All rest of the time though he also does not realize it, he "is up against a blank wall", and it proceeds the most part of his life.
He smokes only five cigarettes a day as he or is not able to afford to smoke more monetary reasons, or worries about own health.
It is easy to convince the heavy smoker that he does not derive pleasure from smoking, and try to convince of it the irregular smoker.
Any who passed through attempt to reduce smoking, knows that it is the most sophisticated of all tortures which practically for 100% guarantees that you will remain are dependent on nicotine on for the rest of the life.
The smoker, the smoker only in the morning or only in the evening.
It punishes itself(himself) suffering from disaccustoming torments during the first half of day to facilitate them in the second half.
Besides, ask it:
"Why if he likes to smoke, he does not smoke throughout the day and if he does not like to smoke, then why it in general does it?" The smoker who began or left off smoking six months ago.
(Or "Oh, I can throw when I want. I left off smoking one thousand times").
If he likes to smoke, then why he stopped smoking for six months?
If he does not derive any pleasure, then why he began to smoke again from smoking?
The fact is that it still is in nicotine addiction.
Though it also got rid of physical dependence, it had main problem — "brainwashing".
Every time he hopes that he will leave off smoking forever, but soon again gets to a trap.
Many smokers envy those who throw and begin to smoke again.
They think:
"As they were lucky that they can control smoking, that is smoke when want and to throw when wish".
However they always miss the fact that people who begin leave off smoking, do not control smoking process at all.
When they smoke, they secretly dream not to smoke.
When they — non-smoking, dream of smoking.
If you think, it will become clear that this statement is fair also for all other smokers.
When it is authorized to us to smoke, we or take it for granted, or we want to be in general non-smoking.
Cigarettes get for us value only when we cannot smoke.
Such is an awful dilemma of smokers.
They will never be able to win as they hope for illusion.
Only one way conducts to a victory:
to cease to smoke and to stop to be depressed.
The smoker "I smoke only a special occasion".
Yes, all of us begin with it.
But whether it is surprising how the quantity of special cases, and here before we realize it promptly grows, we begin to smoke at the slightest pretext.
The smoker "I threw, but from time to time I smoke a cigarette or a cigar".
In a sense, similar smokers cause the greatest pity.
They or live, including themselves deprived, or that happens much more often, their accidental cigar turns into two.
They remain on the slippery path conducting only in one party — DOWN.
Sooner or later they should become heavy smokers again.
They get again and again to the same trap to which got earlier.
There are two more categories of irregular smokers.
The first type — the smokers smoking only an accidental cigarette or a cigar at parties.
Actually, they are non-smoking.
They do not like to smoke.
It only their feeling that they miss something.
They want to be in the thick of things.
All of us begin similarly.
Next time, when cigars will go around, pay attention as after a while participants cease to drag on them.
Even heavy smokers cannot wait for an opportunity to extinguish a cigar.
They with bigger hunting would prefer to smoke own cigarettes.
The more expensively and more cigar, the is heavier to smoke it — it seems that this chertova piece should be procrastinated all night long.
Smokers of the second category are rather rare;
from thousands of people asking me for the help, I can remember only about ten examples.
Here one of them.
I was called by the woman who registered in a personal meeting.
She is a lawyer, smokes about twelve years, and for all this time never smoked any more or less than two cigarettes a day.
By the way, she is very strong-willed and resolute lady.
I explained to her that the success of group classes is not lower at all individual, and anyway I conduct individual reception only if the person is so famous that it will lead to failure of work of group.
She began to cry, and I could not resist tears.
Consultation costs much;
and most of smokers will be at loss, first of all, why she in general wanted to leave off smoking.
They with pleasure would pay me the sum of the bill which I made out that lady, only smoking two cigarettes a day.
They make a mistake, considering that those who smoke occasionally, more happily and can control "habit".
Perhaps, also can, but are precisely happier.
In our case both parents of this woman died from lung cancer before she became addicted to smoking.
As well as I, it awfully was afraid of smoking, did not smoke the first cigarette yet.
As well as I, it eventually fell the victim of strong pressure and tried the first cigarette.
As well as I, it still remember its disgusting taste.
However unlike me who was capitulating and quickly enough become the heavy smoker, it desperately resisted falling.
Everything that ever was pleasant to you in a cigarette, is the termination of thirst for it irrespective of whether she is called by almost imperceptible physical dependence on nicotine or torture of mind which source — the ban to scratch the itching place.
Cigarettes in itself — poison and a muck.
That is why you suffer from illusion of receiving pleasure from cigarettes only later some period of abstention.
Like feelings of hunger or thirst, the longer you suffer from them, the feel more pleasures when you, at last, satisfy them.
Smokers make a mistake, considering that smoking — only a habit.
They think:
"If I managed to reduce smoking to a certain level or if I could smoke only special cases, then my body and reason would agree with it.
Then, if it wants to me, I will be able to keep quantity of the smoked cigarettes at the same level or even still to reduce it".
Accurately understand:
there is no "habit".
Smoking is a drug addiction.
The natural aspiration can be considered the aspiration to ease disaccustoming torments, but not to prolong them.
Even desire to hold smoking at the same level at which you are now, will demand from you will power and discipline during all remained life:
as the immunity of your organism to drug grows, you want to smoke more and more, and it is not less and less.
As nicotine begins to ruin your physical and intellectual health and to loosen your nervous system, confidence in Sebha and own forces, all of you will be less capable to resist the aspiration to reduce intervals between cigarettes.
That is why right at the beginning we still can smoke or not smoke.
If we catch cold, then we stop smoking.
It explains why the people of my type who never had illusions that derive pleasure from smoking were forced to continue to smoke one cigarette for another, despite of the fact that each cigarette became the real physical torture.
Do not envy that woman.
When you smoke only one cigarette in twelve hours, it becomes for you the most valuable thing in the world.
Within twelve hours the poor woman was in persistent fight against herself.
She could not leave off smoking, at the same time terribly was afraid to increase consumption of nicotine because of fear to develop lung cancer as her parents.
But she had to struggle with temptation within twenty three hours and ten minutes every single day.
The huge will power was required to make it managed what and as I already spoke, such cases are rather rare.
But, eventually, it after all made her cry.
Look at a situation in terms of logic:
or smoking contains genuine pleasure and support, or at all there is nothing.
If in it though something is, then who will want to wait for hour, day or week?
Why during certain time the people refuse to themselves receiving pleasure or support?
And if in smoking there is no sheer pleasure or a support, then why then in general to smoke?
I remember other case, with the man who smoked five cigarettes a day.
It began phone conversation with a hoarse voice:
"Mister of Carrhae, I just wanted to leave off smoking before I die".
Here is how this person described the life.
"I am sixty one years old.
Because of smoking I got throat cancer.
Now I can physically smoke only five roll-ups a day.
Earlier I slept tight all night long.
Now I wake up each hour, and the only thing what I can think of, is a tobacco.
Even when I sleep, I dream to smoke.
I cannot smoke the first cigarette in the morning till 10 o'clock.
I get up at 5 in the morning and I drink uncountable cups of tea.
My wife gets up around eight and as now I have absolutely disgusting character, she does not allow me to remain in the house.
I go to the greenhouse and I try to be engaged in something, but I am persistently pursued by thoughts of smoking.
In nine I begin to twist the first cigarette and I twist it until it does not become ideal.
Not that it was necessary for me that it was ideal, it is simple to me is, than to be engaged.
Then I wait for 10 hours.
When time approaches, my hands begin to shiver uncontrolledly.
I do not get a light a cigarette at once.
If I light, then I should wait for three hours to following.
After all, I light, I do one inhaling and at once I extinguish a cigarette.
Continuing thus, I can drag out smoking of one cigarette at the whole o'clock.
I smoke a cigarette while from it there is no quarter of inch (0.6 cm), and then I wait following".
In addition to all its adversities, the poor creature burned to himself both lips as smoked cigarettes almost till the end.
Perhaps, you had an image of the full moron.
But it at all not so.
This person — the former sergeant of marines.
Earlier it did athletics and did not want to become the smoker at all.
However in the last war the society considered that cigarettes give courage, and all soldiers were given soldering of cigarettes.
He was actually ordered to become the smoker.
He spent the life rest, spending a fantastic sum for cigarettes and spending funds of taxpayers for own treatment — all this completely ruined his health and undermined vital forces.
Be it not the person, and an animal, society would take pity on it and stopped his tortures, however we live and we continue to resolve physically and to intellectually healthy teenagers to become dependent on smoking.
You can think that the given case — exaggeration.
Yes, it is an extreme case, but not unique.
Thousands of similar stories are known to me literally.
That man unburdened to me the heart, but can be sure that his many friends and acquaintances envy him as he smokes only five cigarettes a day.
If you think that to you there will be nothing similar, STOP to DECEIVE YOURSELF.
IT ALREADY HAPPENS TO YOU.
Anyway, smokers are the unscrupulous liars lying even to themselves.
They are forced to lie.
Most of irregular smokers smokes much more cigarettes and much bigger quantity of occasions, than admit.
I led many discussions with so-called "five-cigarettes-pass" - smokers during whom they smoked more than five cigarettes only at my presence.
Observe irregular smokers at parties, for example, at weddings and birthdays.
As well as most of other smokers, they will continuously smoke.
You should not envy irregular smokers.
You should not smoke at all.
Life it is infinite more with pleasure without cigarettes.
As a rule, it is much more difficult to cure teenagers, at all not because it seems to them that it is difficult to leave off smoking.
They or do not believe that they became addicted to nicotine, or still are at an initial stage of a disease and suffer from illusion that will manage to throw before pass to the second stage.
Especially I would like to warn parents of children who hate smoking that they had no false feeling of safety.
All children hate a smell and taste of tobacco, will not become addicted to it yet.
At the time you did not like smoking too.
Also be not deceived by the state campaigns against smoking.
The trap remains same what was always.
Children know that cigarettes kill, but still they perfectly understand that one cigarette will not kill.
At a certain stage they can get under influence of the friend or girlfriend, schoolmate or fellow worker.
Perhaps, you consider that they need just to try to begin to smoke one cigarette which taste will be so terrible that they will never become addicted to smoking.
It seems to me that inability of society to prevent hit of our children in dependence on nicotine and other drugs — the most sad of all numerous sad parties of the problem discussed by us.
I reflected over it much and wrote the book (which appeared in Russian in Kind Book publishing house) which purpose is to address a problem of how to save our children from addiction to smoking and how to help them to get rid of it if they already became addicted.
The vast majority of the teenagers who are becoming dependent on more dangerous drugs for the first time get acquainted with a concept of chemical dependence when get to a nicotinic trap.
Therefore helping them to avoid it, you considerably will reduce risk that they will become addicted to more dangerous drugs.
I ask you, leave complacency in this question.
It is necessary to protect teenagers at the earliest age and if you have children, I insistently advise you to read my book.
Even if you suspect that your child, perhaps, already became addicted to drug, the book will provide you the great management which will help to cure it.
26.
The secret smoker of the Secret smoker it would be necessary to refer to the same category, as irregular, however impact of secret smoking is so artful that deserves separate chapter.
It can quite lead to a rupture of personal relations.
In my case it nearly led to a divorce.
There passed three weeks from my unfortunate attempt to leave off smoking.
The concern of the wife concerning my constant cough and the whistling breath was the cause to try.
I told it that I do not worry about own health.
She answered:
"I know that you do not worry, but kind of you felt if it was forced to observe as someone whom you love, systematically does itself harm?" This argument seemed to me incontestable from where there was an attempt to throw.
It ended with failure three weeks later after the rough quarrel with the old friend.
Only after many years reached me that my lost mind specially started that dispute.
I awfully was upset.
I do not think that it was mere coincidence, I never quarreled with this friend to, after that.
It is absolutely clear that it is work of a small monster.
Anyway, I received an excuse.
I desperately needed a cigarette therefore I started over again smoking.
To me it was intolerable to think what disappointment will bring the decision again to begin to smoke to my wife therefore I told nothing to her.
I smoked only alone.
Gradually I began to smoke in the company of friends until at last the situation reached that all around, except my wife, was known that I smoke.
I remember how I was happy.
I thought:
"Well, at least, I reduce nicotine consumption".
After all, the wife accused me of what I continue to smoke.
I did not realize it, but she listed me all those cases when I began a quarrel and in rage took off from the house.
In other situations at me two hours to buy some trifle left and if earlier I invited the wife to keep me the company, then now found muffled excuses to go to one.
As in society the abyss between smokers and non-smoking spreads, there is a set of cases when communication with friends or relatives is limited or even stops because of disgusting addiction to tobacco.
The most awful that secret smoking supports illusion at the smoker that he something is deprived.
Besides, it leads to serious loss of self-esteem:
the honest person is forced to lie to relatives and friends.
Perhaps, something similar happens also to you.
It happened to me several times.
Did you sometime watch the detective soap opera "Colombo" on television?
The subject course is identical to all series.
The criminal, usually wealthy and dear businessman, makes that he considers "perfect murder" which to open, according to him, is impossible.
His confidence in impunity gets support when he learns that legal investigation is entrusted to externally unsightly and not making a strong impression detective Colombo.
Colombo has an unpleasant habit to close a door after the end of interrogation, kind of assuring the criminal that it is out of suspicions, but before from the face of the murderer the expression of satisfaction disappears, Colombo appears with words again:
"You can explain only one small misunderstanding, the sir which, I am sure ..." The Suspect begins to falter, and from this point both we, and he know that Colombo will gradually press it.
During this moment to me it became absolutely unimportant how disgusting was the committed crime, and my sympathies were on the side of the murderer.
I as if itself was on the place of the criminal — quite so forced me to feel these attacks of secret smoking.
I remember long hours during which I could not smoke, and then made the way in a garage for the sake of an inhaling furtively, or ten minutes shivered on cold, being perplexed why smoking does not bring me usual pleasure.
I remember fear that I will be caught red-handed.
And suddenly the wife will find my hiding place where I hide cigarettes the lighter and stubs?
I remember the simplification when I managed to make the way to the house unnoticed, and behind it at once — again fear that she will guess a nicotine smell from clothes or my breath.
Every new day lived in these fears I understood more and more clearly that sooner or later I will be caught by all means.
Final humiliation and I was ashamed when it, at last, occurred after what immediate return to continuous smoking followed.
OH, THESE PLEASURES OF LIFE OF THE SMOKER!
27.
Public habit?
The main reason why in Great Britain from 60th years of the 20th century left off smoking more than 15 million people, was that revolution in public opinion which took place in relation to smoking.
Yes, he agrees:
health and money — good reasons on which we have to want to leave off smoking, but they existed always.
At all it is optional to argue on threat of cancer to prove that cigarettes destroy our life.
Our bodies are the most perfect objects on the planet, and any smoker at once, from the first inhaling, knows that smoking is destructive.
The only reason for which we are involved in smoking is pressure from friends.
Existing weighty "plus" of smoking only ever was the fact that once it was regarded as absolutely acceptable public habit.
Today it is conventional (and even by smokers) that smoking — an antisocial habit.
In olden days strong people smoked.
If you did not smoke, then considered you the weakling therefore all of us diligently tried to become addicted to smoking.
In each pub or bar most of men is proud inhaled and exhaled clouds of cigarette smoke.
Inside the constant cloud of smoke hung, and ceilings which bleached seldom, always were yellow or brown.
Today the situation cardinally changed, and the strong person does not have need to smoke.
Today strong people do not depend on drugs.
Today, owing to social revolution, all smokers seriously consider refusal of smoking, and smokers in principle regard as weaklings.
The increasing attention to the antisocial party of smoking became the most significant trend which I noted from the moment of an exit of the first edition of this book in 1985.
Times when smoking was proud sign of the experienced lady or cool guy, forever sank into oblivion.
Today everyone knows:
the only reason which people continue to smoke is that their attempt to leave off smoking failed, or they are afraid even to try.
As the smoker is daily condemned by means of the administrative bans or the expanded bans on smoking in public places and he constantly suffers attacks from hypocritical ex-smokers — manners of smokers also change.
Recently I became again the witness of situations which I remember since childhood, but did not see them for many years.
For example, I did not see for a long time that smokers shook ashes in a palm or a pocket as it is awkward to them to ask an ashtray.
A few years ago I was at restaurant.
Time was later, all stopped eating.
At this moment when usually all smoke cigars and cigarettes around, any person in the hall did not smoke.
I self-confidently thought:
"Aha!
It seems, I begin to make an impression".
Having addressed the waiter, I asked whether it is possible to smoke at this restaurant.
The answer was affirmative.
I thought:
"Strange ... I know that many leave off smoking, but there has to be at least one smoker here".
After all, someone in a corner lit, and the flash of sparks which blew over restaurant became result.
Possibly, all other smokers sat and thought:
"Well, I cannot smoke here alone!" Many smokers will not begin to smoke today between dishes as they feel awkwardly.
Many not only apologize to the people sitting with them at one table but also look around to make sure that they will not cause someone's disapproval.
Every day more and more smokers leave the sinking ship and therefore those who remain by it begin to be afraid that they will become the last.
DO NOT ASSUME that it were you!
28.
The choice of time Apart from an obvious hint that now to cease to smoke the most suitable time as smoking does not bring you benefit, I, nevertheless, is convinced that the choice of time is crucial.
Our society trifles of smoking, as of slightly unpleasant habit which can do harm to health.
It's not true.
Smoking — drug addiction, a disease and the murderer "number one".
To become dependent on nicotine — it is awful, but to remain dependent on it all life — even more terribly.
The choice of time for treatment from nicotine addiction has huge value for success.
First of all, determine those moments or events when smoking seems to you absolutely necessary.
If you — the businessman also smoke because of stress relief illusion, choose the period of relative calm, for example, time of annual vacation.
If, as a rule, you smoke with boredom or idleness, proceed from this, having chosen an opposite state.
Anyway treat a problem seriously and make this attempt the most important event in life.
Glance in the future for three weeks ahead and try to foresee any event which can lead to failure.
Such events as wedding or Christmas, should not hold you provided that you expected them long before and therefore you will not feel deprived.
Do not try to reduce meanwhile smoking as it only strengthens illusion about pleasure from a cigarette.
In fact it helps only one:
with a great effort to push whenever possible bigger quantity of any rubbish into the throat.
Smoking the last cigarette, well realize its terrible smell and taste, and think how it will be wonderful when you dare to cease to smoke.
THAT YOU DID, DO NOT COME ACROSS IN THE TRAP AGAIN, TELLING ONESELF:
"NOT NOW.
LATER".
DISMISS THIS THOUGHT.
DEVELOP OWN SCHEDULE RIGHT NOW AND LOOK FORWARD.
You remember:
you do not refuse anything, and are going to make wonderful acquisitions.
For many years I constantly claimed that I know more about the mysteries of smoking, than someone another in the world.
The biggest problem consists in the following:
though each smoker smokes facilitating chemical thirst for nicotine, keeps it in state of dependence not the need for nicotine, but "brainwashing" — result of this dependence.
Even the clever person falls into a trap when abuse his trust.
Fortunately, most of smokers — not fools;
they only consider themselves fools.
How many smokers — are so much methods of "brainwashing".
That is why it seems that there is a set of various types of smokers that only complicates situation.
Relying on experience of long-term correspondence and meetings with smokers which I accumulated from the moment of the first publication of this book, and remembering that I learn new about smoking daily, I was pleasantly surprised, having understood that the philosophy which I offered to discussion in the first edition, still works.
Experience which I gained for the next years concerns how to impart this knowledge to each certain smoker.
My own knowledge of what any smoker can find out that it is easy to leave off smoking and even to derive from this process true pleasure, it does not make any sense if I am not able to give him to the smoker.
Many spoke to me:
"You advise:
"Continue to smoke, you will not read the book yet".
It brings to that, something at the smoker years on reading it leave, or he just does not read up it up to the end.
You should change this instruction".
Sounds logically, but I know that if the instruction followed:
"Leave off smoking immediately", some smokers even would not begin to read.
At the very beginning of my activity to me the smoker with whom I consulted met.
He told:
"Really it is not pleasant to me that I am forced to resort to your help.
I know that I am a person strong-willed.
Everything is in any other area of life at me under control.
Why occurs so what all other smokers manage to leave off smoking, using will power, and I should go to you?" It continued:
"I think that I could throw and itself if it was possible to smoke while I do it".
The similar statement can seem contradictory, but I understand what he meant.
We consider that to leave off smoking — difficult business is impossible.
What do we need if we need to make something difficult?
We need our little girlfriend — a cigarette.
Therefore the refusal of smoking seems "double blow".
Before us not only a difficult task which should be executed:
what we usually leaned in similar situations on, is inaccessible.
Still long time after this man left, did not come to my mind that the instruction to continue to smoke — a highlight of my method.
You can continue to smoke while you overcome process of throwing to smoke.
At first you get rid of all the doubts and fears and when you extinguish that, the last cigarette — you already became non-smoking, and it is pleasant to you.
The only chapter which forced me to call serious in question the initial council is the present chapter devoted to a question of the choice of the correct time.
Above I advised that if for you occasions to smoke a cigarette are stressful situations at office, take a vacation and make attempt to leave off smoking and vice versa.
Actually it is not the easiest way.
The easiest way is to choose what you consider most hard time that to make it, it is unimportant, whether a stress it, or a secular meeting, the moment of concentration or boredom.
As soon as you prove that you can cope with it and derive pleasure from life in the most awful of possible situations — any other situation will become easy.
But if I gave you the similar accurate instruction whether you sometime made an attempt to leave off smoking?
Allow me to draw an analogy.
We with the wife gather to swim for a while.
We come to the pool at the same time, however seldom we swim together.
The reason is that it immerses fingers of legs in water and only half an hour later begins to float.
I cannot take out such slow torture.
I foreknow that irrespective of water temperature in the pool, I, after all, am going to decide to swim for a while.
Therefore I learned to do it in the easiest way:
I dive at once.
Now we will assume that I would begin to insist that if it does not dive at once, then will not be able to float at all.
Are you sure:
she will not begin to swim absolutely.
Now you understand what the problem consists in?
From responses I know that many smokers used my initial council concerning the choice of time;
to postpone that day which, according to them, will become in the terrible afternoon.
Came to my mind further to use the same technique which I applied in chapter devoted to advantages of smoking.
I would write something it seems:
"The choice of time is very important, and in the following chapter I will give to you advice what time can be considered the most suitable and when you have to make an attempt to leave off smoking".
You turn the page, and there only capital letters RIGHT NOW.
It is the best council, but whether you will follow it?
Here in what the most artful feature of a trap of smoking consists.
Stress — the wrong time to cease to smoke, and in the absence of a stress — is not present also desire to throw.
Ask yourself the following questions.
When did you smoke that, very first, a cigarette whether really you decided that you will continue to smoke for the rest of the life, all days of life, every day, without having an opportunity to cease?
— OF COURSE NOT!
Whether you are going to continue to smoke for the rest of the life, all days, every day, without having an opportunity to cease?
— OF COURSE NOT!
So, when you will cease to smoke?
Tomorrow?
Next year?
In a year?
Whether about it you constantly wonder ever since when you for the first time understood that you became addicted to smoking?
Do you really hope that in one wonderful morning you will wake up, and you will have no more desire to smoke?
Stop to fool yourself.
I waited that it happens to me, within thirty three years.
Having got to drug addiction, you are gradually involved more and more, and it is not less.
Do you think, tomorrow it will be easier?
Do not deceive yourself.
If you are not able to make it today what forces you to think that tomorrow it will be easier?
You are going to wait until you actually get one of the diseases conducting by death?
But it is a little senseless ... As the real trap serves the belief that today — not the most suitable time, and will be easier tomorrow.
We believe that we conduct intense life.
Actually it not so.
The heaviest stresses are already endured.
Leaving the house, you do not live in fear that you will be attacked by wild animals.
Most of us should not worry, where to take food next time or where to find a roof over the head this night.
Think of how there lives a wild animal.
Every time, getting out of the mink, the hare risks the same as the soldier in the combat zone.
However the hare manages with these to cope.
Yes, it has adrenaline and other hormones — but we have them too.
The truth is that the most intense periods in life of any being — the childhood and youth.
Three billion years of natural selection prepared us for coping with a stress.
I was five years old when war began.
Our house was destroyed by bombing, and I were it is separated from parents for two years.
I was lodged at people who treated me badly.
It was the unpleasant period of my life, however I could cope with it.
I do not think that it left eternal hems in my soul;
it is rather, he made me stronger.
When I look back at the life, in it there is only one what I could not cope with — slave dependence on damned tobacco.
A few years ago I considered that all "cosmic sadness" fell upon my head.
I was on the brink of suicide — not in the sense that was going to jump off from a roof, and that I knew:
smoking will soon kill me.
I was sure that to continue to live without support — cigarettes — just are not necessary.
I then did not understand yet that when the person is in a condition of physical and intellectual oppression, everything enrages him around and it seems awful.
Now I feel as the boy again.
The only thing that changed in my life — I got out of a nicotinic trap.
I know that expression "If at you is not present health — you have nothing" — a literary stamp, but it is absolutely fair.
Earlier I considered fans of fitness narrow people.
I claimed that in life there are more interesting things, than feeling of cheerfulness, for example, alcohol and tobacco.
All this utter nonsense!
When you feel physically and intellectually strong, you can enjoy rises and cope with falling.
We confuse responsibility and a stress.
Responsibility begins to be followed by a stress only when you do not feel in yourself enough forces that to bear it.
Richarda Bartona [12] of our world are strong and physically and intellectually.
They are destroyed by not vital stresses, not work and not age, and addictions which they consider "support" to which help resort also who, unfortunately, only illusions.
It is sad to understand, as in case of Richard Barton and in millions of other similar cases, such "support" kills.
Let's look at a situation from a different perspective.
You already made the decision that you are not going to remain in a trap for the rest of the natural.
Therefore at some point of life, it is unimportant whether it will be easy or difficult for you, it is necessary to pass through release process.
Smoking — not a habit or pleasure.
It is drug addiction and a disease.
We already established that the statement "will be easier to be left off smoking tomorrow" — far from the truth as eventually it becomes harder and harder to leave off smoking only.
When it comes to a disease which gradually progresses, suitable time to recover — RIGHT NOW (or as soon as possible as far as you will manage it).
Think as days of our life quickly fly by — all also is told these.
Think as it would be exciting to enjoy the joy of life which is not saddened by these ominous shadows of fault and fear.
But if you follow all my instructions, you will not need to wait also for five days.
Having extinguished the last cigarette, you not only will find out that it is easy to leave off smoking:
IT WILL BE PLEASANT TO YOU!
29.
Whether I will miss a cigarette?
No!
As soon as the small nicotinic monster dies and your body will cease to test thirst for nicotine, the remains of "brainwashing" will disappear.
Then you will find, as physically, and are intellectually capable to cope with vital stresses and loadings much better.
Besides:
you will begin to enjoy life to the full extent.
There is only one serious danger — influence of the people continuing to smoke.
"In others yard the grass is always more green" — the known proverb applicable to many parties of our life, and it is quite clear.
Why in case of smoking where minuses are numerous and obvious in comparison with illusory "advantages", the ex-smokers are inclined to envy smokers?
Considering intensity of the process of "brainwashing" begun in the childhood, it is easy to see why we, clearly understanding as far as smoking a thankless job, and having even got rid of this habit, we go straight to the same trap again.
It is influence of smokers.
Usually it happens at parties, especially after meal.
The smoker lights, and the ex-smoker tests a pain attack.
It is surprising anomaly, especially if to take data of researches into account:
everyone non-smoking in the world is happy that it is non-smoking;
each smoker on the planet, the victim of "brainwashing", depends on delusion that smoking is pleasant to it or relaxes him — but also it would never prefer to become dependent too.
So, why some former smokers envy smokers, having got, for example, for birthday?
1.
"Only one cigarette".
You remember:
it is illusion.
Stop to perceive this party as a unique event, look at it from the point of view of the smoker.
Perhaps, you envy it — but and he does not approve himself, envying you.
Begin to watch other smokers;
they can become for you a powerful support which will help you to get out.
Note how cigarettes quickly burn down and as quickly the smoker should get a light following.
Pay special attention to what he not only does not realize that smokes a cigarette, but even gets a light it automatically.
You remember: he does not derive pleasure from smoking — he cannot just derive pleasure without cigarette.
Still keep in mind that he is going to continue to smoke and having left your company.
The next morning, having woken up with feeling that inside it has the real garbage can, it will continue to smother itself(himself) all the same.
The smoker is constantly forced to drag for himself a chain of the dependence:
having felt once again breast pain;
on the next National no tobacco day;
every time, having unintentionally noticed prevention of a health care system on a pack of cigarettes;
next time, when there will be a threat of cancer;
being in church, the subway car, visiting hospital, library, the stomatologist, having come to supermarket;
every time when it appears in the company non-smoking — despite all this, it is forced to continue to pull this life long chain, paying a fantastic sum for doubtful privilege to destroy and despise itself(himself).
For the sake of what it does all this what objective wants to achieve?
Possibly, he hopes to return to the beginning, to that state in which stayed still before became addicted to smoking.
2.
The second reason why some former smokers feel discomfort at parties, is that the smoker is busy with something, does something, that is smokes a cigarette, and non-smoking — no therefore the ex-smoker feels deprived.
Before you begin to throw, firmly acquire:
deprived here — not so non-smoking.
This is the poor smoker who loses much:
HEALTH OF ENERGY OF MONEY OF SELF-CONFIDENCE OF PEACE OF MIND OF COURAGE OF COOLNESS OF FREEDOM OF SELF-ESTEEM.
Throw a habit to envy smokers and begin to see in them unfortunate, pathetic creations which they also are.
I know, I was the worst of them therefore you also read this book.
But those smokers who cannot look to the truth in eyes and are forced to continue to deceive themselves — the most pathetic of all.
Will not you begin to envy the addict who became addicted to heroin?
In our country, heroin kills about 100 people a year, and nicotine — more than 120,000.
Around the world it annually claims the 2, 5 million lives.
Smoking ruined more people on the planet, than all wars in the history of mankind combined.
Your drug addiction will not be more slight, than all other, and every year it will become only it heavier and heavier.
If you do not like to be a smoker today, tomorrow it will be pleasant to you even less.
Do not envy other smokers.
Regret them.
Believe me:
THEY NEED YOUR PITY.
30.
Whether I will gain weight?
It is one more myth about smoking distributed generally those smokers who tried to throw by means of a will power method, replacing nicotine with candies and other to ease to themselves disaccustoming torments.
Torment of disaccustoming from nicotine are very similar to hunger torments therefore these two feelings often confuse.
However torment of hunger can be satisfied with food, and completely it is impossible to remove disaccustoming torments from nicotine.
As well as in case of any other drug, after a while the organism becomes irresponsive to it, and drug ceases to ease disaccustoming torments completely.
As soon as the cigarette is smoked, nicotine quickly leaves our organism therefore the nicotinic addict experiences constant hunger.
The only natural exit — to become, after all, the heavy smoker, that is the smoker smoking one cigarette for another.
However it is difficult for most of smokers to do it for two reasons:
1.
Money — it is too expensive for us to increase intake of nicotine.
2.
Health — to ease disaccustoming torments, we are forced to accept the poison operating as the automatic counter of quantity of cigarettes which we can smoke.
Therefore the smoker lives with feeling of constant hunger which it will never be able to satisfy completely.
That is why many smokers pass to gluttony, alcoholism or even switch to stronger drugs to satisfy the hunger.
(MOST OF ALCOHOLICS — HEAVY SMOKERS.
INTERESTINGLY, MAYBE, AND THIS PROBLEM — SMOKING PROBLEM)?
For the smoker the aspiration to replace nicotine with food becomes a natural exit.
For many dreadful years I reached that stage when completely refused a breakfast and a lunch.
During the day I constantly smoked.
Later I began to look forward to evenings — only because in the evenings could cease to smother itself.
However all evening I constantly chewed.
I considered that it is hunger, and in fact it were torment of disaccustoming from nicotine.
In other words, during the day I replaced food with nicotine, and in the evenings — substituted nicotine for food.
Those days I weighed 12 kg more, than now, and could do nothing with it.
As soon as the small monster leaves your body, also the terrible feeling of vulnerability vanishes.
Your self-confidence together with surprising feeling of self-esteem is restored.
You gain confidence that you control the life, not only in eating habits, but also in all the rest.
It is one more huge advantage of disposal of tobacco.
As I already spoke, the myth about excess weight exists thanks to substitutes during the disaccustoming period.
In fact they do not facilitate process of refusal of smoking.
More likely, they complicate it.
In more detail this statement will be explained below, in chapter devoted to nicotine substitutes.
31.
Avoid false incentives Trying to leave off smoking by means of a will power method, many smokers try to increase motivation, putting forward false incentives.
Here several examples of such incentives.
"On that money which I will save we all family will be able to spend a wonderful vacation".
Similar approach seems logical and sensible, but unfortunately wrong as any smoker respecting himself will prefer to smoke 52 weeks in a year and not to take a vacation.
Anyway, internally the smoker doubts and not only because he should abstain from smoking within 52 weeks.
He is not confident and that he will be able to derive pleasure from the vacation spent without cigarettes.
Similar approach leads only to what does the sacrifice which as it seems to it, is made by the smoker, to more considerable.
And it, in turn, increases cigarette value in its representation.
And all this instead of focusing on other side of the problem:
"What do I receive from smoking?
Why do I need to smoke?" One more example:
"I will be able to dare to buy a new car".
Yes, it is the truth, the similar incentive can force you to abstain from smoking until you buy a car.
But as soon as the feeling of novelty passes, you begin to think that you were deprived therefore sooner or later you come across in the same trap again.
The agreement to leave off smoking, concluded with colleagues at work or family members is other typical example.
Such agreements usually have an advantage:
they eliminate temptation for some time during the day.
Nevertheless, they too usually come to an end with failure owing to the following reasons.
1.
"False incentive".
Why you have to leave off smoking only because throw others?
The similar incentive only strengthens feeling of relevancy of the sacrifice made by you.
It is fine if all smokers sincerely want to cease to smoke once.
However you will not be able violently to force them to throw though all of them secretly also want it.
While they are not ready to leave off smoking, similar agreements will only give additional value to cigarettes and to strengthen desire to smoke.
Similar agreements turn their participants into secret smokers that strengthens feeling of dependence even more.
2.
Theory of "black sheep", or "mutual responsibility".
According to a will power method the payment period during which he constantly waits that desire to smoke will disappear is necessary to the smoker.
If he gives up, then the feeling of the failure which comprehended it comes.
According to this method sooner or later one of participants of the agreement is obliged to give up.
Then other participants receive an excuse for which they so long waited.
It is not their wine ... They would sustain ... It is because of John they lowered hands ... The truth is that most of them already secretly violated the agreement.
3.
"Division of responsibility" — an incentive, opposite theories of "black sheep".
Here the fear to lose face in case of failure is not so terrible as it is shared with others.
Leaving off smoking, the smoker has a surprising feeling of a huge victory.
When you leave off smoking alone, in the first few days admiration of your friends, relatives and colleagues can serve as great support.
When at the same time leave off smoking several people, responsibility shares equally and, respectively, also admiration decreases.
Other classical example of false incentives — so-called "bribe" (for example when the parent promises to the teenager a certain sum of money for refusal of smoking or offers a bet:
"I will give you 100 pounds sterling if I lose").
Once in one of TV programs the following example was given.
The police officer trying to leave off smoking put the twenty-pound banknote in a pack of cigarettes.
He concluded the agreement with himself:
he can light again, but before he should burn this note.
It helped it not to smoke within several days, but eventually it nevertheless burned these twenty pounds.
Stop to deceive yourself.
If the smoker is not stopped 50.
000 pounds sterling which the average smoker spends for all life for cigarettes, the risk of dreadful diseases which is one to two neither life with fetid breath nor sincere and physical suffering, neither slave dependence, nor contempt from the most part of society and a low self-assessment — hardly false incentives will be able any to change a situation.
They can take to one — to aggravate feeling of a sacrifice.
You look at the opposite side of the drawn rope.
What gives me smoking?
ABSOLUTELY ANYTHING.
Why I need to smoke?
YOU HAVE NO NEED TO SMOKE!
SMOKING YOU PUNISH YOURSELF.
32.
Easy way to leave off smoking. This head contains the instructions concerning an easy way to leave off smoking.
Following them, you will find out that the refusal of smoking can become not only easy, but also pleasant!
But do not forget about recommendations.
(You remember a joke: "The brunette is a girl who incorrectly read the instruction on a tube with hair-dye")?
To leave off smoking ridiculously simply.
You need to make only two things:
1.
Make the decision that you will nevermore smoke.
2.
Be not depressed about it.
Be happy!
Possibly, you ask a question:
"Why then in general was to write the whole book?
Why you could not tell it from the very beginning?" Could, but then you would become despondent, and as a result, sooner or later would change the decision.
Perhaps, quite so you also arrived already many times.
As I already many times spoke, all tobacco business — an artful, ominous trap.
The main problem in refusal of smoking consists not in chemical dependence, and in "brainwashing" therefore at first it is necessary to dispel all myths and delusions.
Understand the enemy, learn his tactics:
then you with ease gain a victory.
I carried out the most part of life in attempts to leave off smoking, enduring weeks of a terrible depression.
When I at last left off smoking, passed from hundred cigarettes a day to their total absence without the slightest negative consequences.
Even during disaccustoming from smoking I felt perfectly, and since then never felt any discomfort.
On the contrary, this most wonderful that occurred in my life.
I could not understand why it was so easy to leave off smoking, and at me a lot of time left to understand it.
The reason consisted in the following:
I knew for sure that I will never smoke again.
During the previous attempts, is kind of resolute I it was ready, I tried to leave off smoking, hoping that if I manage to hold on long enough without cigarette, then desire to smoke will disappear.
Naturally, it did not disappear as I waited that just about something will occur.
The more I became despondent about it, the more wanted to smoke therefore the thirst for smoking never passed.
My last attempt was absolutely another.
As well as all smokers today, I seriously reflected over this problem.
Every time, having failed, I consoled myself in a thought that will be easier to be left off smoking next time.
Never came to my mind that, working in this way, I doom myself to smoke for the rest of the life.
This thought filled me with horror and made think of a problem seriously.
Instead of unconsciously beginning to smoke a cigarette, I began to analyze the feelings in the course of smoking.
And this observation confirmed what I already knew:
I do not like to smoke, and the cigarette — is incredibly disgusting.
I began to watch non-smoking.
Earlier I always considered them weak, unsociable, pedantic people.
However when I looked narrowly at them, they seemed to me much stronger and more freely.
They were the people capable to cope with vital stresses and loadings, and an impression was made that they derive much more pleasure from communication, than smokers.
I began to communicate with the former smokers.
Until I considered that ex-smokers are people who were violently forced to leave off smoking because of problems with health and money, and secretly they continue to have passionate desire to smoke.
Several people told:
"Yes, sometimes you test attacks of painful desire, but they such frivolous also happen so seldom that to you it is not necessary and to worry about them".
But the majority told the following:
"I miss smoking?
Yes you, has to be, you joke.
Never in life I felt better".
Conversations with the former smokers discredited one more myth which was constantly turning at me in the head.
I always thought that I have a certain congenital weakness of character, and suddenly dawned on me that through this secret nightmare there pass all smokers.
I told myself:
"Today millions of people leave off smoking and conduct absolutely happy life.
I had no need to smoke until I began, and well remember that I had to work fairly to get used to disgusting taste of cigarettes.
Why do I need to smoke now?" Anyway, smoking obviously was not pleasant to me.
I hated all this disgusting ritual and did not want to carry out the remained life, being a slave to disgusting tobacco.
Then I told myself:
"Allen, YOU LIKE IT OR NOT, BUT YOU SMOKED the LAST CIGARETTE".
And at that moment I knew for sure that I will never light again.
I did not expect at all that it will be easy for me.
I was sure absolutely that I am waited by months of a heavy depression and that I will spend the life rest, periodically suffering.
But the refusal of smoking from the very beginning became for me absolute happiness.
At me a lot of time for finding out why it was so easy to leave off smoking and why this time I did not suffer from awful torments of the period of disaccustoming left.
Now I know the reason:
these torments just do not exist, they are generated by doubts and uncertainty.
The truth is in what it is EASY to LEAVE OFF SMOKING.
Process is complicated only by indecision and suppressed mood.
During certain periods of life even heavy smokers can live long enough, without worrying about cigarettes.
You suffer only when to you forbid to smoke.
Key to easy refusal of smoking — in your confidence in finality of the made decision — to refuse smoking.
It is necessary not to hope, and know that you already left off smoking, having made such decision.
Never call it in question.
You have to arrive on the contrary:
always enjoy it.
I assure you that it is easy to leave off smoking.
But how you can be sure of what you do not know?
Therefore you should read a final part of this book — yourself needs to understand some important points accurately before you start achievement of the goal.
Realize that you can achieve the objective.
You differ in nothing from others therefore the only person who can force you to smoke the following cigarette — you are.
1.
There is nothing to throw, in effect.
On the contrary, you will gain invaluable advantages.
I mean not only the fact that you will become healthier and richer:
you will derive more pleasure from joyful minutes of life and it is easier to cope with grief.
2.
Accurately understand that there is no such concept as "only one cigarette".
Smoking is a drug addiction and chain reaction.
Secretly dreaming and grieving about an accidental cigarette, you will only punish yourself though in it and there is no need.
3.
Look at smoking not as on a public habit which can do you harm and as drug addiction.
Whether you like it or not, but YOU — are SICK.
The disease will not pass if just to hide the head in sand.
You remember:
as well as all serious illness, your disease not only chronic (that is lasting all life), but also progressing.
Right moment for treatment of your disease — right now.
4.
Separate a disease (that is chemical dependence) from a condition of mind of the smoker or non-smoking.
If to give the chance to smokers to return when they did not become addicted to nicotine yet, they with pleasure would grasp at this offer.
Today you have this opportunity!
Even do not think of it as about "refusal" of smoking.
Having made the final decision that already smoked the last cigarette, you at once will become non-smoking.
The smoker — one of that unfortunate who is forced to go on life, ruining the health nicotine.
Non-smoking — that who has no such need.
As soon as you make the final decision, will at once achieve the objectives.
Enjoy it.
You should not sit sadly, expecting when there passes the chemical dependence.
Leave off smoking and at once begin to enjoy life.
Life is delightful even then when you are dependent on nicotine and when you do not have this dependence, it will become day after day it finer and finer.
Key to making refusal of smoking easy — confidence that you will achieve success and completely refrain from smoking during the disaccustoming period (at most three weeks).
If you correctly are adjusted, then will find out what to leave off smoking ridiculously simply.
If you opened the mind as I asked right at the beginning, then by this moment already had to come to the conclusion that you are going to cease to smoke.
Now you feel impatience as the dog pulling a lead;
you cannot wait any more to begin to bring poison out of an organism.
If you feel despondency and the future sees to you in gloomy light, it can speak the following reasons:
1.
You did not acquire any important point.
Re-read five points given above, and wonder whether you believe that they are fair.
If you doubt any of them, re-read appropriate sections of the book.
2.
You are afraid of the failure.
Do not worry.
Just continue to read.
You will achieve success.
Smoking reminds a large-scale fraudulent trick, and only the fool, having opened cheating once, will begin to continue to deceive itself.
3.
You agree with everything told, but all the same feel unfortunate.
No, thank you!
Open eyes.
There is something wonderful.
You just about make escape from prison.
It is important to begin to leave off smoking in the correct spirit:
as it is wonderful that I am non-smoking!
Everything that we need to do now — to support in ourselves this spirit during the disaccustoming period, and the following several chapters will be devoted to special receptions which will help you to keep it.
Upon termination of the disaccustoming period you should not think in this way specially any more, it will become for you absolutely natural.
The regret will become the only thought saddening your life:
"Same it is so obvious!
Why I did not understand it earlier?" Nevertheless, allow to make two important cautions.
1.
Postpone the plan to smoke the last cigarette until you read all book.
2.
Several times I mentioned that the period of disaccustoming lasts up to three weeks.
This statement can cause the wrong representation.
First, subconsciously you will feel that three weeks you should suffer.
No, it is not necessary.
Secondly, avoid a trap which traps those who think:
"Somehow I will hold on three weeks, and then I will be released".
In fact in three weeks nothing will occur.
You will not feel suddenly that you became non-smoking.
Non-smoking, in comparison with smokers, anything special is not felt.
If you suffer because of refusal of smoking within these three weeks, most likely after this term you and will remain are depressed.
I say that if you can tell yourself right now:
"I will never smoke again.
Well, whether it is wonderful?", in three weeks to smoke temptation will pass.
But if you tell:
"To me only to hold on without cigarettes three weeks", and after these three weeks you will continue to die of desire to smoke a cigarette all the same.
33.
The disaccustoming period Up to three weeks after smoking of the last cigarette you can suffer so-called "torments of disaccustoming".
They consist of two absolutely different factors.
1.
Discomfort of disaccustoming from nicotine, the feeling of emptiness and uncertainty reminding hunger — feeling which smokers determine as thirst for cigarettes or desire by something to occupy hands.
2.
The psychological trigger (certain events or actions, for example, the phone call or end of food causing habitual desire to smoke).
The inability to understand and carry out differences between these two by factors far from each other strongly complicates to smokers achievement of success when using a method of will power.
Misunderstanding also is that reason for which many smokers who manage to achieve the objective get to a trap again.
Though torment of disaccustoming from nicotine do not cause physical pain, you should not underestimate forces of their action.
We speak about "hunger attacks" if we spend the whole day without food;
at you can "hum in a stomach", but physical pains are absent.
But even in this case hunger — powerful force, and most likely we will become very irritable if to deprive of us food.
Something similar occurs and when our organism tests thirst for nicotine.
The distinction is that food is necessary for our body, and the poison does not therefore at the correct spirit of torment of disaccustoming it is easy to overcome, and they disappear very quickly.
If smokers manage by method of will power to refrain from smoking within several days, then soon the thirst for nicotine disappears.
It is the second factor generating difficulties.
The smoker got a habit to remove torment of disaccustoming at certain moments or in certain cases that generates "association of images" ("I will not be able to derive pleasure from binge without cigarette").
Perhaps, the similar effect will be easier to be understood by means of an example.
Within several years you had a car in which the index of turn is located to the left of a steering column.
It is in your new car on the right.
You know that you it on the right, but during few weeks every time when you want to include the index of turn, will include "janitors".
The refusal of smoking reminds something similar.
At the beginning of the disaccustoming period at certain moments the psychological trigger of smoking will work.
You will begin to think:
"I want a cigarette".
If you from the very beginning resist to "brainwashing", such mechanical reactions will quickly disappear.
According to a will power method the smoker believes that he makes a sacrifice.
Because of this consciousness it spoils mood, and he constantly waits when there passes passionate desire to smoke.
As a result it only strengthens operation of psychological triggers instead of getting rid of them.
The widespread trigger of smoking — meal, especially during the meeting with friends at restaurant and so on.
The former smoker already feels unfortunate as it is deprived of the cigarette.
When his friends light, the feeling of deprivation amplifies.
Now he does not derive any pleasure neither from a dinner, nor from what had to become a pleasant meeting of friends.
At association of a cigarette with meal and communication, desire to smoke, as well as his sufferings, treble.
At the same time also extent of "brainwashing" amplifies.
If he is unshakable and will be able to hold on long enough, then eventually will make the choice and will succeed in life.
However impact of "brainwashing" partially remains and therefore the smoker who left off smoking because of care of health or of the finance even in several years continues to test passionate thirst for cigarettes in certain cases.
He suffers because of the illusion existing only in his imagination and tortures himself for no reason at all.
Even in my method most often failures are connected with the fact that the smoker gives in to operation of psychological triggers.
The ex-smoker is inclined to regard a cigarette as a peculiar placebo or a consolatory sweet pill.
He thinks:
"I know that the cigarette gives nothing to me.
But if I do not think of it, then at certain moments it will be able to help me".
The sweet pill, though does not render any notable physical help, nevertheless can become the strong psychological means allowing to remove real symptoms and, thus, to bring benefit.
However a cigarette — not a sweet pill.
It generates those symptoms which removes, and after a while ceases to do also it;
r.
e.
in this case "pill" generates a disease not to mention that it also appears poison — the murderer "room one" in society.
Perhaps, it will be easier for you to understand this effect on the example of non-smoking or the smoker who was "getting stuck" a few years ago.
Take a case with the woman who lost the husband.
At such moments quite naturally for the best to tell the smoker:
"Take a cigarette.
She will help you to get it together".
If the cigarette is accepted, it will not have the calming effect:
this woman has no dependence on nicotine and, respectively, there are no disaccustoming torments from it which need to be facilitated.
The only thing that the cigarette can make — to give momentary psychological support.
The cigarette is smoked, but the terrible tragedy did not get to anywhere.
It was only aggravated as now the woman will suffer also from the shortage of nicotine.
It has a choice:
to endure nicotinic hunger or to facilitate it, having smoked the following cigarette, but to lay for these the foundation dependences.
So, everything that will be made by a cigarette — will give short-term psychological support.
But the same result could achieve, having expressed condolences or having suggested to drink.
Many non-smoking and former smokers gained dependence on tobacco as a result of similar cases.
It is important to resist to "brainwashing" from the very beginning.
You remember:
you do not need a cigarette, you only torture yourself, continuing to consider it a peculiar form of support or a support.
There is no need to be unfortunate.
Tobacco does not improve a lunch or a meeting of friends;
it is rather, it destroys them.
Do not forget:
smokers at meal time smoke not because derive pleasure from smoking.
They smoke because are forced.
They are addicts.
They cannot enjoy either food, or life without cigarettes.
Refuse the idea that the habit is pleasant to smoke in itself.
Many smokers think:
"If there were only cigarettes, clean from nicotine".
Such cigarettes exist.
Any smoker trying grass cigarettes soon comes to opinion that it is waste of time.
Understand that the only reason which you smoke consists in receiving nicotine.
As soon as you get rid of thirst for it, all will be equal to you where to put a cigarette — in a mouth or in an ear.
No matter, whether sufferings are caused by real-life symptoms of disaccustoming or the psychological mechanism of smoking, reconcile with discomfort.
You have no physical pain, and at the correct spirit the arising desire should not smoke to become a problem.
Do not worry about the disaccustoming period, this experience in itself is not so terrible.
Do not sob about it, tell yourself better:
"I know, what is it.
It is torment of disaccustoming from nicotine.
That is why smokers suffer all life, here that forces them to smoke!
Non-smoking nothing similar is tested.
Now I observe one more destructive property of this drug.
What happiness that I clean the organism from this evil!" Yes, in the first three weeks you will feel a small corporal indisposition, but also during this time and during all remained life there will be something remarkable — you will recover from a terrible disease.
The similar reward much more will move feeling of slight discomfort, and you will even derive pleasure, weaning from nicotine.
This time will become for you joyful.
Present everything that is connected with smoking, in the form of a fascinating game.
Present that the nicotinic monster is the worm who lodged in your organism.
Within three weeks you should starve him, and he will try to force you to begin to smoke deception a cigarette to keep to itself(himself) life.
From time to time he will try to force you to feel unfortunate.
From time to time you will lose care.
Somebody can offer you a cigarette, and you — will forget that you left off smoking.
When you remember it, there will be a slight feeling that you something are deprived.
In advance be prepared for similar traps.
Accurately understand:
the temptation exists only because in your body the monster, and every time when you do not give in to temptation sits, you strike to the enemy one more mortal blow in this fight.
What you did, do not try to forget about smoking.
It is one of those moments which cause hours-long depressions of the smokers who are leaving off smoking by a will power method.
They live in hope that eventually will simply forget about smoking.
Remember that occurs when you have insomnia?
The more you think of it, the it becomes more difficult to fall asleep.
Anyway you will not be able to get rid of smoking.
During the first several days "the small monster" will constantly remind of it, and you will not manage to avoid it;
while around there are smokers and advertizing of cigarettes, you will be constantly reminded of smoking.
But you have no need to forget about it.
Nothing terrible happened, it is rather on the contrary:
there is something remarkable.
Even if you think of smoking one thousand times in the course of the day, ENJOY EVERY MOMENT.
REMIND YOURSELF AS IT IS WONDERFUL TO BECOME FREE AGAIN.
BE HAPPY THAT YOU SHOULD NOT SMOTHER YOURSELF ANY MORE.
As I already spoke, you will find out that the discomfort will become the pleasure moment, and will be surprised how you will quickly forget about smoking.
What you did — DO NOT DOUBT the DECISION.
Having begun to call it in question, you will begin to become despondent, and it will only be worse.
Use better such moment as support.
If the reason of doubts — a depression, remind yourself that it was generated by nicotine.
If the friend suggests to light to you, with pride answer:
"You know, I am happy to tell you that I do not need cigarettes any more".
Your words will offend him, but having seen that the refusal of smoking absolutely does not disturb you, he already half will agree to join you.
You remember the main thing:
you have very good reasons to leave off smoking.
Remind yourself of that huge sum of money which to you will be cost by one cigarette, and wonder whether really you want to be exposed to risk to get terrible diseases.
And, of course, do not forget that this feeling — temporary, and every minute you become one minute closer to the purpose.
Some smokers are afraid that they should carry out the remained life in fight against "psychological triggers".
In other words, they consider that it is necessary to be engaged all life in self-deception, inspiring in themselves that cigarettes are not necessary to them.
It's not true.
Remember that the optimist sees half a full bottle, and the pessimist — half I am empty.
In a case with smoking the bottle is empty, and the smoker sees that it is full.
But the smoker underwent "brainwashing".
Need to remind itself that you have no need to smoke, will disappear pretty fast:
you will see that you really have no such need.
(Perhaps, this last that from you is required in this story.
But agree that it not the latest matter in your life).
34.
Only one inhaling Is death of many smokers trying to give up smoking according to a will power method.
They manage to live three or four days, and then they smoke an accidental cigarette or do one inhaling to hold on.
They do not realize devastating effect which such acts have on their state of mind.
For most of smokers taste of the first inhaling — opposite, and they think:
"Great.
It is not pleasant at all.
It seems, at me there passes passionate desire to smoke".
But there really is something opposite.
Accurately understand — CIGARETTES NEVER GIVE PLEASURES.
Receiving pleasure — at all not that reason because of which you smoked.
If smokers smoked just for the hell of it, they would never smoke more than one cigarette.
The aspiration to feed a nicotinic monster was the only reason which you smoked.
Only think:
you starved him within four days.
What valuable to it had to become this cigarette or even only one inhaling!
Sensible mind you do not realize it, but information on a dose which will be obtained by your body will go to subconsciousness, and all your thorough training will fail.
In the depth of your consciousness the thin voice which will repeat will be heard:
"Whatever the logic, cigarettes — a valuable thing spoke.
I want one more".
This "one and only" inhaling has two harmful effect:
1.
It supports life of the small nicotinic monster living in your belly.
2.
It, what is even worse, keeps life to the big monster living in your mind.
If you made this, "only one inhaling" — it will be even easier to make following.
You remember:
"only one cigarette" — quite so people also break at the very beginning of attempt to leave off smoking.
35.
Whether it will be difficult for me?
There is an infinite set of combinations of the factors defining how easy will be refusal of smoking for each certain smoker:
at each of us the character, work, personal circumstances, the choice of time and so on.
To representatives of certain professions to leave off smoking can be more difficult, than to others, but so should not be — provided that "brainwashing" is eliminated.
Several examples will help to deal with it to us.
There is an impression that it is especially difficult for representatives of medical professions to leave off smoking.
We think that it has to be easier for doctors as they know about influence of this disease and daily face proofs of this influence.
Though this fact also adds telling arguments to desire to leave off smoking, it does not facilitate a task at all.
The reasons of it are in the following.
1.
The constant awareness on threat for health creates fear, becoming one of circumstances under which we should ease the disaccustoming torments suffered by us.
2.
Work of the doctor is accompanied by huge tension, and, as a rule, he is not able to reduce the additional stress connected with disaccustoming torments in operating time.
3.
The doctor has an additional stress in the form of sense of guilt.
He feels that he has to be an example for the others.
It puts a bigger pressure upon it and strengthens the feeling of deprivation which had by it.
During the breaks in smoking earned heavy by work, the cigarette instantly reduces habitual stress, getting huge value:
she, at last, eases disaccustoming torments.
It is one of forms of irregular smoking applicable to any situation in which the smoker is forced to abstain from smoking during the long periods of time.
According to a will power method he feels unfortunate as it is deprived of cigarettes.
The smoker does not derive pleasure neither from a break for rest, nor from a cup of tea or coffee by which it is followed.
Therefore the feeling of loss repeatedly amplifies and, on communication of associations, the cigarette begins to operate all situation in general.
However if at first you manage to remove results of "brainwashing" and to cease to dream of a cigarette, you will derive pleasure from rest and a cup of tea even then when your organism still tests passionate thirst for nicotine.
The boredom, especially in combination with the stress periods becomes other problem.
Drivers or housewives with small children are a typical example.
Their work demands tension, besides its most part — is monotonous.
During their attempts to leave off smoking according to a will power method at them there are long periods of time during which they indulge in despondency because of "loss", strengthening thereby feeling of the experienced deprivations.
But, as you already know, it is easy to endure a similar situation if you are correctly ready.
Do not worry that constantly remind you of what you left off smoking.
Use the similar moments once again to be glad to the disposal of an evil monster.
If you were correctly adjusted, then this discomfort will turn for you for pleasure.
You remember: any smoker, irrespective of age, sex, intelligence or a profession, can find how it is easy and pleasant to leave off smoking provided that YOU FOLLOW ALL RECOMMENDATIONS.
36.
The main reasons for failures Can be allocated two main reasons for failures.
The first reason — influence of other smokers.
Can happen so that at the moment of your weakness somebody will light nearby.
I already stopped on this subject in detail.
Use the similar moment for a reminder to yourself that such concept as "only one cigarette" does not exist.
Be glad to the fact that could break off a chain.
Remember that the smoker envies you, and feel sorry for him.
Believe me, it needs your compassion.
Other most frequent reason of failure — unsuccessful day.
Before leaving off smoking, accurately understand to yourself that "good" and "bad" days happen to all irrespective of, the smoker you or non-smoking.
In life everything is relative, and you will not be able to endure only take-off, without falling.
The problem of refusal of smoking according to method of will power is that as soon as for the smoker the unlucky day comes, he begins to grieve about a cigarette, trying to obtain these only that "bad" day becomes even worse.
Non-smoking not only physically, but also is psychologically best of all adapted to cope with stresses and vital loadings.
If during the disaccustoming period at you unlucky day comes — just do not lose courage.
Remind yourself that unlucky days happened at you and when you smoked (otherwise you would not decide to leave off smoking).
Instead of groaning about it, tell yourself:
"All right, today not such good day, however smoking of it you will not correct.
Tomorrow it will be better, and for today, at least, I have a surprising advantage.
I got rid of the awful habit to smoke".
When you — the smoker, you are forced to block the mind from thoughts of dark sides of smoking.
Smokers never have "a cough of smokers", and only constant cold.
When your car unexpectedly breaks at the end of the world, you begin to smoke a cigarette, but whether you at the same time become joyful and happy?
Of course, no.
As soon as you cease to smoke, you will see the reason of all vital troubles in what was left off smoking.
Now, if you break the car, you will think:
"In this case I precisely would light a cigarette".
It is the truth, but you forget that the cigarette does not solve a problem.
Grieving about an illusory support, you only punish yourself.
You create an unsolvable situation:
you are unfortunate because you cannot light, but will become more unfortunate if light.
You know that you made the correct decision, having left off smoking therefore never punish yourself, calling it in question.
You remember:
positive psychological approach is always especially important.
37.
Substitutes Substitutes include chewing gum, candies, mint lollipops, grass cigarettes and pills.
DO NOT USE ANY SUBSTITUTES.
They only complicate process, but do not facilitate it.
If you are overtaken by sufferings, and you use substitute, it only prolongs torments and strengthens them.
Actually you tell yourselves:
"I need to smoke or fill emptiness".
It is all the same what to be given to robbers or to concede before tantrum at the child.
It will only prolong emergence of attacks of discomfort and torture of itself.
Anyway, substitutes will not ease disaccustoming torments.
You test thirst for nicotine, but not to food.
Substitutes can only force you to continue to think of smoking.
You remember the next moments:
1.
Substitutes of nicotine do not exist.
2.
You do not need nicotine.
It is not food, and poison.
When you are overtaken by a discomfort attack, remind yourself that only smokers suffer from torments of disaccustoming.
Consider these torments one more evil of drug.
Present that torment of disaccustoming are an agony of a nicotinic monster.
3.
You remember:
cigarettes create emptiness, but do not fill it.
The quicker you will understand that you have no need to smoke or do chtonibud still instead, that will become free rather.
In particular avoid any products containing nicotine it is unimportant whether chewing it is an elastic band, a plaster, spray or the latest gimmick — the inhaler reminding a plastic cigarette.
Yes, it is valid, a small part of the smokers trying to leave off smoking by means of nicotine substitutes succeeded in the undertaking, and now attribute the achievements to their use.
However they left off smoking contrary to use of substitutes, and not thanks to them at all.
Upsets that many doctors continue to recommend treatment by a nicotine replacement method.
There is no wonder:
if you up to the end do not understand essence of a nicotinic trap, the method of replacement of nicotine looks rather convincing.
It is based on belief that when you make an attempt to leave off smoking, you have two strong enemies whom you should overcome:
1.
Habit which needs to be broken.
2.
Torment of disaccustoming from nicotine which need to be sustained.
If you need to defeat two strong opponents, then it is more reasonable to battle against them not at the same time, and in turn.
Therefore, having left off smoking, you at first accept some substitute of nicotine.
When the habit to smoke is broken, gradually begin to reduce also intake of nicotine, that is fight with each enemy separately.
Sounds quite reasonably, but this method, unfortunately, is based on a false parcel.
Smoking — not a habit, but drug addiction.
The physical pain caused by disaccustoming from nicotine is almost imperceptible.
Leaving off smoking, you seek to kill at the same time and the small nicotinic monster living in a body and the big monster staying at you in mind.
The method of replacement of nicotine prolongs life of a small monster which, in turn, prolongs life of the big monster.
Remember that "The easy way" allows to leave off smoking at once.
You kill a big monster ("brainwashing") still before smoke the last cigarette.
Also the small monster will soon die, but it will not become for you a bigger problem, than it was in your stay as the smoker, even so far the monster will die.
Think whether it is possible to cure the addict of drug addiction, recommending to it to take the same drug?
One famous and dear doctor said on national television once that some smokers so strongly depend on nicotine that if they leave off smoking, they should accept all life its substitutes.
How could this doctor allow to confuse so himself to believe that the human body can depend not only on receipt of food, water and oxygen, but also from strong poison?
Our clinics are often visited by the smokers who managed to leave off smoking, but became dependent on nicotinic chewing gum.
Others became addicted to it, continuing to smoke.
And let the fact that the taste of nicotinic chewing gum is disgusting will not fool you — the first cigarette had just the same taste also.
All substitutes are rendered by the same effect, as nicotinic chewing gum:
"I cannot smoke a cigarette therefore I will take chewing gum or mint lollipop to fill emptiness".
Though to distinguish the feeling of emptiness generated by desire to smoke a cigarette from feeling of hunger it is impossible, it is impossible to satisfy one hunger, satisfying another.
It turns out that tamping of a belly chewing gum or mint lollipops is intended to force you to desire a cigarette.
But the main evil of substitutes is that they prolong existence of the main problem, that is "brainwashing".
Whether flu substitute when it passes is necessary to you?
Of course, no.
Your words "I Need Smoking Substitute" actually mean:
"I make a huge sacrifice".
The depression accompanying a will power method is caused by the fact that the smoker is convinced that he makes a sacrifice.
You just substitute one problem another.
There is no joy in absorption of candies, you will only become fat and unfortunate, and then again will return to tobacco through very short time.
It is difficult for irregular smokers to leave belief that them violently deprive of a small award:
cigarettes during a lunch break in office or at factory where it is forbidden to smoke in operating time, or rest of teachers in a teacher's room between lessons, or a fast smoke break of doctors between receptions of patients.
Some say:
"If I did not smoke, I would not begin to take a break at all".
It only confirms that quite often a break is taken not because the smoker needs it or just wants to have a rest but because it is consumed by desperate desire to scratch the itching place.
You remember:
cigarettes were never the real award.
Remember an example about close shoes which I already gave.
If such award is necessary for you, it is necessary to wear shoes one size smaller in operating time, than you carry usually, but not to dare to take off them, there will not come break time yet, and then, having removed, to test a wonderful moment of a relaxation and satisfaction.
Silly?
You are absolutely right.
But it in what all smokers are engaged though and it is difficult to see it while you are in a trap.
It is even more difficult to imagine that soon you will not be needs this small "award" any more, and you will begin to treat the friends who are still staying in a trap with genuine pity, being perplexed why they do not understand it.
However if you continue to deceive yourself, considering that the cigarette was for you the real award or that you need to replace with something it, you will feel deprived and unfortunate, and, most likely, again light.
If — to housewives, teachers, doctors and representatives of other professions — the break for rest is really necessary for you, then you will soon derive from it bigger pleasure, than earlier as you will have no need to smother itself.
You remember:
you do not need substitutes.
Your sufferings are a passionate thirst for poison which soon will pass.
Let this thought support you during the next several days.
Enjoy clarification of an organism from poison, and the mind — from slavery and dependence.
If you begin to eat more because you will improve appetite, and during the next several days will gather an extra kilo, do not worry about it.
When there comes "moment of truth" which I will describe later, you will find confidence in the forces and conviction that are capable to solve any problem which can be solved by means of positive thinking, including also eating habits.
However what you cannot do, so it to begin to be enough pieces between meals.
If you begin "to pick", then will really grow fat and will become unfortunate, without having learned when you got rid of addiction to tobacco:
you do not solve a problem, and replace it with another.
38.
Should I avoid temptation?
Still I was categorical in recommendations and asked you to treat my councils rather as to instructions than as wishes.
I am categorical as all my councils are constructed by the strong practical reasons and are supported with studying a set of separate cases.
Unfortunately, I cannot be so categorical in a question of avoiding of temptations during the disaccustoming period.
Each smoker should make the decision independently.
However I can state recommendations which I, dare to hope, will be useful to you.
I will remind that the fear forces us to smoke throughout all life.
Fear which consists of two phases.
How will I be able to live without cigarettes?
This fear reminds the panic felt by the smoker when he late did not come back home at night yet, and cigarettes already on an outcome.
This fear is caused not by torments of disaccustoming, it is psychological fear of dependence:
you are afraid that you will not be able to survive without cigarettes.
It reaches the peak when you smoke the last cigarette.
This fear — fear of uncertainty, that its version which is tested by people when they learn to dive.
Tower height for a diving of only 30 cm, and seems — all 1, 80.
Water depth — 1, 80 m, and seems — only 30 cm.
To jump, courage is necessary:
you are convinced that you will hurt the head.
If you find in yourself courage to jump, then all the rest — is easy.
It explains why the smokers showing strong will in all that does not concern smoking, never tried to leave off smoking or, having thrown, some hours could hold on.
There are smokers smoking about twenty cigarettes which make the decision to leave off smoking a day, but begin to smoke the following cigarette much quicker than if did not make such decision.
It generates panic which causes a stress:
the brain instructs to light and you cannot make it.
You feel unfortunate, and — again a stress.
The instruction is given again, there is a short circuit ... you light.
Do not worry.
This panic — psychological state, fear of dependence.
But in fact you are not dependent even if still you are in drug addiction from nicotine.
Do not panic.
Trust in me — and jump.
The smoker goes through the second stage of fear longer.
It concerns fear of the fact that without cigarette you will not manage to derive pleasure from certain situations, or fears that without cigarette you will not be able to cope with some troubles.
Do not worry.
If you are able to jump, you learn that everything is exactly the opposite.
There are two main types of behavior in attempt to avoid temptations.
"I will hold cigarettes available, though I will not begin to smoke.
I feel more surely when I know that they with me".
I found out that the percent of failures among the people arriving in this way is much higher, than at those who get rid of cigarettes.
I believe that it, is generally connected that if during the disaccustoming period at you there comes the heavy moment, then to begin to smoke already available cigarette rather easily.
If you need to pass for this purpose through humiliation, to go outside and buy a pack of cigarettes — the probability to overcome temptation above.
Besides, the pain attack, most likely, will abate earlier, than you will reach the tobacco booth.
I consider that the main reason for higher percent of failures in similar cases is that the smoker does not feel ready to refusal of smoking.
Remember that two major components of success are two moods:
a.
Confidence.
b.
"As it is wonderful that I have no need to smoke any more".
Why, actually, do you need cigarettes?
If all of you feel the need to keep them around, then I would advise you to re-read this book.
It means that you did not acquire something else.
"I should avoid stressful situations and friendly meetings during the disaccustoming period".
Yes, try to avoid stressful situations.
It is not necessary to overload itself excessively.
In a case with friendly parties I advise you opposite.
Go and have fun!
You do not need cigarettes even during this period when there did not pass the dependence on nicotine.
Go on a party and be happy with what you should not smoke, and it will quickly prove to you that without cigarettes the life becomes much better.
Think of that, your life when a small monster and in general all this poison leaves your body will become how better.
39.
"Moment of truth" Usually three weeks later after the smoker ceases to smoke, comes "moment of truth".
It seems that the sky became brighter, and it is that moment when "brainwashing" completely stops.
Then, having ceased to repeat constantly about himself that you have no desire to smoke, you suddenly understand:
the last thread is torn, it is possible to enjoy really life without the slightest need for smoking.
Usually exactly from this point you begin to look at other smokers as people, worthy pity.
The smokers applying a will power method, as a rule, do not test anything similar as they, though are glad to be ex-smokers, nevertheless live in full belief that make a sacrifice.
The more you smoked, the this moment will be more wonderful, and it will last for the rest of the life.
I consider that I was very lucky, and in my life there were many wonderful events, but this "moment of truth" was the most surprising of all.
I well remember all considerable events, and I remember that it were the happy moments, but could never revive that feelings of happiness.
But that I nevermore should smoke, I cannot get used to feeling of joy in any way.
If today I have a bad mood or I need support — it is enough to remember that I have no dependence on artful tobacco any more.
The most part of the people communicating with me after they refused smoking, consider it the most joyful event in their life too.
If you knew what joy is necessary to you!
Responses of the readers and people visiting my consultations in twelve years allowed me to learn that in most cases "moment of truth" comes not after three weeks as it was stated above, and after several days.
In my own case it came still before I smoked the last cigarette.
Quite often at the very beginning of individual consultations the smoker spoke to me:
"You any more need to speak nothing, Allen.
I very clearly represent now everything.
"It is sure that I will never light again".
I learned to define the moment when on certain smokers during the group classes the revelation condescends.
From the letters received by me I know that the same quite often happens also to those who read the book.
Ideally, if you follow all instructions and completely understand psychological aspect of a problem, it has to happen to you at once.
Today on consultations I say to smokers that on physical disaccustoming about five days will leave, and three more weeks will be required on that the ex-smoker was completely released.
I not really like to give such instructions as it can lead to two problems.
The first is that I put the idea in consciousness of the person that he should suffer from five days to three weeks.
The second problem is that usually the smoker thinks:
"If I am able to hold on from five days to three weeks, then upon termination of this period of time I will receive full simplification".
However, it is quite probable that he will live five pleasant days or three pleasant weeks which one of those awful days which overtake both non-smoking, and smokers will follow.
Such days have nothing in common with smoking as they are caused absolutely by other factors of our life.
And then our smoker instead of expected "moment of truth" will get a depression that can undermine his self-confidence.
However if I did not give any instructions, then the ex-smoker so for nothing also would wait for something for the rest of the life.
I suspect that it and happens to most of the people who are leaving off smoking by a will power method.
Once me and washed away to tell that "revelation" has to condescend immediately.
But if I so told, and it would not occur, then the ex-smoker would lose self-confidence and decided that "revelation" will never occur.
People often ask me about the meaning of five days and three weeks.
Whether I made these figures up?
No.
Of course, it is not exact dates, however they reflect the current situation.
There pass about five days about the moment of refusal of smoking, and the smoker ceases to consider smoking as the main subject occupying all his thoughts.
Approximately at this time most of ex-smokers endure "moment of truth".
Usually it occurs so:
you are in a tense situation or in the company of people where could not think to themselves that you will be able to do without cigarette.
Unexpectedly you realize that you not only enjoy communication or perfectly cope with a stressful situation, but even the thought of a cigarette did not come to your mind.
From now on you just go down stream.
At this moment you learned that you are free.
During the previous attempts to leave off smoking by a will power method and also on the basis of stories by other smokers, I noticed that the three-week period is that time during which the majority of serious attempts to leave off smoking fail.
There is approximately following:
after about three weeks you feel that desire to smoke disappeared.
You want to prove it to yourself and light.
The taste of a cigarette is disgusting.
You proved that you left off smoking.
But at the same time again entered into the organism nicotine — nicotine for which your body so grieved all these three weeks.
As soon as you smoke this cigarette, removal of nicotine from an organism will begin.
Now the small voice will begin to repeat:
"You did not refuse smoking.
You want one more cigarette".
Of course, you begin to smoke the following cigarette not at once — you do not want to become dependent again.
You wait until there passes the safe period of time.
But when next time you will be tempted with smoking, you will tell yourself:
"I did not become addicted to smoking again therefore there will be no harm if I smoke one more cigarette".
And you entered on the slippery track conducting down again.
Key to a problem — not to wait for approach of "moment of truth", and to understand that the problem disappeared as soon as you finished smoking the last cigarette.
You already made everything that needed to be made.
You blocked intake of nicotine.
No force on the earth can prevent you to be free if only you do not begin to suffer or wait for a miracle.
Go and enjoy life.
Only this way "moment of truth" will come also for you.
40.
The last cigarette So if you are already ready to it, choose time to smoke the last cigarette.
But before making it, answer yourself two important questions:
1.
Whether you feel confidence in success?
2.
Whether the future seems to you gloomy and sad, or you have feeling of enthusiasm from consciousness that just about you will reach something remarkable?
If you have though the slightest doubts — re-read the book.
You remember:
you never made decisions to get to a nicotinic trap.
But this trap is arranged to enslave you for the rest of life.
It is possible to be released from it, having only made the firm decision to smoke the last cigarette.
You remember:
the only reason for which you already read the book to this chapter is that you awfully want to get rid of smoking.
So, make the positive decision right now.
Pledge that, having finished smoking the last cigarette irrespective of, it will be easy for you or it is difficult, you any more never light following.
Perhaps, you are concerned by the fact that you already several times in the past made similar promises, but continue to smoke, or the fact that you should endure a difficult period of time.
Don't be afraid.
The most terrible that can happen to you is a failure in the real attempt to get rid of smoking therefore you have nothing to lose.
And you can get very much!
Stop thinking even about failure.
To leave off smoking not simply easily — this process can enjoy really.
This time you are going to apply "An easy way"!
You need to follow only those simple instructions which I offer you:
1.
Pledge — and give it seriously.
2.
Smoke the last cigarette consciously, deeply dragging on this muck that it came directly to lungs.
Then wonder:
"And what here, actually, it gives pleasure?" 3.
Finishing smoking a cigarette, do not think at the same time:
"I nevermore have to light following" or "I cannot smoke more".
Think differently:
"As it is healthy!
I am free!
This nicotinic slavery came to an end!
I will never thrust this muck into a mouth any more!" 4.
You remember:
within several days with you there will live a little nicotinic traitor inside.
Can happen so that you will have one desire:
"I want a cigarette".
I call light physical thirst for nicotine "a small nicotinic monster".
Strictly speaking, it is wrong, and it is important that you understood why.
As death of a small monster requires about three weeks, ex-smokers believe that they will continue to grieve about tobacco and after the last cigarette is smoked.
Therefore they consider it necessary to apply a will power method to opposition to temptation during this period.
It's not true.
The organism has no passionate desire of nicotine, the melancholy for nicotine exists only in your mind.
If you after all manage to overcome feeling "I want a cigarette!" within several next days, your mind will have simple choice.
He can choose:
to remain with the feeling of emptiness and diffidence caused still by the very first cigarette or to answer it with words:
"HURRAH!
I am NON-SMOKING!" In any other case you can grieve about a cigarette and suffer for the rest of the life.
Think for a minute.
Whether silly at first to tell:
"I will never want to smoke any more", and then to carry out the remained life, repeating:
"As I would like to smoke a cigarette!" The smokers applying a will power method are engaged in it.
It is not surprising that they feel such unfortunate:
they live, desperately grieving about what also desperately hope to get rid forever of.
It is not surprising that so a little from them try to obtain success and that they never feel completely free.
5.
Only doubts do refusal of smoking difficult.
Therefore never doubt the decision, you know that it is correct.
If you begin to doubt it, then will appear in deadlock, a stalemate.
Passionately wishing a cigarette, but not daring to light, you will feel unfortunate.
And if after all light, then you will become even more unfortunate.
Whatever system you used, only one question is basic:
what do you try to reach, leaving off smoking?
To smoke nevermore?
No!
Many ex-smokers do not smoke, but live with melancholy about a cigarette.
What does the true difference between smokers and non-smoking consist in?
Non-smoking have neither need, nor desire to smoke;
they do not grieve about cigarettes, and they do not need to use will power not to smoke.
It is your purpose and to reach it in your power.
To become non-smoking and to cease to grieve about cigarettes, you do not need to wait for anything:
it occurs when you finished smoking the last cigarette.
Having blocked intake of nicotine, YOU ALREADY BECAME HAPPY NON-SMOKING!
!
!
But to remain in this state forever, you should accept some conditions:
1.
Never doubt the decision.
2.
Do not wait that "you will become non-smoking":
anything special will not occur any more, and empty expectation leads to formation of a phobia.
3.
Try to think of smoking and do not wait for approach of "moment of truth".
This way also leads to a phobia.
4.
Do not use nicotine substitutes.
5.
Looking at smokers, try to see whom they are actually;
feel sorry for them, but do not envy.
6.
Do not change the life because left off smoking, whatever days dropped out to you, joyful or difficult.
There is no need for bringing of the victims.
Remember that you did not stop living and anything in the life did not refuse.
On the contrary:
you cured yourself of a terrible disease and managed to escape from terrible prison.
Eventually your health, physical and intellectual, will become it is better, and vital take-off will seem above, and falling — less painful than when you were a smoker.
7.
When you thought of smoking, in the next few days or during the remained life, think so:
"HURRAH! I AM NON-SMOKING!!!"
41.
Final warning.
Any smoker, suggest it to return when he did not become addicted to smoking yet, with that knowledge which it has now, would not make a choice for smoking.
Many smokers addressing me are convinced that if I could help them to leave off smoking, they would never begin to dream of falling into a trap again.
Nevertheless, thousands of smokers manage to leave off smoking for many years and to conduct absolutely happy life, and then again to get to the same trap.
I believe:
this book will help you to make sure what to leave off smoking really easily.
However you remember:
smokers who made sure that it is easy to leave off smoking, know what also easily and again to begin to smoke.
DO NOT COME ACROSS ONCE AGAIN THIS BAIT!
No matter, as long you did not smoke or are how sure that you will nevermore become dependent on smoking, never and in any occasion not to smoke make to yourself the vital rule —.
Resist millions of dollars which spend the tobacco companies for advertizing, and you remember that they advertize drug — the murderer "number one" and terrible poison.
You will not tempt you to try heroin, and cigarettes kill at hundreds of thousands of people more, than it.
Remember that the first smoked cigarette will give nothing to you.
You will have no nicotinic hunger which needs to be facilitated, and its taste will be terrible.
To what it will lead everything — to receipt of a dose of nicotine in your organism, and the small voice will begin to repeat inside:
"You want more!".
And then again choice:
or to suffer during some period of time, or to start all this mean chain over again.
42.
Feedback Today at me behind shoulders twelve years (which passed from the date of the first publication of "An easy way") correspondence and conversations with the people reading this book or addressing me for consultation.
At first "experts" did not take my method seriously, and it was heavy fight.
Today smokers arrive on my consultations from all corners of the world, and among participants of classes representatives of medical professions prevail.
In Great Britain "The easy way" is considered the most effective remedy helping to leave off smoking and this opinion extends worldwide.
I do not consider myself the benefactor of mankind.
The war which, I emphasize is directed not against smokers, and against smoking trap — I conduct for purely egoistical reason.
Every time, having learned about the next smoker who got out of captivity I have feeling of huge joy even if it is not connected with me in any way.
You can imagine what pleasure is given me by thousands of letters of thanks received for these years!
But also I have disappointments.
My disappointments, are generally connected with two certain types of smokers.
Despite the prevention stated in the previous chapter I am disturbed by the number of smokers who, having found out what to leave off smoking so easily, begin to smoke again, and then it turns out that next time they do not manage to get rid of the dependence any more.
It concerns not only readers of the book, but also the smokers visiting my consultations.
A few years ago I was called by the man.
He was crazy about a grief;
he just sobbed.
He told:
"I will pay you one thousand pounds sterling if you help me to leave off smoking for a week.
I know that if I am able to hold on week, then I will be able forever to throw".
I answered it that my services have the fixed price, and all this that it needs to pay.
He attended group classes and, to big surprise, found out that it is easy to leave off smoking.
Later it sent me very touching letter of thanks.
I usually say to the former smokers leaving my classes:
"You remember, you never have to begin to smoke the following cigarette".
This man answered me then:
"Be not afraid, Allen.
If I managed "to get stuck", then I definitely will nevermore begin to smoke".
I could tell with confidence at once that in this case the caution was not acquired completely, and answered:
"I know, now you feel quite so, but how your affairs in six months will go?" He told:
"I will never begin to smoke again".
A year later the phone call sounded:
"Allen, I smoked a small cigar for Christmas, and now again returned to "norm" — forty cigarettes a day".
I told:
"Do you remember why you for the first time called me?
You so hated smoking that you were going to pay me 1000 pounds sterling if I help you to leave off smoking for a week".
"I remember.
Well, whether I was a fool?" "You remember, you promised nevermore me to smoke?" "I know.
I am a fool".
It is all the same that to find the person who got stuck up to a neck in the swamp and just about will disappear in the bog forever.
You help it to get out.
He is grateful to you, and then, six months later, dives back, into the same swamp.
Ironically to this man there was funny history.
Having come to one of classes, he told:
"Do you represent?
I offered the son the contract:
if by the 21st birthday he does not begin to smoke, I will pay it 1000 pounds sterling.
I paid.
So what?
Now he is 22 years old, and he smokes as the engine.
I cannot believe that he was such fool!".
I told:
"I do not understand why you call him the fool.
He, at least, avoided this trap within twenty two years, and, besides, does not know all sufferings which he should experience.
You perfectly knew all this, and held on only a year".
Smokers who found out that it is easy to leave off smoking but also to start over again — too easily, represent a major issue.
When you become free, PLEASE, DO NOT REPEAT THIS MISTAKE.
It is considered that such people begin to smoke again as still are in dependence and grieve about a cigarette.
Actually, having opened for itself that it is so simple to leave off smoking, they lose fear of smoking.
They think:
"From time to time I can smoke a cigarette.
Even if I will become dependent on smoking again, I will be able easily to throw again".
I am afraid that everything is not so simple.
It is easy to leave off smoking, but it is impossible to control dependence on nicotine.
The only thing that is important to become non-smoking is not to smoke.
Other type of the smokers causing my disappointment — those who are too frightened to make an attempt to leave off smoking.
If they also try, the refusal of smoking is represented to them great fight.
The main reasons for such pessimistic mood are in the following:
1.
"Fear of failure".
In failure there is no shame, but not to make attempts because of this fear — full nonsense.
Look at a situation on the other hand:
you do not hide from anything.
The worst that can happen to you — you fail, but in this case will not become worse, than is now.
But as it would be wonderful to achieve success!
If you do not try, then failure is already guaranteed to you.
2.
"Fear to panic".
Do not worry about it.
Think:
what, actually, terrible can happen to you if you nevermore smoke any cigarette?
Absolutely anything!
Awfully, if you continue to smoke.
Anyway, panic is generated by nicotine, and soon it will pass.
Disposal of this fear will become for you huge acquisition.
Really you believe that smokers are really ready to amputation of a leg or hand for pleasure which they derive from smoking?
If you feel that you are close to panic, you will be helped by deep breath.
If you are among people and they irritate you, leave them far away.
Go to a garage, to empty office or still somewhere.
If you feel that you just about will begin to cry, are not ashamed.
Crying — a natural way of removal of tension, after crying becomes always easier for us.
The fact that we teach little boys not to cry — a mistake.
Pay attention as their jaws when they try to hold back tears clench.
As true British, we learn to squeeze lips, without showing any emotions.
But we should not suppress the emotions and hide them deeply inside.
Begin to squeal, cry, afford a rage attack.
Kick a cardboard box or a bedside table.
Treat the fight against smoking as to a boxing duel in which it is impossible to lose.
Nobody can stop time.
The every passing moment the small monster sitting at you inside dies.
Be happy — your victory is inevitable.
3.
Not following to instructions.
Incredibly, but some smokers say to me:
"With me your method did not work".
Then they begin to describe, how exactly they ignored even not one, and practically all instructions.
(For clarity I summarize all instructions in the form of the check list at the end of the head).
4.
Incorrect understanding of instructions.
a) "I cannot but think of smoking".
Of course, you cannot and if you try, then you will only get a phobia and you will become unfortunate.
It how to try to fall asleep at insomnia:
the more you try, the worse at you it turns out.
I think of smoking of 90% of the time.
It is important that you think.
If you dream:
"I with pleasure would smoke a cigarette" or "When I will become free?", you will be unfortunate.
If you think:
"HURRAH!
I — am free" — you will be happy.
b) "When this small monster will die?" Nicotine promptly leaves your organism.
However precisely to tell when your body ceases to suffer from slight physical feeling of disaccustoming from nicotine, it is impossible.
The similar feeling of uncertainty and emptiness reminds feeling of usual hunger, depression or tension.
The cigarette only increases the level of this hunger.
That is why the smokers who are leaving off smoking by a will power method will never be absolutely sure whether they broke the habit.
Even after your organism ceased to suffer from nicotinic hunger when he experiences ordinary hunger or a stress, your brain will continue to claim:
"It you want to smoke a cigarette".
You should not wait when there passes the thirst for nicotine — it is so weak that we do not even guess its existence.
It is known to us only as feeling "I want to smoke".
Leaving after the final session of treatment the stomatologist's office, you do not wait until the jaw ceases to hurt?
Of course not.
You continue to live.
You have an excellent mood even if the jaw still aches a bit.
c) Expectation of "moment of truth".
Expecting when it comes, you only create one more phobia.
Once I left off smoking for three weeks, using a will power method.
I met the old school friend and the former smoker.
He asked:
"How there are affairs?" I told:
"Held on three weeks".
He was surprised:
"What do you have to a look, saying that you held on three weeks?" I answered:
"I held on three weeks without cigarettes".
Then he told:
"And what you are going to do next?
To keep for the rest of the life?
What do you wait for?
You already made everything.
You — non-smoking".
And I thought:
"And he is absolutely right.
What do I wait for?" Unfortunately, as at that time I not up to the end understood smoking trap nature, soon I lit again, however noted this feature.
You become non-smoking when you finish smoking the last cigarette.
It is important that you were from the very beginning happy.
d) "I still grieve about cigarettes".
Well, then you behave very silly.
As you can say;
"I want to be non-smoking", and then to say:
"I want a cigarette"?
This contradiction.
Saying:
"I want a cigarette", you, actually, say:
"I want to be a smoker".
Non-smoking do not want to smoke.
You already know what you want in fact therefore stop to torment yourself.
e) "I dropped out of life".
Why?
Everything that you are offered to make — to cease to smother itself.
You should not stop living at all.
Look as everything is simple.
For some time you should live with a small trauma.
Your organism will suffer from almost imperceptible deterioration in the state caused by disaccustoming from nicotine.
But you perfectly know this state:
quite so you suffered in the stay as the smoker — when filled up or were in church, supermarket or library.
It seems when you were a smoker, it not especially disturbed you.
But if you do not leave off smoking, then will suffer for the rest of the life.
Not cigarettes create pleasure from a lunch or the atmosphere at a friendly meeting — rather, they destroy it.
Even so far your body still feels the need for nicotine, meetings with friends and breakfasts — are wonderful.
Life in general is wonderful!
Safely go on public actions even if there will be twenty smokers.
You remember:
it not you, but they experience deprivations.
Each of them with pleasure would appear on your place.
Enjoy the provision of "the first violin" and be in the center of general attention.
Refusal of smoking — a fine subject for a conversation, especially when smokers see that you are happy and cheerful.
They, of course, will decide that your case — unique.
It is important that you from the very beginning enjoyed life.
You have no need to envy smokers — it they will envy you.
e) "I am unfortunate and irritable".
It is because you did not follow my instructions.
Define what council you passed.
Some smokers understand me and trust in everything that I tell, but nevertheless start implementation of the plan with feeling of despondency and inevitability of destiny, expecting something awful.
What for?
You not just carry out the desire, but do what any smoker on the planet would like to make.
According to any method of refusal of smoking, any smoking person wishes to reach special mentality in which when he thought of smoking, he could tell himself:
"HURRAH!
I AM FREE!" If it is your purpose why to wait?
Stay in similar mentality from the very beginning and never lose it.
Final part of the book is intended to force you to understand why the alternative does not exist.
The CHECK LIST you do not fail if you follow these simple instructions.
1.
Pledge that you never — never — will not smoke, chew or suck anything that contains nicotine, and you hold the promise.
2.
Accurately understand:
there is nothing at all what you refuse, or the fact that you throw.
Telling it, I mean not only the fact that it will be more pleasant to you to live non-smoking (you knew it always).
No, I mean another:
though your smoking is not explainable in terms of logic in any way, you have to derive from it peculiar pleasure or support — otherwise you would not begin to do it.
But I claim that in smoking there is no pleasure or support — unless you like to be up against a blank wall just for the hell of it which you test when you stop this attraction.
3.
There is no concept "the convinced smoker".
You — only one of millions which got in this artful trap.
As well as millions of other former smokers who once thought that they will not be able to get out you managed it.
4.
When you began to weigh smoking pros and cons, you will always come to the same conclusion:
"Stop smoking.
You're a fool!" Nothing ever will change it.
So was always and so will always be.
Knowing that you made the correct decision, do not torture yourself, doubting it.
5.
Try to think of smoking and do not worry that you constantly think of it.
However when you thought of smoking — whether today whether tomorrow or later — think as follows:
"HURRAH!
I AM NON-SMOKING!" 6.
Do not use any substitutes.
You do not keep around a cigarette.
Do not avoid other smokers.
Do not change the way of life only because left off smoking.
If you follow the instructions given above, then will soon endure "moment of truth".
But:
7.
Do not wait for it approach.
Just continue to conduct usual life.
Enjoy vital take-off and cope with falling.
You by all means will soon find out that this moment came.
43.
Help the smoker who remained by the sinking ship Today smokers are captured by panic.
They feel the changes happening in society.
Today smoking is considered an antisocial habit, and even smokers so think.
They feel too that their time passed.
Today millions of people leave off smoking, and it is known to all.
Every time when the sinking ship is left by one more smoker, remained onboard feel even more unfortunately.
At heart each of them knows that ridiculously to pay huge money for the dried-up leaves papered and then to set fire to them and to inhale cancerogenic pitches in lungs.
If all of you do not consider yet that it is silly, then try to thrust the burning cigarette to yourself into an ear and wonder in what a difference.
Difference only in one:
in such a way you will not be able to receive nicotine.
Stop to thrust cigarettes into a mouth, and nicotine is not required to you any more.
Smokers cannot find the logical reason of smoking, but if near them still somebody smokes, they do not feel so silly any more.
Smokers frankly lie about the habit, not only to other people, but also to themselves.
They are forced:
if they want to keep though any self-esteem, they need "to rake over the coals" to themselves and others.
They feel the need to justify own dependence not only before by itself, but also before non-smoking.
Therefore they always advertize illusory advantages of smoking.
If the smoker leaves off smoking, using a will power method, he all the same feels deprived and is inclined to turn into the whiner.
Its moaning leads only to the fact that other smokers make sure as far as they are right, continuing to smoke.
If the smoker manages to break the habit, he is happy that he should not live any more, poisoning himself and throwing out money to burn.
However, as it does not need justifications and assessment from outside, he does not tell about it.
It does it only on whose - nibud to a request, but smokers will not ask similar questions.
They will not like the answer.
You remember:
the fear forces them to smoke, causing desire "to bury the head in sand".
They will ask this question the only time — when for them there comes time to stop smoking.
Help the smoker.
Save it from these fears.
Tell it as it is wonderful to live, without poisoning themselves;
as it is fine to wake up in the morning, feeling fresh and healthy instead of coughing and breathing with a prisvist;
as it is exciting to be free from slave dependence, to be able to enjoy life and to get rid of the fear and fault saddening consciousness.
Or better still, let he will read this book too.
It is very important not to humiliate the smoker, pointing him that he pollutes the atmosphere or that he is in some way disgusting.
There is a widespread representation that it is the worst in this regard — the former smokers.
I think, this judgment is right for those smokers who left off smoking by means of a will power method.
Though the ex-smoker also broke own habit to smoke, he not up to the end managed to get rid of "brainwashing", and kakoyto a part of he still believes that he made a huge sacrifice.
He feels the vulnerable, and natural mechanism of protection for it there is an attack on the smoker.
It can help the ex-smoker, but it does not give to the smoker anything.
The similar behavior leads only to the fact that the smoker begins to defend, feels from it even more unfortunately, and, respectively, his need for a cigarette amplifies even more.
Though change of the relation of society to smoking — the main reason for which millions of smokers leave off smoking it does not facilitate their task at all.
More likely, it considerably complicates process of refusal of smoking.
Today most of smokers believe that they leave off smoking, generally caring for the health.
It is not absolutely right.
Though it is obvious that the huge risk for health demands refusal of smoking, smokers poisoned themselves for many years, and the threat for health did not influence it in any way.
The main reason for which they leave off smoking is that society begins to see what it is — disgusting drug addiction in smoking.
Receiving pleasure always was only illusion;
the similar relation of society discredits it and therefore the smoker is left with nothing.
Total ban on smoking in the system of the London subway — a classical example of a dilemma of the smoker.
The smoker can tell himself:
"It is good if I am not able to smoke in the subway car, I will prefer other type of transport" that does not lead to anything good unless reduces income of the London subway.
He can tell differently:
"Perfectly, it will help me to reduce quantity of the smoked cigarettes".
As a result of such decision instead of smoking one-two cigarettes in the subway car from one of which he would not derive any pleasure, he abstains from smoking within an hour.
During this forced abstention period, however, he not only will experience sincere sufferings and to expect the award, but also his body will pine from desire of nicotine.
Oh, what precious will become a cigarette when eventually to it allow to light!
The periods of the forced abstention do not lead to reduction of intake of nicotine as the smoker does not refuse to himself desire to smoke more cigarettes when to it at last allow to smoke.
All this leads only to rooting in his mind values of a cigarette and dependence on nicotine.
I think that the most artful party of the periods of the forced abstention consists in their impact on pregnant women.
We allow unfortunate girls to live under the pressure of massive advertizing that results them in dependence on nicotine.
Then, it is possible during the most intense period of their life when their lost mind repeats that they more than ever need cigarettes, doctors blackmail them that they left off smoking because of harm which renders smoking on the child.
Many cannot throw and are forced to suffer from a fault complex for the rest of the life.
Some of them manage to leave off smoking, and they are awfully glad, thinking:
"Perfectly, I will make it for the sake of the child, and in nine months the desire to smoke will pass".
Then pain and fear of childbirth which highest "take-off" in our life follows come.
Pain and fear passed, the beautiful new little man was born, and here old triggers begin to operate again.
Part of "brainwashing" still remained and before the umbilical cord is cut off, the girl thrusts a cigarette into a mouth again.
The delight of a situation blocks terrible taste of a cigarette.
It has no slightest intention again to fall into dependence on nicotine.
"Only one cigarette".
Too late!
She already became addicted, nicotine got to its organism again.
The old draft wakes up and even if it will fall into dependence on smoking not at once, the postnatal depression, perhaps, all the same will get it.
It is strange that though the addicts who became addicted to heroin under the law are criminals, the attitude of society towards them is rather humane:
"What can we make to help poor people?" Kindly to learn to treat also and poor smokers.
They smoke not because want to smoke but because they consider themselves forced, and, unlike become addicted to heroin, for many years suffer from intellectual and physical tortures.
We always say that fast death — is better slow therefore do not envy the poor smoker.
He deserves your compassion.
44.
HELP to MAKE council non-smoking SO THAT YOUR FRIENDS And RELATIVES SMOKERS READ THIS BOOK At first study book contents and try to put yourself to the place of the smoker.
Do not force it to read violently the book and, especially, to leave off smoking, telling it that it affects the health or throws out money to burn.
He knows it better you.
Smokers smoke not because derive from it pleasure or because want to smoke.
They only tell it to themselves and others to keep self-esteem.
They smoke because feel dependent on cigarettes, and consider that cigarettes allow them to relax, give courage and confidence to themselves.
They are afraid that without cigarettes the life never will be so pleasant any more.
If you try violently to force the smoker to leave off smoking, he will feel the animal driven into a trap and will even more want to smoke a cigarette.
It can turn it into the secret smoker, and the cigarette in his representation will become even more valuable (see Chapter 26).
Try to come better on the other hand.
Bring it into the company of the former smokers.
Ask them to tell this smoker as they were sure that they became dependent on smoking forever and their life when they ceased to smoke became how better.
As soon as you force it to believe in that, as he can leave off smoking, his consciousness will begin to clear up.
Then begin to sort the delusions created by disaccustoming torments.
You remember:
cigarettes not only do not give support, but undermine self-confidence and make the person irritable and intense.
Now it has to be ready to reading the book independently.
He will expect that it should read a set of pages about lung cancer, heart diseases and so on.
Explain that in this book the different approach is applied absolutely and that references to diseases make only a little bit of material.
HELP THE EX-SMOKER DURING THE DISACCUSTOMING PERIOD!
No matter, the ex-smoker suffers or not:
consider that he suffers.
Do not try to minimize his sufferings, reporting that it is easy to leave off smoking;
he also is able to do it.
Instead constantly you say to him as you are proud of it, it became how better to look, how more pleasantly it smells, its breath became how easier.
It is very important to do it constantly.
When the smoker makes an attempt to leave off smoking, he is helped by euphoria of attempt and attention which he receives from friends and colleagues.
However usually they quickly forget about it therefore continue to praise it.
As he does not speak about smoking, you can decide that he forgot about it and to be afraid to remind him.
So work only when using a method of will power.
Be not afraid to bring up this subject and continue to praise it:
he will tell you if he does not want that reminded him of smoking.
Very much try to weaken its loadings during the disaccustoming period.
Try to think up ways to make his life interesting and pleasant.
This time — the difficult period and for non-smoking.
If one member of the group is angry, it can result in the general despondency.
Try to warn similar situations.
Your ward can splash out the irritation and on you, but do not answer it with the same:
right now it most of all needs your praise and sympathies.
If the irritation is felt by you, try not to show it.
When I tried to leave off smoking by means of a will power method, I resorted to different slyness:
for example, dared to fall into violent irritation, hoping that my wife or friends will tell:
"I cannot watch more how you suffer.
For God's sake, begin to smoke a cigarette".
In this case the conscience at the smoker is pure:
he does not "give up" at all — ordered him.
If the ex-smoker resorts to similar cunning, do not encourage his smoking at all.
Tell him:
"If it — to what you were brought by cigarettes, praise to heaven that you soon will become free.
As it is wonderful that you have a courage and mind to leave off smoking".
Conclusion:
help to put an end to this shame In my opinion, smoking — the biggest shame of our society, even bigger, than nuclear weapon.
The base of a civilization, the reason for which the human look so far progressed in the development is that we are capable to impart our knowledge and experience not only each other, but also to future generations.
Even the lowest animal species need to warn the posterity about vital traps.
It is considered that if nuclear weapon does not leave from under control — in the world there will be no problem left requiring the solution.
Apologists of arms race can continue to say smugly:
"Policy of nuclear control — pledge of the world".
If nuclear weapon is used once, it will solve both a problem of smoking and all other problems.
Award to politicians will be the fact that on the earth there will be no nobody left who could tell:
"You were not right".
(Interestingly, not therefore whether they support arms race?
).
However, in spite of the fact that I am an opponent of nuclear weapon, I cannot but recognize that similar decisions are made, at least, in senses and sincere belief that it will help mankind.
With smoking everything is differently.
Perhaps, during the last war the people sincerely believed that cigarettes give them courage and confidence in the forces.
Today all (including the authorities) know that this delusion.
However look at modern advertizing of cigarettes.
She does not claim that cigarettes bring relaxation or pleasure.
All statements which contain in it are connected only with quality of tobacco.
And what to you, actually, business to quality of poison?
The public hypocrisy in this question strikes!
As members of society, we protest against toxicomania and addiction to heroin.
In comparison with the nicotine use, these problems are only pimples on a body of society.
Depending on nicotine there were about 60% of the population, and most of them spent the most part of pocket money for cigarettes.
Tens of thousands of people ruin every year the lives because became addicted to smoking.
Smoking became the mass murderer in society, and at the same time the most large sums of the Ministry of Finance of Great Britain are made in it.
On misfortune of the addicts dependent on nicotine, it earns 8,000,000,000 pounds sterling annually, and it is authorized to industrial tobacco giants to spend 120,000,000 pounds sterling a year for advertizing of this poison.
The tobacco companies smartly make an inexpressive warning of harm of smoking for health, placing it on cigarette packs, and on television campaigns in which it is told about threat of cancer, fetid breath and amputation of legs, the government spends only pathetic babies.
After that the government finds moral justifications, stating:
"We warned you about danger.
It is your choice".
The smoker had at all no more opportunities to choose, than the addict who became addicted to heroin.
Smokers did not make the decision to become smokers;
they were enticed into an artful trap.
If smokers really had a choice, for the next day the teenagers beginning to smoke considering that they will be able to throw at any time when they want would only remain the only smokers.
Why there are double standards?
Why the narkomanygeroinshchik who are considered as criminals can register as addicts and to receive the corresponding medical treatment to get rid of the dependence?
Try to register as the addict who became addicted to nicotine!
You have even no opportunity to buy cigarettes at prime cost.
You are forced to pay three times more them to actual cost, and every year the government does your life harder and harder.
As though the smoker has not enough problems as it is!
If you ask for the help the doctor, he will tell:
"Stop to smoke, or smoking will kill you".
But you also know it.
Or will write to you the prescription on nicotine addiction medicine which will contain that drug which you try to refuse!
Anti-nicotinic campaigns also do not help smokers to leave off smoking.
They only complicate refusal of smoking, intimidating smokers that forces them to want to smoke even more.
They do not stop even teenagers.
Teenagers know that cigarettes kill, however they understand that one cigarette will not kill them.
This habit is so widespread that the teenager, sooner or later, owing to the public pressure or curiosity, will try one cigarette.
And as its taste is so disgusting, he, most likely, will become addicted to smoking.
Why we allow that this scandalous situation proceeded?
Why our government will not perform with a special campaign?
Why it will not say that nicotine — drug and deadly poison that it will not reduce your stress and will not give you confidence, and will only loosen nerves?
Why will not report what make dependent on nicotine only one cigarette can?
I remember one episode from the novel "Time machine" by Herbert Wells where it is about events of the distant future.
The person falls to the river and begins to sink.
Its satellites crowd ashore as herd of rams, without paying any attention to desperate shouts.
This episode seemed to me absolutely brutal.
General apathy of our society concerning a problem of smoking is very similar to the described situation.
We allow to show on television in rush hours of a competition in darts for which the tobacco companies sponsor.
Shout sounds:
"Hundred eighty points", and then the camera shows how the player lights.
Imagine scandal if competitions were sponsored by mafia, the player would be an addict, and would show us later how it injects to itself(himself) heroin.
Why we allow society to bring healthy teenagers and youth whose life before they begin to smoke, is perfect, to that they paid a fantastic sum for doubtful privilege to ruin the physical and mental health, were in slave dependence on this poison and conducted the life filled with diseases?
Perhaps, you will tell that I too dramatize.
No, it not so.
My father lived because of smoking only up to fifty years.
He was a strong person and could live still.
I know that when to me was slightly for forty, I had close calls though most likely the reason of my death would call a cerebral hemorrhage, without having connected it with smoking in any way.
Now I advise the smokers deprived of working capacity or who are at the last stages of a disease.
If you think of it, perhaps you remember many such people too.
In society blew softly changes.
The snowball already began to grow, and I hope that by means of this book it will turn into an avalanche.
Now, when you read this book, you can help too, distributing this message.
FINAL WARNING Now you can enjoy life, being happy non-smoking.
To be sure of success, you need to follow simple instructions:
1.
You hold this book near at hand.
Do not lose it, do not give neither for a while, nor forever.
2.
If sometime you begin to envy other smoker, remember that he should envy you.
He suffers, but not you.
3.
Remember that you did not like to be a smoker therefore you also left off smoking.
Now you enjoy that you became non-smoking.
4.
Remember that the concept "only one cigarette" — does not exist.
5.
Under no circumstances do not call in question the decision never to smoke.
You know that this correct decision.
6.
If you meet any difficulties, re-read this book anew.